Sex is just as much mental as physical. Not knowing you or your boyfriend I have guess at a solution. First, what goes through your mind while masturbating? You find pleasure in massaging your clit so when having sex have your boyfriend massage your clit with a wet finger or two while his cock is inside you. When his cock is nice and wet have him pull it out and, while holding onto its shaft, gently massage your clit. Then put it back in your vagina and have him stimulate your clit with a wet finger or two.
You know your body better than anyone so if necessary you take hold of his cock and show him how you like to have your clit massaged with his cock head. He will most likely find this new addition to your sex life fun and exciting. I have seen this work many times and am confident the both of you will love the results :)
When you are fingering yourself, you are rubbing your clit? If so that is the difference.
If you can cum form masturbation (without) clitoral stimulation, then you just need to find out how you need him to move and where to concentrate the friction/pressure.
Are you sure it went in all the way? My first time I swore we did it... cause I felt it like in there but it wasn't good, wasn't bad.. I was talking to my friends and they were like you did it wrong. I counted it, then a year later I had sex thinking I had done it before... nope-lol. It wasn't so much painful during as it was after and I bled like a banchee. One day we and my ex and I were talking and yeah... he didn't even get it in, he counted because I did and he didn't want to embarress me-lol. I was just super inexpereinced.
You could have ripped your hymen when you were younger while playing sports or during other activities, even if you used tampons. That's why you didn't bleed. It's also normal to not have an orgasm through vaginal sex and especially the first time you have sex. Some women never experience orgasm without stimulation to the clitoris. And the feeling that he is in your stomach is probably because you're experiencing sex for the first time haha :-).
Try oral sex, it's much better and you can't get pregnant that way either. Your clitoris is where all the action is. Have him lick your clit with his tongue. Much better than fingering! :)
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you need to fine the right position that suites you
Maybe you were just not used to the feeling.
Maybe you were expecting too much of the physical aspect of sex that you didn't consider the spiritual part of it.
My wife told me the same thing for our first time it might be the touching part the turn on. He touches kisses and then penetrate or maybe you guys just like each other but not really love each other. Spend more time in bed and you will get to the point were you do stuff to each other's body and just start feeling addicted to each other and really telling each other I love you when he's inside of you or eating your pussy? Try it give it a little time
Penetration alone often isn't foing it. (Btw not feeling pain and no bleeding is good.)
maybe his dick was too small
You were probably too nervous
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