I hate sex! I lost my virginity and it's ruined my life.

[Anonymous]

There's not 1 thing about sex that I can say I liked, that makes me want to do it again. 1- the guy used me, so I got emotionally depressed and upset. I don't even go out with my friends anymore. 2- It hurt physically, really bad pain! No pleasure at all. 3- I feel so dirty like used goods, ready for the rubbish tip 4- condom broke, I'll never be able to trust them again. 5- I have a STD and I've only had sex once. 6- it's not nice going to multiple doctors and showing them your vagina that your self conscious of. So yeah I regret losing my virginity! I would stay a virgin for life if I could turn back time. Stupid peer pressure, I felt abnormal because I was a 20 year old virgin. But there's nothing good about sex, so all you virgins aren't missing out on anything..

[Purfectkitty08]

I'm sorry your first experience was so horrible but don't put every guy into that one guy's category ...yes it is unfortunate that this happened to you but you are basing opinion on a one time event.Sex is an amazing between two people, when you find someone you love and care about.

I'm sorry you got STD but go get it taken care of and move on.It's not the end of the world.

As for the condom breaking,it happens...never has to me but it does happen.

As for doctors: they don't care what it looks like..they're just there to do their job (which is make sure you're healthy down there)

In short: You can't write off something just because ONE experience was bad.Find a guy that cares about you and it will be 300x better.

Forget about the a**hole and move on.

I know it's hard since you feel used and dirty but you have to let this go and move on with your life.Don't let it ruin your life, just because your first time turning into a bad one night stand.

[abiecolegrove]

Why yall so mean..haha

Ok what happend to you I read it and sh*t and I feel really bad like always I do I don't know its not like my first time was near bad as YOURS but it was good.. but I'm really sorry about what you had to go through that d*** bag..and the sh*t and anger your going through. Please don't hate yourself because of it. Yes your right IT hurts the first time and ONLY for girls...but you gotta have more pride in yourself too. jus cause something bad happens doesn't mean you can't do it again. Sex is good trust me just wait little bit longer . You will find a guy that will treat you like sh*t and I meant it in a GOOD WAY.

O ya make new friend those jerks..

for example lol little stupid. But next time you at the bar or sh*t, don't act like you need to please them. YOUR YOU ONE BODY TAKE CARE OF IT.

Drink some cranberry juicie NO sugar added

[ItsAllTheSame]

1 experience shouldn't effect your decision for the rest of your life. especially one GUY. you feel used and ashamed, as I did when I first started to be sexually active. as for the condom breaking, there are WAY more contraceptives then that. the STD.. I'm not sure how that happened if you were wearing protection, but it happens.. it sucks but you gotta deal. and women have to see a gyno no matter if theyre virgins or not, its a part of being a woman. more about the STD... If you get a sting in the park, will you never go in the park again? I'm not saying STD aren't more serious.. I'm jusut saying?

[Asker]

Well I already had low self esteem and depression before it happened and this just made things 100% worse. I know there are more contraceptives then condoms, I'm not even worried about pregnancy but condoms are the only way to protect against STDs. I may never get rid of my STD its not just one you can get rid of with a dose of antibiotics.

[ItsAllTheSame]

sometimes sh*tty things happen. that's a part of life. but it doesn't mean just pick up and give up. I know your experience sucked, I understand that but try not to make over reactions now because you just found out you have an STD.. you just need to take a deep breath and work on you. if a guy comes into your life, let it. my dad has herpees from cheating on my mother, she stayed with him.. my point is there's always someone out there who will look at you for the beautiful kind woman you are

[Quadrophonic84]

That's a really awful start. Get your STD taken care of obviously and forget about sex for a while then when you meet a guy you connect with emotionally, think about trying it again. Most women I know hated their first few times but ended up loving it like nothing else. There's always going to be jerks though - just be more selective about who gets into your life, and your body. A jerk won't wait around a month or two for it most likely but a nice guy will. I waited 4 months before taking my second girlfriend's virginity and after another month she wanted sex even more than I did.

