I'm not physically attracted to my girlfriend anymore?

I don't want to come off as shallow because I do still love my girlfriend for her personality and everything except physically. She has gotten a tattoo and it doesn't feel right anymore when she wants to get close physically. No desire to sleep in the same bed, see her naked, have sex with her, or even hold hands. What should I do? Is it worth staying in the relationship?
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I shouldn't have to explain to those commenting what my views on tattoos are. I am not religious but I put a great deal of emotion and respect into my body. My girlfriend is just an extension of my own body as is mine an extension of hers. Defacing the beautiful work of art that is the human body with body modifications is like "graffiti" on the Mona Lisa to me. You and I do not need to agree on the role tattoos have in getting physically close to someone. Just answer the title.
+1 y
It is her entire right side. We have been together for 8 months and I am the one that doesn't feel physically attracted anymore.
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  • Don't feel shallow. My friend thought the same way after almost a year in a relationship. She loved him but just needed more of a physical attraction between her partner. She just flat out told him and he understood. But in your case with a girl I would not just come out and say it because most girls are insecure to begin with. It is not worth staying in the relationship. I think if you have come to the point to ask that its no longer suitable for you. With your update of her side. She needs to realize that in a relationship there are two sides. and if one side doesn't agree then there is no point in the other. You have feelings too and if she doesn't not obey you feelings its over. She need to understand that you have your needs and they are not being met in your current situation. I really hope that you work this out. I hope that she can come to the understanding that your feelings need to be respected. But mostly I hope you get what you want. It is the most important thing-ever. You are in control of your life and you need to look out for yourself the most. No that you don't care what happens to her, not that you don't care about her feeling or her needs, but you obviously are not completely happy in the situation and you should fix that. Good Luck! :)

  • Love is complicated. But when you love someone, there is never doubt or uncertainty. If you are not physically attracted to her it could have deeper meaning then just the tattoo itself. When you love someone, you are usually connected on both a physical and emotional level. You are also 18-24 years of age... This should say something... No one at this age would be holding themselves back from physical attraction... Ha! Ultimately it's up to you, but my advice is that you really need to self-evaluate. Why are you in the relationship in the first place? Are you happy with her? You cannot stay with someone if you are not physically attracted to them.. Your partner will not tolerate it after a while. I'd say move on to someone who you can actually get horny around!;)

  • You aren't physically attracted because she got a tattoo? Or is it more than that?

    • Oh, yeah give us and -Darling a thumbs down because we're asking a question. :p Just break up with her. If you aren't physically attracted it won't work in the long run.

    • Awww you be cute for defending me also :-D

    • Honestly I didn't do the thumbs down. I'm not that immature. You are stating your opinions and I asked for that.

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Most Helpful Guys

  • Need details on the tattoo. If it's just like a speck on her ankle or something, then you're probably overreacting. If it's a tramp stamp or some whole back tattoo or something tacky like that, I can see where you're coming from.

    Lot of guys really hate tattoos (I am one of them.)

  • If you're not physically attracted to her, you should end it. If it's to the point where you can't be affectionate then what are you in it for? You could try some form of council-ling, I suppose.

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  • If you aren't physically attracted to her anymore, don't stay in the relationship. It's better for her and for you. You both can go find people you're actually compatible with.

  • seriously I have a tattoo and 4 piercings. my guys hates tattoos and piercings but he's crazy attracted to me regardless. you are a f***ing idiot to change because of a tattoo. she can do better and move on. trust me its no lost to her by losing you

  • save her the heartache and just break up with her

  • I would break up if you are not feeling the spark anymore. I feel that physical attraction is a key component in a relationship because it is what first draws people together. If the connection is lost, it is very hard to get back. If you can see yourself being happier with someone else than her, than it's time to break up.

  • is it that she doesn't want to do this with you or you don't want to do it with her and how long have you been with her

  • Please tell me it's not just because of the tattoo. If so, you really don't need to be with her anymore. I think you need some counseling too.

    • Your girlfriend is not an extension of your body. You have your own body, & she has hers & can do as she pleases. If you only wanted people to answer the title then you didn't have to go into detail. But yeah, you need counseling.

    • If I am considering marrying my girlfriend than she is an extension. I represent her, and she represents me. People have broken up and gotten divorced for stupider things. I need counseling for not being attracted to a single girl? Sounds a little idiotic to me. I'll do me and you do you, thanks for wasting your own time answering this question though

    • i freakin LOVE your hair color. I have wanted to do that to my hair for yeeaaarrsss but never had the balls to:( I think I will do it soon tho:P Oh and your so amazingly prreettyyt! ^_^

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  • Wtf all that because of a tattoo? Wow, just wow.

    • What I told other people should answer this. Don't judge me for what I find attractive and what I find repulsive. You have your quirks I have mine. Thanks though.

    • I understand. Well I honestly think you should break up with her. Its not fair to you nor to her to stay togheter, I think she has the right to know.

    • Alright. Thank you for your opinion. And I'm sorry if I originally came off as an ass.

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  • dump her and say this "its not you its me"

    • Lol!

    • dump her...So he can 69 her in the bathroom! lol

    • i like you...you can read my mind :)

  • No it's not worth staying if the physical chemistry isn't there anymore

  • Dump her, tell her your leading different lives and need to be apart. You still love her but don't feel the connection anymore. It is not worth staying if you do want that part of the relationship...