Girls, I lost my virginity without protection and im terrified! please help?

[Anonymous]

Im 15 years old and i come from a really strict family but for some reason i did the dumbest thing you could imagine. I lost my virginity to my 14 yr old boyfriend. He isn't that big and when he got hard he put it inside me but when he did i didn't bleed. Im not sure if its because he wasn't big enough but it did hurt. After like 5-7 thrusts it hurt so i told him to stop and we didn't get to finish. The thing is we didn't use protection either and I've been lightly bleeding but I've had stomach pain every once in a while and i can't tell if im pregnant because i have irregular periods and haven't bled for a while. Also i can't get a home test and i can't tell my parents because i know how they will react, there is no one to tell and i dont know what to do.. Please help

[Anonymous]

Hey, everyone makes mistakes, things happen. You're not an idiot, what you did was a little irresponsible yes but you aren't an idiot. My boyfriend and I had sex for the first time last year in October, we did use a condom but somehow it slipped so, things happen you know, I'm not one to judge and neither should anyone else because anyone who is sexually active HAS had a pregnant scare!! They're lying if they say they haven't lol. Anyways, it's normal to bleed and have stomach pains after sex. Although he didn't finish inside you, there is still pre-cum wnd does contain SOME sperm and that's why people fall pregnant using the pull out method! Altough, I think you should be ok. I also have very irregular periods that could be even a month late so I am ALWAYS freaking out too :/ I really think you should get a pregnancy test though.. I have anxiety so I always give my boyfriend money and make him go get one lol. Also, you can go to a local clinic or your doctor or something and they can do a test! It is confidential so your parents won't know

[Asker]

Thank you so much! It helps to know that there are people put there who can help just by the slightest.

[Opinion Owner]

No worries girl! I know EXACTLY what you are going through, I had the biggest pregnancy scare my first time as well. Feel free to message me if you want to talk :)

[Asker]

Did you use protection your first time? Im still scared because i know how my parents will react if they found out that i was pregnant. I've been doing some research and its been telling me I'm having regular symptoms when ladies loose their virginity and the thing is i dont think my boyfriend even pre came

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah we did but the condom slipped so🤷🏻‍♀️ I took plan b. I know, my parents would KILL me if I ever got pregnant!! Why do you think there was no pre-cum? There's no way to tell really. HE wouldn't even know because you don't even feel it coming out. It's not like when a guy normally cums and he feels pleasure, with pre-cum it just comes out whenever and you don't even feel it

[Asker]

Oh okay so thats why i could probably be pregnant? Oh and im starting to bleed more that normal?

[Jayyx]

It's going to hurt for a few days, that's perfectly normal. Don't stress yourself out about being pregnant, because the nerves and stress and worrying can delay your period even longer. Messed up, right!
If he pulled out you're fine, but girl please us protection next time!!!

[rachel99]

if he pulled out, i wouldn't be to worried. next time, wear protection. or better yet wait till you're older when you know enough about sex to take the right precautions before participating in it. just to be sure, id ask an older friend to get you a pregnancy test. good luck!

[meghann]

WHAT about next time don't be a slut? TBH jus saying

[AnxiousAlien]

If he didn't finish I wouldn't worry about it to much. It really shouldn't hurt, but bleeding and stomach pains are normal after sex. If you are still worried about getting pregnant I would let someone who can help you know. You could go get emergency contraception within the first 72 hours.

[Asker]

Thank you! But im starting to bleed more now is that still normal? And he didn't ever come inside me

[Buddypal641]

You're going to have to tell your parents, this is very serious girl. Do you have older siblings? Older sister? Anyone you're comfortable telling your situation too? You should ALWAYS use protection when you have sex. Yes it was dumb, but you have to be careful. You guys are way too young! Please keep me updated, I'm here if you need to talk to me.

[Asker]

I can't tell anyone.. ESPECIALLY my parents i have no older sibling that lives near by either.