I need help I have never heard of this fetish before!

My boyfriend says he has this strange fetish where he wants me to tell him that he has a small d***. I have never heard of this and he is not small. Guys can you tell me why he would want me to tell him this? The funny part is that he is bigger then anyone I've been with. I thought guys like to be told they are big not small?
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  • I'm not a sex counselor but I don't see any harm really. I've heard of it in certain role playing before. Your man wants you to belittle him and probably feel your dominant side while he submits himself to you. He probably got the idea from watching something on line, no less.This is in the same category of being spit on by women. I've never had a desire to have a woman tell me that one before but I have had women walk on me.

    It's the thrill of stepping out of your role as a powerful man and giving complete control to the weaker sex. Fetish behavior comes in many different forms and is safe as long as both parties are OK with it and no one is being harmed against their will. Traditionally, when it comes to submitting roles, there is a word agreed upon by both parties that means to really stop.

    Meanwhile when you are begging her to stop by using words such as "please stop" she continues to humiliate you and remind you that she's in charge and you are her slave and that you have no say so. It's pretty exciting. Of course, I do believe there is a fine line between fetish and disgusting.

    When it's over, we have great sex and wake up the next morning taking on our roles as the provider and protector of the family.

    You may do well to visit the relationship section of a popular bookstore. They have all kinds of books on this stuff.

    • Also, I'm not sure what is considered normal penal size. I have a tattoo on mine that says OK. When a woman get's me excited, it says Oklahoma. LOL Sorry, I couldn't resist!

    • This is a good answer. Thank you! I mean its not a deal breaker for me or anything just not something I have heard of but I will do it if that's what he wants me to do. It is something he saw online he was afraid to tell me that he watches girls making fun of small guys online. I don't get the joke?

  • Just as some girls enjoy sexual humiliation, being called a dirty slut or filthy wh0re, or "made" to do dirty sex acts, some guys enjoy being dominated and humiliated too. Female Domination (femdom) is a fairly common fetish, more in older guys though. As they gain power and responsibility, some guys want to give up their power and their decision-making responsibilities in the bedroom and be dominated, even humiliated, so that for a little while, they feel free of their daily burdens.

    This is a fetish, and a fetish is something that's NOT the norm, so the fact that most guys would hate this is the point: he's not the average guy in this area.

    • Ya he's not the average guy really in any area. Thank you!

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  • I'm aware of it. Its called 'small penis humiliation'. No idea how common it is.

    Why people like things is frankly a mystery, and something people come up with theories about, but we'll never know. But its not _that_ uncommon for people to enjoy being humiliated in a sexual way. For women, this more often includes being called names during sex, etc. Some people use certain acts in a degrading and humiliating way. And since for men, so much of their pride is based on size, its extremely humiliating to be told that their penis is too small.

    • This makes sence thanks!

  • this is the 2nd time I seen a question like this.

    maybe he want's to feel normal because he knows he's "too big" or he could be into humiliation which in it's self is a weird fetish.

  • It is SPH.

    Not uncommon at all really. He probably has some submission or cuckold fantasies as well...

    • Did you ever tell him that?

  • He is quite odd in that regard, I've heard of this before I think out is called humiliation usually more common in older mean for some reason... I think they like being dominated by their woman and a lot like to watch another guy screw their girl although I'm not to sure of your boyfriend Is one of them.

    If you don't mind then I guess that's his thing and probably will not change. So just go through with it guess but I don't think this is very common at all

    • Ya I can deal with it its not a big deal to me just strange and I wanted to know if it was something common.

  • Size matters I am 6 inches and have been dumped for being too small...not a fetish for me...its reality

    • Ya but he's not small so why would I be saying something that's not true?

    • Usually men like to joke about their size...maybe he is joking...lol...I know many guys who have said this before !

  • That Is Pretty Hott.

    But I'm strange I guess.

    • No its a little different but I can deal.

    • lol... I really like this answer!

  • Humiliation turns him on, and it is usually accompanied by femdom.

    • by what?

    • Femdom is female domination.

  • Theoretically, it could be part of a Dominance thing where he derives pleasure from being talked down to. On the other hand he might get more excited from actively showing you just how "not small" he really is. ;)

    • Ya the dominance thing may be true. Thank you!