I like rough sex and my boyfriend doesn't, what to do?

I like rought sex.. would like to be dominated. I told him I want try this but he was like he doesn't really get a thrill from dominating me:( he told he likes it sensually. But I am bored with this and not happy, I think I prefer rough sex much more.. I want him to pull my hair, choke me ,spank,., and treat very rough - he told it has anything to do with love:( how can I convince him?
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  • you can always tell him you won't have sex with him unless you have it your way. Tell him being in a relationship means compromising with one another and that includes sexual desires. If he is not willing to give you what you want, why should you? I had to do this with my boyfriend. It took him 2 weeks to brake and agree to what I want. It was awkward at first but then he got better at it and now he likes being aggressive sometimes. Some times the submissive needs to train the Dom to get what he/she wants.

    Also you should take it slow. don't just start having rough sex all the time, you have to ease into it, otherwise he will get sick of it. It will take time but if you love him and he loves you, then it's worth it.

Most Helpful Guys

  • Being sexually dominant is something that SOME guys can learn, but that a lot of guys simply don't have in them. If he's the latter type, then there's really nothing you can do to change this, and you're either going to have to accept him as he is, or break up with him and look for someone who is more compatible with your needs.

    Sexual compatibility should not be overlooked; it's just as important as being compatible in other ways (religion, family values, future goals, etc.). It's also why it's good to have a number of relationships when you are young, so that you can figure YOURSELF out, and learn what you need in a relationship, so that you can then seek out a compatible partner.

  • Wow you sound like my kinda girl. Those are the things I like to do to. but my girl doesn't want to do them at all either. she just always wants to 'make love'.

    • Hey thanks for best answer! message me sometime.

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  • you need to tell him that you like it certain ways and if those ways can't be fullfilled then you don't know how much longer you can take it...

    it sounds bitchy and mean, but if you look at studies a lot of the times divorses happen is for this reason...people NEED to be sexual..dont get me wrong I'm not saying ALL divorses end this way, but a MAJORITY of them, that will be a PART of the reason...

    we need to be fullfilled in ways we desire...he needs to man up, hell I love when girls tell me how they like it...it just gets me going

  • The best way to solve this is to communicate, and compromise. I think it's best to alternate. One night you do it rough, next time you do it sensually. You both will be getting what you want half the time, and during the other half, you should be happy that you are making your partner happy. Know what I mean? When you do it rough, you are happy because you like it rough, and he should be happy for making you have a good time... and vise verso. Try that.

  • eh trust me, if you aren't sexually compatible, it'll end badly

  • Dump him and learn that valuable lesson - you need to be sexually compatible with your partner, if you're going to be happy.

  • If I figure out how to convince my partner I'll let you know.