I NEED to have sex. Being a virgin is ruining my life.

I hate it so much it makes me so sad all the time and I decided I want to get a boyfriend have sex and have a baby its the only thing that will make me happy or I thought about getting to adult films (although I have no idea how to) because I will have a lot of sex and maybe I'll be happier but I would much rather leave school and have a child
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  • Well okay without calling you crazy or mixed up or whatever (there are a lot of knee jerk reactions that I'm sure some people will take to this post), I will say that you have a lot to consider

    There is a pretty successful adult film star named Darryl Hanah (kind of like the mainstream Hollywood actress Daryl Hannah but misspelled) who has said that being in the adult industry has changed her life for the better

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jBWYnimypA0



    It made her feel more grounded as a person, as before she felt she had to live with the negative social stigma of finding open and adventurous sex (she is in a successful marriage, her husband is in the adult industry, and she and does not emotionally cheat, btw)

    Another actress Tori Black has stated that she thinks it's criminal that some women have never experienced an orgasm, as it is the greatest natural pleasure our bodies are engineered to experience. She didn't like that society keeps women's sexuality in check so she got into the adult industry to hopefully break that down

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BmLZRZXZ3ig



    I do believe that if your heart is there, wherever it may be, you can do things to help out with other people. I don't think that going into the adult industry is right for everybody simply because they may not be the people that they think they were and realize later that the emotions that come with it weren't what they were looking for. But I do believe it's possible to actually make a difference no matter where you are as long as your heart is in the right place.

    Not all people in the various entertainment industries that relate to looks (high fashion, commercial fashion, dance, porn, artistic photography, you name it...) are in it because it's an easy job that they just look right for so they just take the money and move with it. I do believe that there are people who are successful in those industries because they realize that looks and image (not just appearance, but image as a whole) is something important to society and that they want to help others relate to some image, just as an author would with his or her writing.

    But of course in the adult industry you will get brutal jobs that you do not want, or sometimes you will be forced to fill a contract with a really bad studio that will underpay you or work in bad conditions or whatever. It may reduce you to just a body to have sex with at times. You will be with men you are not attracted, looks or personality, and you'll have to fake it.

    At it's best it can be fulfilling, like anything else, if you are there 100%. But at it's worst it could be bad.

    (Umm I mean I am not an adult star or w/e but I did some looking into the personalities when I learned that a lot of people really love being adult stars)

    But seriously at this age really really think about the having a child part, that's a decision you can't reverse. And by "think about" I mean "don't do, JUST think about"

  • UMM... yeah... so maybe you should think this over. Go ahead and have sex. But please. Use contraceptives... Having a Kid out of emotional stress is never a good idea. It always ends in trouble. And is just not the way a child should be brought into this world.

    If your a virgin why would you want to have lots of sex? you don't even know if you'll like it. So I would say really think this over again...

    Possibly see a councelor and talk to them about this.

Most Helpful Girls

  • Don't do something stupid, because you'll regret it.

    I'm a VIRGIN TOO. I don't want to be either, but that doesn't mean I'm gonna go, get laid, get into adult films, for what, not to be one anymore. Firstly you must show yourself some respect and realize that there's so much more in life, besides sex. And about having a child, I don't even know how to start. You're 19.

    Think about what a child implies before you go and do something that, at this age, will probably ruin, not only your future, but also your child future. Every girl/woman wants a child, I actually want two, but I won't throw myself head-first into something like this. Not before I settle down and have an income that will allow me to raise children and offer them a chance in life.

    Just wait, you won't regret it. And after all you can find a sex-pal if you are determined to do it, but kids, later.

  • Ok, first of all. NO make sure you have it with someone you love. ITS so much better and passionate. No, you do not want a baby if you don't want a steady income. Do not throw away your life like a dumbass. I;m just saying, adult film, people just look at you like "slut". Seriously, I would never want a name like that. just be smart. set goals for yourself. be proactive, don't be another teen mom.

  • no no, don't think like that. That's bad way of thinking. You should cherish that part of you that is a women and share it with a man that deserve it lol. I know sometimes it feels like you are the only one who STILL haven't done it.. but really? Unless you are saying that you want/wish to settle down then I advise you not to push yourself tooooo far. Good luck.

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  • Having sex when you shouldn't will make you sad, but you get past it with a good cry. Having a child when you shouldn't takes a LOT more time and effort to get right.

    Having a child doesn't make you happy, it makes you a parent. There are lots of miserable parents out there, making their kids miserable.

    Avoid mistakes you can't unmake.

  • Then it might all turn to sh*t and then you will end up a single mother and have no way to support you child sure you can lose you vaginity and have a kid but think about what you really want to do and find a way to have the best of both worlds

  • Why are you so determined to have sex? I think the reason you are so sad is because you made sex a priority in your life. Focus on school and your career, and "the guy" WILL come along. Then after your settled start discussing having a child with your partner. The key is to be patient and focus on what is important in life, but not immediate gratification such as sex. I wish to be more of help to you. If you want to talk more and I won't judge you at all. I hope for the best for you!

  • why do you feel like its ruining your life?