I'm heartbroken because the guy I had a huge crush on rejected me for my boob size :(

There's this guy I really liked. I was friends with him and then tried getting someone who is both our friends to talk to Him and see if he likes me. I found out tht he thought I was cool and all but that he would never date me because my boobs are small. I'm a 34-36A. I am so heartbroken because I really really liked him. How do I get over this? And what about other guys? Truthfully, deep down, are most guys like this?
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  • No, most guys aren't like that. Yes, SOME are, maybe up to 20% at your age (because they are so immature), and dropping to 5% after college, when they've grown up some.

    But look at it this way: this guy did you a favor by at least admitting his "standards" up-front. It's even worse if a guy actually starts to date you, and only after you've REALLY developed feelings for him, and maybe even slept with him, does he admit something like that.

    He's an a-hole, and you notice that none of the guys here approve.

    Also, understand that girls do this kind of thing to guys all the time. "He's too fat/too short/too ugly/not cool/dresses weird/too skinny/etc." and "I only like tall, blond, blue-eyed guys." or "I only like guys with a six-pack and big arms" and it's just as hurtful to guys. But you ARE allowed to have preferences and standards, and so is everyone else. And many, many guys won't meet your standards, and so you have to accept that there will be some guys whose standards you won't meet either. And that's their loss.

    Trust me here: there are a TON of guys in the world who are and will be interested in you. Guys who will love your boobs just like they are and wouldn't want you to change them even if you could. Don't let this ONE GUY make you feel bad about yourself, or make you give up on all guys. And remember how this feels the next time you reject a guy, and try not to hurt his feelings, because you now understand how bad that feels.

  • Well, men and women have their preferences. Some guys would never go with a girl that wasn't thin, or didn't have a nice @ss, or didn't have at least a C-cup, etc. The same way some girls wouldn't go for a guy unless he was 6'0" tall, or was in really good shape, or had a very attractive face, or made six figures a year, or drove a nice car, or had a nice house, etc. Doesn't mean he's an a**hole, or that she's a b*tch, etc. Just means you don't satisfy their preferences. It also means that since you don't, you would be wasting your time.

    It's not the end of the world. Rather than beat yourself over it, just know that the general population is one big bell curve, and as bad as you feel for not being at the very end of that curve, is as good as you should feel for not being at the very beginning of that curve. That means, somewhere out there, there's someone who prefers exactly the kind of person you are. In fact, there are a lot of those people. The only question is which ones you also prefer.

    Personally, I'm not a boob guy. I always thought girls with big boobs are more likely to get fat as they get older in life, and gravity will take it's not-so-lovely toll on those boobs in time as well. I'm pretty sure most guys are on board with that.

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  • f*** him. he's just one guy and that's his opinion. opinions are like a**holes and everyones got one. next week a girl could reject him for certain features. I totally undestand how you feel but his opinion shouldn't crush you. don't give this guy more worth than he really has (which is not more than you!). women with small breasts get pursued, dated and married every day. some guys like it and some guys dont. this one didn't and that's OK because there will be plenty more who will.

  • Honey; you are better off without a guy like that. If that is how he judges a women's worth, he will get a big breasted bitch that will take him to the cleaners and he deserves it.

  • no he's an immature a**hole if a guy really likes you he wouldn't say that. I'm sorry. that must hurt but don't get yourself down.

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  • Wow, no offense but he's not worth your time. Why would you want to be with someone who is so shallow and only cares about physical appearance?

  • I think unfortunately there are going to be some guys who will think that is too small and pass. But my guess is that the vast majority of guys would look at the rest you have and not care so much. I know personally I can easily get past small boobs. Face and overall fitness are more important to me.

  • First of all that is extremely shallow. Second, he most likely didn't like you to begin with. Everyone has different tastes, etc. Find someone who enjoys you for you. Lastly, most guys are absolutely not like that. If someone you're far better off meeting someone who is attracted to you as you are.

  • Do you feel insecure about them at all? if not I wouldn't worry about it. If he was shallow enough to not give you a try because of one small imperfection, he wasn't worth your beautiful time.

  • Ouch. That's a d*** move. I know guys that pick and choose based on assets, but they tend not to be interested in anything personal or long term with a girl.

  • boob size doesn't matter, if he likes you he likes you not your boobs but sadly to say most guys are like that. he's just immature at this stage in his life but girls do mature faster than guys so whatever.. and to get over it just do you and find another guy you have feelings for, you'd be surprised who has a crush on you.

  • that's pretty rude and shallow..

    and no, not every guy is like that, every

    person has different preferences, some will

    be shallow and others won't

    some girls will reject guys because they

    don't fit in their own "perfect picture"

    how to get over it? it differs from person to person

    how easy that is, try to focus on one of your hobbies

    or work, try to get your mind off him however you can..

  • Are most guys like what?

    Focused that heavily on breast size? No. Most guys prefer larger (though a significant minority - especially when you get older - prefer smaller). However most guys don't care that much. It's kind if like I'd I asked if you'd prefer your future husband to earn 200k or one million a year you might choose a million - but it's not actually what you even think about when choosing a guy.

    Would most guys reject someone based on physical features? Yes. So would most girls. It doesn't make them bad people. This guy happened to be really into big breasts. That makes him the wrong guy for you. Are you petite overall? A lot of guys are not only okay with it - it's their favorite (though it's less of an advantage in your mid teens).

  • at your age, yes, most guys are immature, but don't worry about it, you don't want a guy like that anyway.

  • I am very sorry to hear that...but the fact of the matter is...there are a lot of shallow people running around loose out there who will dump someone over one small physical trait...there is no trait that someone won't like...blonde hair, brunette hair, big butt, small but and yes...some guys would not date females with big breasts...it is his loss and you will find someone better who likes you (and your breasts) exactly the way they are...(:

  • awwww :(

  • ...Boob size doesn't matter at all. You should probably just be glad you didn't waste any more time on him.

  • What an absolute jerk! Next time you see him give him the finger!

  • Wow this made me lose all hope in guys :/

    But thos is very immature of him and you should move on and find another guy. He's such an a**hole...

  • no not all guys are like that he is just a f***head big boobs can b nice bu dar nt everyting

  • He doesn't deserve you find a guy who likes you for you not your boob size

  • I think he is not like you.if he likes you ,he wasn't care about your boobs.

  • find a btter guy id say

  • He was honest.

    Yes, most of guys are like that.

    Just not always they are open about it.

    Afraid how girls will react, they think it's tactless.

    We can't help it. We like girls who actually look like girls.

    What's the point of lying to everyone, and even worse, to yourself?

    You're under 18. Maybe they'll continue to grow. Get a birth control or gain weight.

    Or just get a boob-job.

  • Meh. Young guys don't know what's good for them. In a couple years t*ts won't matter to the guys you like. Unless you still like a**holes.

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