I have become an escort and my boyfriend couldn't cope?

I became an escort last year (long story) and my boyfriend of 5 years couldn't handle it and I eventually dumped him. Although I am now having fun (!) with my agent and enjoying the freedom being single brings, is escorting the type of job guys will not want their girlfriend to be in? And before I get slagged off for being a hooker etc etc I know what I am and what job I do, I just want people's thoughts on women in escorting and if any ever have stable relationships. Thanks, Ali x x
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  • My ex was an exotic dancer, I could handle that as it was just looking which I could deal with as she was faithfull to me, she had a great body and was proud of it and thus share it with other people. It was her choice in the end and I've always respected her for being so calm and relaxed being naked in front of so many people, she also had the moves which was fun to watch, it had benefits for me aswell ofcource =)

    An escort is something else however, I don't think I'd personally be alright with that. I like to say have fun at work in the morning and it just wouldn't seem right to do so in that situation. ^_^

    I actually had difficultys answering this question however as I have been in open relationships before and had no real issues with it, more or less as we had a good understanding on how we handled it but doing it professionally would be a step too far for me.

    I'm certain there would be men who can handle it, I'm just not one of them and I think that the large majority of guys wouldn't be OK with it. Sorry

  • It really depends on the guy, I think. And the culture you're in.

    There's quite a few conservative types on this site. No doubt the thought that a girl has been an escort, would freak them out. Americans as a rule, tend to be more prudish than Europeans, with the UK falling somewhere between the two.

    As far as I'm concerned, it's a job like any other. It wouldn't bother me. But I already suspect that my attitudes on sexual liberation are in the minority.

    If you were in France, for example, this would probably never have been an issue. If anything you'd be expected to have a network of clients who would be useful in business dealings. An escorts value being at least partially guided by the sort of introductions she can make, as well as what she can do in the sack.

    I don't know what it's like in the UK. Would you consider yourself well read on a variety of topics, able to go to a classy dinner and be a witty and entertaining guest? If so, you might consider branching out to some other European countries.

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  • Honestly depends on the guy. If your man is comfortable and confident in your relationship, he can handle it. Not all escorts have to be sexually active with clients.
    I have been with my boyfriend for four years, we have been through many financial bumps and want to relocate, but in order to do so we need to save up a good amount of cash and quick, escorting was the decision. I will not have sex with my clients. And it's only for a few months. Pay is great, and my boyfriend benefits too since the sexual Tension and buildup during work gets let out on him.
    Some men can't handle it, but if your man is sexually comfortable, than he won't have a problem. But as a couple we have always been sexually open together so this isn't too different.

  • I know things are different in europe, but here in the states I'd be reluctant to show my face on the internet with the word escort attached to it. That could easily attach you to unwanted secret police activity, and they are very greedy for money. Plus many people will know who you are while walking the streets when you're not working.

    Again, I know you're in europe and such things are more tolerate there, but I'm wondering if that's what is troubling your bf.

  • Hey could you give me Some vieuw on how The "escort World" is. I can use Some advice
    This was my question

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  • simple thing ask yourself this question if situation was reversed and you loved your boyfriend and he approached he was a male escort . and he'd be out till all hours of the night with hot

    rich women how would you respond. remember now your supposed to love this guy . would you want him involved in a job like that that would pull him or keep him away from you. also would you want him to dump you because you seemed to be to clingy(your not {and he wasn't he just cared about you}) puts the situation in a whole new light doesn't it. and please don't give me the line you wouldn't care

    • You won't always get hot/rich clients, I'm actually assuming you'd get hot clients less frequent over avg or worse looking clients, its not all fun & games.

  • At the end of the day, That sort of job is always going to bring insecurities, However if the guy loves you for who you are then it won't matter about what job you do.

    • Another question one should be asking is whether anyone managed to be an escort and remained in a GOOD long term relationship? By good I am refering to both being happy together. Personally, I can see how many problems could arise in the short term, but also in the long term. My experience has been that everything you do and everything your partner does will in some way contribute towards an inclining or declining relationship. After you have hugged your 6th client for another hour, do you feel you can give your boyfriend the extra attention he wants? Probably at that time you are looking for a different type of companionship. An imaginative scenario: boyfriend - Hey, baby! So glad to see you! Did you have a great day? *bf extatically wants to show his affection and runs up to hug and kiss her with flowers in his hands* girlfriend - Yew! get away from me! not so much hugging and kissing, please I had enough already. Hey, yougot me flowers thats nice. Oh, Tom got me the same ones. A good relationship

  • If I found out a woman had ever been an escort, at any point in her life, I would not have anything to do with her.

  • Not sure if they have stable relationships often. I suppose it's possible in two main situations I can think of. 1) If the guy is really not bothered by it then he can look past it. And 2) If he wants you as a trophy, and stays with you for a long time because of that.

    It's possible to have a stable relationship but in sure you realize that it's going to be a lot harder because of what you do. I suppose it depends on your preferences. You said you enjoy being single so having a relationship probably isn't on your mind right now.

  • Most girls I know in the business don't date civilians for exactly that reason. The get the image of you and some other guy in their head and they absolutely cannot deal.

    There's no fixing this and no making it better--this will a deal breaker for a LOT of guys. The best you can do is be a wonderful first and second date, drop the bomb, and pick from the guys who don't bolt.

  • Complete deal breaker, I wouldn't even casually date an escort

  • alilouise, I have been in a relationship where I found out my girlfriend was in escorting behind my back. She was not upfront about it with me in anyway and lied about what her job really was. I don't know if this was the issue for you when you where with your ex but not being up front really hurt me. Also escort services have a legitimate side and un-legitimate side to the business. Not sure what services you provide to your clients but my girlfriend decided to go very un-legit then come home to me every night. Our sex life suffered badly from it and I could easily tell something was wrong. We had a very healthy sex life and suddenly it became something she wasn't very interested in doing any more and even made her feel sex.

    So it comes down to me the guy... what do I have against it?
    I'm old fashion about relationships where your my woman and I'm your man.
    Showing affection towards another individual is cheating, and NO job title can change that.
    You stated your having fun with this job which suggests its not just about the job its about the trill.

    alilouise, like my ex, your the one not ready for a relationship.
    Have your fun, make money off suckers that can't get a woman any other way and when you do settle down? don't tell anyone about your past lol... if you do, break it to them carefully. Anyone with a level head with analyze what you've just told them and appreciate that you decided to be open about your past with them.

  • I would run very very far away. From my experience, girls who pimp themselves out as escorts all have a screwed up view of sex and love. Relationships end up being a total nightmare. Best to just stay away from relationships. As a friend its ok but I would never again get involved with a girl who was an escort/dancer

  • I actually think it's interesting. I want to become one. If people call you a whore they should f*** themselves.

  • I've known many escorts in my time, and many of them had boyfriends, but what I observed was the girls didn't want to have sex with their boyfriends after working all day/night... they just wanted them to be there to validate them as a person and not a piece of meat, and quite frankly, I would not stay with a girl who slept with everyone BUT me. I'd just as soon be a customer. sorry Ali.

  • Personally I would bail also, but that could be cause I'm a prude