[Asker]

Im trying to get rid of the STD but it's not that easy to treat and even if it does go away there is a chance it will come back or that it will never go away. I don't even talk to guys anymore so I doubt I'll be meeting one I can connect with emotionally. All I do is stay at home or go to work. I don't have a social life anymore. I'm so depressed.

[phil2]

wow you sound depressed, I hope you feel better

[Reggie1]

An emotionally traumatic experience like that will take some time to get over. You may not be able to consider the possibility of having a physical relationship for a long time, and even then it would be a slow process.

You may feel as though it's a bad thing to do, but at some point in the next decade you will find someone you can have some form of relationship other than a verbal one.

[alice520]

i am sorry to hear that ,may you come to these related site like "herpesanddating.net" for help, many stds people there .Just feel free to chat, share stories, make friends in your local area.You can find someone to talk or get help! the experienced more and know more

[phil2]

please update us. I mean, wow that sounds so bad. What a messed up way to screw your life over. :S

[noctum]

Im sorry to say this but you are being really childish and imature...So you picked up the wrong guy and he used ya, so you didn't liked your first time.. guess what for what I know happens a lot and if the other woman can deal with it so can you.. Next time make sure its a guy that really likes ya.. About going to the doctor .. your reaction is stupid.. ginocologists exist to make sure everything is alright down there and to cure ya from ya STD not to say how beautifull is your vagina..

Sex is one of the ebst things in life and if you grow up and acept things as they are ull start loving sex as must people do..

Good Luck

[Asker]

I already had low self esteem before this happened, so it's just made me feel like a piece of sh*t. I am trying to deal with it but it's not easy, I wouldn't even care if I didn't get an std. Just try to forget and move on. But I can't just forget! I might have this std for life! there isn't a cure for it. I don't think sex is the best thing in life, I think it's the worst.

[Mesonfielde]

What STD is it exactly?

[Asker]

HPV. It's not nice to have warts down below :( I know I'm over reacting but I feel so disgusting, every time I look down below I'm reminded of the night I lost my virginity. I am treating them and they go away but they just come back again :( even if the warts go away I will still have the HPV virus forever and they can return at anytime. No one's ever going to want me like this, not that I want to have sex again. Its just depressing to be alone, I'll end up being one of those old cat ladies.

[DaveMicharl69]

A guy who truly loves you will make the experiene wonderful enough to push those bad memories aside. I hope that happens, & I'm truly sorry some inconsiderate a**hole did this to you!

[DaveMicharl69]

I read your update N I don't blame you, but not all guys are like that. I'm 42, never had actual intercourse, N only did everything but because my ex innitiated it N wanted to. If a girl wanted to date me N be celebate, I'd be fine with it. I'll only have sex if it's someone special N we BOTH want it EQUALLY to express our love for each other. Hope it gets better, sincerely...

[MtnDewMan]

your blaming your whole life going to crap because you had sex? its not that emotional, what's emotional is he used you and you got the STI. if you got HIV then yeah it ruined your life, but you seem like the kind of female that doesn't like sex and that's fine no one makes you have sex. don't have sex again if you don't want to, but one bad experience shouldn't ruin any chances of having a wonderful one later down the road.

and what if you meet a wonderful guy and your so scared about sex and reluctant and he wants kids and that causes you two to split? Sex shouldn't be feared if your with the right guy, the right guy won't ever pressure you, never EVER will he pressure you into it and he will go as slow as you want. you can't let one experience ruin your life, you have to get back up on your horse and keep going. just go steady with the right guy and next time it may not be as bad as you thought/remember

[Esisso]

1. YOU'RE SUPPOSED TO START WITH USING A TAMPON CAP, THEN MOVE UP TO ONE FINGER IN THEN TWO FINGERS THEN THE HEAD OF A PLUNGER OR A DILDO OR SOMETHING - JUST WORK YOUR WAY UP TO HANDLING BIGGER AND BIGGER THINGS UNTIL YOU CAN FIT A WHOLE 7.5 INCH LONG 2 INCH WIDE THING INSIDE.

