I find a lot of foreplay boring, am I weird?

I can't claim to be hugely experienced, but I've been with a few guys, and even if I want to sleep with them, I find the entire leading-up-to-it process tedious. I think my body just isn't sensitive enough. I get nothing from people kissing my neck, ears, breasts, and the only guy that pleased me with oral/fingering was very rough. I have big boobs, but it seems like guys ignore them in bed after a few kisses...even if they've been staring at them half the night! I've discovered that I like being bitten and nails dragged across my arm, and having my breasts firmly squeezed...I hardly feel anything otherwise. Is this weird? I know I prefer a dominant guy in bed, but even those who are a little rough spend so much time on other things, and I would feel rude telling them to stop. Plus, I feel awkward reciprocating with standard foreplay, since I feel like it does nothing. Would this weird other people out? Am I going to have to find BSDM guys or something to be satisfied?
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err, just for clarity, when I said only one guy pleased me through oral/fingering, I mean only one guy gave me satisfaction through it. Others *attempted* to please me that way, but they lacked skill or were too gentle.
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Most Helpful Girl

  • Every girl is different I don't think you're weird...just tell a guy you like it more rough and wild I don't think they would mind...and If you don't want to tell them how about you start showing them how you like it by doing it! Like bitting them and those types of stuff. A guy is more likely to do what you just did...Trust me they'll do it in a heartbeat!

    I also enjoy some rought action from time to time it gives the relationship a little spice...

    Good luck!

Most Helpful Guy

  • You mentioned the only guy that pleased you via oral. Sounds like some missing experiences there. Getting some good oral might change your mind and feelings towards it.

    The build-up to sex has to be passionate. But it doesn't have to include other body parts like ears and necks. But deep kissing is a good start in itself to lead to oral and other fun activities.

    • Erm, I should edit that for clarity. I've gotten oral sex from a handful of guys, but only one guy gave me satisfaction through it. With others, I either told them to top or or pretended to enjoy it because they kept talking about how much they loved it. I've been with guys where the sex itself was good and the kissing was passionate, but other things in between, I could give or take.

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  • lol me 2 I like to jump into f***ing