I have a crush on a girl. But I'm straight!

Okay, here's the problem.. I'm sixteen and up to now I've always considered myself to be straight. I've never had any interest in girls before, I've always liked guys but recently I've met a girl and I have a major crush on her! I can't talk to my friends about because there like extremely homophobic and would like disown me. What do I do :(
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  • You need to figure out why it is that you have a crush on this girl. Are you attracted to her personality? Sometimes, when you are intellectually stimulated by a person, you can have strong feelings for them, but that doesn't necessarily mean that you "want" that person. I've met several pairs of best friends that just genuinely love being together. They enjoy physical contact such as hugging or holding hands, but it's in a friendly loving manner and not a sexual or lustful manner.

    Are you physically attracted to her? If so, that's still normal. Women are different from men in that we are able to appreciate another woman's body without being attracted to her. You'll constantly hear women complimenting each other i.e. "Great boobs/ass/legs." That doesn't mean that that woman wants to enter into a relationship with the woman she is complimenting.

    Have you found yourself having sexual thoughts about this girl? This is where you might consider yourself bi-curious. It's not uncommon, but it might be new to you. If you're having these thoughts, do you feel the need to act on them? In that case, you might want to reconsider your sexuality. My best friend dated men for years and never found any women sexually stimulating...until she met her current girlfriend. She was never attracted until she met that one woman, and it changed everything.

    Don't let your friends discourage you. If you honestly want to follow through on your feelings, your friends should not judge you; however, they might have a hard time working through a change as large as this. This is your life, and you should choose to live it based on what makes you happy.

  • Is she a lesbian?or perhaps bisexual ?

    what I would do honestly if I were in your shoes, I wouldn't talk about this with anyone because you could be just bi curious but they wouldn't actually believe you if they find out so keep it to yourself.

    The other thing that I would do is be friends with her, become close to her...if my feelings get greater then I will act on it... if it goes away then perhaps I was just curious and get over it!

    eitherway you are bi curious, don't freak out and don't give it too much attention unless you grow feelings for her.

  • Well honey, then you're not straight.

    The whole purpose of being "straight" is to be attracted to men and only men.

    However in your case, you are attracted to a particular female.

    I consider you bi-curious.

    If you do pursue this girl and you happen to like the experience

    then you are bi-sexual.

    There is nothing wrong with that, live your life the way you want.

    Don't ever be afraid to explore your sexuality.

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  • Then don't talk about it with your friends! Your friends do not need to know everything. And it is for sure not up to them to either approve or disapprove.

    It is natural that you feel somewhat confused and uncertain about your new found feelings, but that is ok.

    She may or may not be the best thing that ever happened to you, but if you don't push yourself to discover if there's more, then you will never know. But don't wait. Forge the iron when it's hot so to say. Who knows what in store for you? It's all part of life.

    The worst life is a life not lived. It's all yours.

  • Officerguy below has give you the best input I can think of.

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  • I have a crush on a girl too but I don't act on it. I have told her that she is my girl crush and she doesn't seem to mind it.

    It's probably one of the reasons I am attracted to her. We are a lot alike, it's weird.

  • If you are both hot. Then go for it.

    Nobody has a problem with hot lesbians !