I had sex in a public place and the whole school found out!

[Anonymous]

Ok so I had sex in kinda of a public place and my whole school found out. These girls are spreading horrible lies about it because it was with one of the hottest guys in school. One of the girls is saying really mean things because she was in love with him. The bad part is, me and that guy and the "mean girl" are all in the same gym class. I don't think he knows that this girl is saying this stuff about me and him, during class should I obviously tell him what she has been saying right in front of her and have him deal with her?

[coltdiddy]

I'm more surprised by the answers by the answers than I am about the question. Guys, it's not her fault.

Guess what honey, in nature, you have what is called competition. This girl who wants to have sex with the guy you had is going to naturally abuse her power as a popular female of your high school and degrade your reputation by trying to make you look like a slut so that no other guys are going to want to sleep with you, and so no girls are going to back you up. Classic military maneuver called "divide and conquer". It's nothing new this has been going on for thousands of years and you are the next in line to feel the burn. But honey, what you did isn't wrong or degrading in anyway, and the sooner you realize this, the sooner the negative comments about those bitches will carry no weight and value.

The guy is obviously getting his ego stroked here, he told his friends that "Dude, guess what!, I just banged (your name here) in the back of my Land Cruiser! oh it was so awesome teeheehee" and that's how the rumor got spread.

Heres what I think you should do: In Gym Class, call them both together to the side for a talk. you tell the girl this: "Go ahead and spread the word that we had sex, I don't care, because it's obvious that he's more attracted to me than you, and by trying to ruin my reputation, you are only proving to yourself that I am hotter, more desirable, and I know how to work my game better than you to get any guy I want. I am a human and I have sex, get over it." then tell the guy. "And as for you, I'm glad to know your precious, fragile little male ego is getting stroked from all of this, because this only goes to show that you are an emotional wreck and you have to destroy my reputation in order for you to think your miserable existence means something because you had sex with me somewhere. Well guess what asshole, you're not the last guy I'm going to be sleeping with so it's nothing too special, you're not some Greek god so pull your head out of your ass and get over yourself, just because you're decent looking doesn't give you the right to spread your sexcapades all over campus."

Also, since girls know he blabs to his friends after sex, it just increased his chances of NOT getting laid again since I know from experience that girls find it very unattractive when you tell your friends about having sex with them.

Anyway, when you go to college you'll come to find out people do crazier shit then have sex in "somewhat" public places, so, you also need a reality check and get over yourself as well.

So, don't hesitate, and tell these 2 whats up. It's your life, are you going to be a part of it or just pitty yourself because of a few dumb kids?

[juice]

Well in life there is always going to be people talking their shit so don't let it get to you and as far as what has been said everything is just gossip and we all know the more people that pass it on the worst it sounds but I think you should tell this guy and then both of you think of a solution together because gossip can destroy a relationship then have him have a talk with that mean girl but that's what I think.

[Anonymous]

Yeah how did people find out who did you tell? If you told nobody he obviously did! And this happened me before and I let it get to me so much that I changed school which was a mistake you know what you do ignore the things even though its so hard to ignore them you done nothing wrong this is your life your body your choices if people want to talk about it let them talk because they always will talk that's what this world is like and don't be surprised when they make stuff up and add it to the story it happened me! And if they say your a slut ignore it because at the end of the day it only matters what you and the people you love and care for think not what these silly little immature girls are spreading around! And you should of known this would happen if he's the hottest guy in your school and it was public! And if he's your boyfriend tell him otherwise don't and I'm sure he's already heard this but just hadn't said anything to you! And don't be shocked either if it was this guy that told somebody!

[MCRmyPandaxX]

honestly if I were you I would beat the shit outta her

what you and ur boyfriend do isn't her business and she has no right to tell the whole school.

plus breaking her nose will make you feel much more better

: D

[samthan]

Thats real hard some girls can be real mean. with the guy was it a one nite stand or is he your bf. if he yours bf tell me what going on.

[archer86]

Welcome to Earth human. This is a wonderful planet full of harsh and evil beings that makes each others lives very bad. Go back to your ship and fly elsewhere, it's rough down here.

The first thing is that you should always be aware that if you do things openly, people will find out. It may have been a cool idea at the time but you must be aware of the possible reactions. If you are truly ok with it then it should not bother you.

As for the jealous woman, well, you will always have them. She's just mad that you got your man and she didn't. He chose you and not her. If somehow he dumps you and jumps her for a one-nighter, then he wasn't as great as either of you thought.

I remember a similar scenario with a classmate. She gave herself in the locker room with a guy and all hell broke loose. It will be tough to live with for you as nobody will leave you alone: the guys trying to get some out of you while the women act like you are a slut with their own false sense of purity(and I use the term loosely).

If you are close to graduation, I say ride this out, leave town as you probably intend to anyway with your future and forget about it. Unless you plan on a career in porn, try to be much more discreet with guys. And remember your friends always. They should be there for you.

[Jarett]

Well how did people find out? But that's what happens when you don't keep your sex life private. Not sure what you really expected. If you or someone is going to make your sex life public, then obviously people are going to say stuff.

[johnsmith2116]

I don't think you need to worry him. You can tell the girl that her attempts to make you miserable are going to fail, because you really like the guy, and you don't mind that anyone in the school knows that you have a good time with the guy you really like.

Hopefully that will take the wind out of her sails, and out of her big mouth. . She's probably just jealous of you anyway.

[Anonymous]

I don't know how you should handle this, but you sound like you're down for a good time, we should get together....