I Only Like Older Men. What's Wrong With Me?

For some reason, I can't seem to experience he same attraction to guys my age as I can with older men. And to clarify, I'm not some 13 year-old talking about schoolgirl crushes on cute 20-somethings. I am a college girl, with plenty of hot guys my age available (not to sound conceited, just to clarify that I am far from desperate), yet all the men I've felt serious emotional and sexual attraction to have ranged from their mid-forties to even one man who was even in his early sixties. I have never pursued a relationship with any of these men, but sometimes I get so frustrated I think I should. It's not that I feel any special attraction to them distinct from the feeling I get with younger guys per se, it's just that the feelings are about 1000x as intense! What the hell is wrong with me?!?
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Also...I have a perfectly normal relationship with my father and the men I am attracted to have generally "aged well", so to speak.
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Well...it's just considered socially unacceptable. More importantly, it would be unacceptable to my family and friends. And I am fully aware that these men are at different stage in their life than I am, so I feel foolish. =/
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  • To start with there is nothing wrong with you. It's your preference to be drawn to older men. It doesn't mean you have any type of issues. In addition there may be a maturity level in the older men that you seek and need to have that emotional connection with. Similiar to dating or being sexually with a "man" and not a "boy" so to speak. You may have a higher level of maturity than what other women your age do and seek out older men because of that. Now, to the good part for you...there are older men who perfer younger women. I've been with many younger women and although you hear a lot about the relationships not lasting because of the age difference there have been several that I've had that were great relationships but ended on normal endings not age related. Is it actually socially unacceptable now? maybe, but society is beginning to accept interracial dating and gay dating more and more as they are older/younger relationships. So relax and don't stress so much over it. It's what makes you happy so allow yourself to experience it. ;) call me lol!

  • Nothing is wrong with you. You are attracted to older men. That is your preference. If others can't understand it too bad. Why should you pretend that you like something or don't like something because others will "disapprove".

    If you think you feel strange about liking older men, imagine how older men feel about only liking younger women. They catch sh*t for that all the time. "OMG, he's like 45 and his girlfriend is 19! She could be his daughter!" Yea, well it's not his daughter and if he likes 19 year old girls and she likes him, what's the big deal.

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  • I wonder why, when I mention my relationship with my boyfriend (who is 11 years older then me), a majority of the men can't see why he's in a relationship with me.

    I'm 19, just started college, I'm attractive (at least I think so =] ) but I always tend to go for older men as well. I have a perfectly fine relationship with my father, ect. ect. I'm just attracted to older men. I've never dated anyone my own age, and I prefer to keep it that way. The connection between younger guys and myself varies on the guy, but my attraction and connection to older guys was just so much more. I used to get overwhelmed at times just because I thought there was something wrong with me, but then I just realized I was being stupid. There's nothing wrong with having an attraction to someone so much older then myself, especially if that person makes me happy. Now I just see age as nothing but a number. Nothing's wrong with you, as there's nothing wrong with any woman who likes older men. =]

  • So you are attracted to older men! Sometimes you just have to say F**K what is considered socially unacceptable and just go where your heart wants to go.

    Who the hell knows what would happen if you ended up with a guy 40yrs your senior? NOBODY you included, but you would never know if you didn't at least give it a shot.

    Family tends to heal very quickly when a family member does something they at first consider very unacceptable. Can think of many family dilemma's much worse than a daughter being with a much older man.

  • It's just your preference, we can't help the things we like. Don't worry about what other people think and do what makes you happy. I'm kind of the opposite of you, I am not at all attracted to anyone older than me, and I MUCH prefer younger guys. I'm 24 and I would take an 18-year-old over a 30-year-old anyday. I'm not even remotely sexually attracted to older men, so I go for the younger guys that I prefer. It's just what I'm attracted to, so I act on it and people can think whatever they want.

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  • We like what we like, and there's usually no good reason. Even if there is, it usually isn't nearly as important as getting what we want and enjoying it.

    P.S.: Living miserably with a sex life you don't want is socially acceptable. A paranoia over sex and desire is also socially acceptable.

    I don't put much stock in social acceptability.

  • I am an older professional guy..34.. I like dating girls primarily in the 18-22 range because a lot of girls my age have hang ups and emotional baggage at this point. I can bring stability and maturity to a relationship that guys their age cannot..and can take the to do things ..nicer seats at concert..better restraunts..travel to the ritz out of the country that guys their age cannot

  • I hear you on this one, I have always been attracted to older men for as long as I can remember and now I'm with a guy twice my age. My friends and family did not accept it at first but they came to realize that he wasn't going away! For as long as I can remember I have had more of an attraction to older men. Yes I never really did have that fatherly figure in my life and that could be part of it, who knows? All I know is that he is happy and I am happy and I guess that's all that maters. It's not necessarily a bad thing you will get asked more than once if your his daughter though x)

  • maybe youve had some past issues with male figures in your life?

    now you feel the need to have a lover who is much older and like a father figure. whatever though, I sure you'll make some geezer really happy.

  • There's nothing wrong with you. It's just the way you are.


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  • As a man in his mid 40's who's aged pretty well, I have to ask why you think there must be something wrong with you. You sound perfect to me. :)