2. DON'T HAVE SEX WITH A NEAR STRANGERS.

3. TALK TO YOUR PARTNER DURING IT. IF HE GOES TO DEEP, TELL HIM, IF YOU'RE NOT FULLY TURNED ON YET, TELL HIM.

4. CHOOSE A MEATHOD OF HORMONAL BIRTH CONTROL WITH YOUR DOCTOR AND IF YOU DON'T LIKE IT FIND ANOTHER HORMONAL BIRTH CONTROL (THERE'S THE PILL, THE ARM STICK, THE SHOT, THE HORMONAL CERVIX RING).

5. DON'T GIVE UP - YOU WILL ENJOY SEX WITH SOMEONE WHO TRUELY LOVES YOU AND WANTS TO REMAIN YOUR PARTNER FOREVER.

[Wildgirl07]

Wow that sounds terrible. The only real advice I can give you is this: forget this experience. Don't let it stop you from future relationships. Stop considering yourself a non-virgin. From now on if anyone asks you are a virgin. This way you'll be treatig it like it neer happened and it will be easier to move on with your life.

[CSandyCarrahlynn]

i think this is because 1) he probably ddnt do it right. 2) it hurts the 1st time you have sex.

[Asker]

No. It's not just because it hurt.

[Oromai]

Well it's terrible that you think that. My girlfriend and I lost our virginity together three months ago and I can tell you I gets a HELL of a lot better it took three or four times to get the hang of it for us. Later on I asked my girlfriend if after the first time we had sex if she thought it would get better. And she said no. But it did. I care about her very much and I think that if you have sex without emotional attachments both directions then its really not much better than masturbating. I'm sorry you had a bad first time but everyones first time is never as perfect as they want it to be, even if they have low expectations. It DOES get better. (I'm 18 btw)

[Anonymous]

Get back on the horse. Honestly, I know you might not believe it now, but it DOES get better (when you have a good lover). The first time is almost never pleasurable, but don't let that discourage you. As for the other problems, these things do happen. You just have to handle it and take more precautions next time.

[Anonymous]

I understand a little what you are going through with feeling used and dirty, but You need to accept what happened to you, learn from it and move on with your life. If you keep this anger and resentment bottled up it will make you bitter . You can't change what happened so the only way forward is to be stronger. The STD you say could come back, but look at natural remedies to boost your immune system this will help keep your immunity strong and fight the virus. Do exercise eat healthy - it could come back but only if you let it... you can do it. Also keep an open mind, don't hate sex, don't hate guys, otherwise you will grow an aversion to it and it will affect you in life.. you were young and rushed into it.. now you know.. people make silly mistakes they regret all the time.. you are not the only one. Its great you are bringing some attention to young minds who read this post, but the lesson should be peer pressure can ruin lives. Take care of yourself good luck.

[Anonymous]

Im really sorry for you that your first time was a mess! But your situation isn't that unusual. When I lost my virginity, I chose the wrong guy either...I felt used just the same way as you...but luckily I didn't gave up and totally enjoying it now. Maybe the first times hurts- but usually not...I think it is important to talk about sex with your partner before you have it. don't feel guilty- what happened to you unfortunately happens to a lot of girls. but good sex is too exciting to miss it :-)

[Anonymous]

I'm so sorry this happened to you. I know its scary and I know you are really hurt. But I don't think you should get discouraged over one experience. Once you get better (physically and emotionally) you may meet someone who really loves you. A lot of women say it hurts for their first time. It may have hurt for you more because the guy didn't care about YOU so he wasn't as careful and delicate as he should have been. About the STD, sh*t happens and you aren't alone. It can be somewhat managed. But if you ever do decide to have sex again make sure its with someone you really love and with someone who really loves you back. And next time, get him checked for STDs. And if he refuses to get checked, you know to drop him right then. I wish you the best of luck and I'm sure everything will turn out alright. :)