I'm possessive over my girlfriend's virginity, what do I do?

Me and my girlfriend have been dating for almost 2 years with a couple big breakups in that time. We were friends for 2 years before we started to date and I have this unbelievably closeness with her, its magic. After 6 months of dating she gave me her virginity. She was aware that I was not a virgin and she said that made her more comfortable with it. Then after 9 months she broke up with me saying that it felt like we had lost the base of our relationship. It destroyed me and I spiraled down where I hit rock bottom. I started getting better and she stepped into my life again, but not to soon after that I stumbled again (not cheating, just a broken promise) and she had to leave me again. I was becoming a person I didn't even recognize. She then started dating a guy named kyle, I was so disconnected from myself that it didn't really faze me. This is about a year and half after we first started dating. Her and kyle's relation ship lasted only about 2-3 months. She realized how wrong he was for her and broke it off with him. I was the lowest I had ever been in my life, but she was able to see through my mistakes and lies. She saw the real me inside that no ones else could. She saved me and we were back together. I became a totally new person. I've been clean and have nothing to be ashamed of ever since. But I wanted to know about her relation ship with kyle. I asked her if they had sex and she said no. A couple months later I brought the question up again, and she told me the truth; that they had. I was crushed. She lied about it at first because she knew it would destroy me. I'm tearing the relationship apart again because I can't get over these events of her past. I cannot lose her again but I can't get these poison thoughts of her and kyle out of my mind. I love more than anything, I'm wondering if this is just possessiveness over her virginity and jealousy. I need help on what I should do.
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Most Helpful Guy

  • "I stumbled again (not cheating, just a broken promise) and she had to leave me again."

    Thus it was because of your behavior that you split.

    From that moment she was free to engage into another relationship. And yes, a relationship often includes sex.

    She seems to care a lot about you. and she came back to you, thus GET OVER IT, you're making her feel miserable and you don't feel any better. It happened, period.

    • You're quite an odd guy +1

    • I confess to being 'odd' :D But wait! You didn't read me my Miranda Rights! :-P I bet the Seals Team 6 forgot to read them to OBL too. ;-)

    • But they read them to his corpse and I found a copy: Miranda rights for Osama Bin Laden. #“You have the right to remain dead. You have the right to remain in hell for all of eternity. #You have the right to spend that eternity in torment for the torment you caused others while you were in the land of the living. #If you choose to give up these rights it won’t much matter what you say. #Your eternal reward has already been chosen by you and your choice has been honored by God.”

Most Helpful Girl

  • You're just being a normal guy.

    Most guys can't handle a girlfriend with any sexual history.

    Just dump her & get a virgin you won't break up with.

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  • why don't you do her a favour and leave her?

    • Because she been in my life for Over 4 years now and I love her?

    • if you love her then you shud respect her nd shudnt be bothered whether she slept with kyle while you were not her boyfriend. she loves you and is with u...this is all that matters. one is only human man.. you can't leave a girl and then expect her not to have sex with any other man and tht she shd wait for you patiently till you decide to get back...this is unrealistic