I'm really intrigued by boners and how men get erections...how often do men get them daily (not sex)?

like what things can make you get them? I read another question and some guy answered "he used to get one just by standing next to a girl" is that true? how do you cover it up or make it go away? i wish I was a boy for one day! lol I think I'm going through Freud's theory on penis envy... share your stories! thanks :)
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  • Well like sometimes it doesn't take sexual thought/images/conversations. Sometimes it's like, you're in a car and it may be bumpy or something to that effect or like if you're wearing lose clothing and it rubs against your leg a bunch or if you wear tight clothes and it rubs against the fabric and such...it happens...sometimes not at the most opportune times. Although sometimes you just don't know why, you're just like "um what the hell?"

    but here's a story. I was getting a ride home from a friend of mine, we're really good friends and that's it, nothing more or anything like that. But we were talking about this girl who was her friend and came to a few of my football games when I was in HS(a couple years ago we went to different schools and I was in the marching band...yes I'm a geek.). but apparently she thinks I'm cute and that's what she was telling me and I mean I've never heard a girl call me cute before but just thinking about this and asking her why she thinks we would be a good couple and such...apparently got me aroused I don't think my friend noticed as I was already holding something in my lap. but I was like WHAT? there were no sexual thoughts at all...we were driving but idk.

    so yeah, but it doesn't take much sometimes for a guy to get hard...i'm sort of ashamed of that fact, especially when it's like a girl does barely anything and it happens. it takes more for a girl to get turned on so...idk I ind it embarassing...oh well. that's that, hope I helped

  • I can't stop laughing because I'm the one who gave the answer you're talking about on that question. I always answer anonymous out of habit because I don't want any of my male friends to ever know I'm on this site, plus I'm not looking to meet anybody or get hated on for my brutally honest answers.

    To answer your question we get them a lot when we're young for many reasons. Anything that makes the mind wander to sexual thoughts or not even necessarily sexual but just feelings of attraction can cause a boner. The time I was specifically talking about when I had an erection just from standing next to a woman was when I was standing next to a pretty brunette girl in high school and I could smell her hair and perfume and was so close I could see the texture of her skin on her neck and then the erection just happened lol.

    An erection isn't as hard to hide as you would think. I can just put my hand in my pocket and through the pocket pull my erection up so it is pulled back by my pants and not very noticeable. Bending or leaning forward hides it well in a lot of situations. Sitting down I don't think it is noticeable. All erections aren't created equally either, sometimes a guy can get just a little hard or half hard but not enough to be noticeable to anybody else.

    • hahahah I feel the same about the anonymous answer thing! and thanks for triggering me to ask this question! lol and thanks for answering wonderfully! :)

    • As for making it go away it just goes down by itself when the situation around us changes or our thoughts change. A lot of times the embarrassment of having it in public makes it go down in like 30 seconds.

    • You're welcome, haha. If I could I would gladly trade places with you for a day to figure out what exactly triggers arousal in women.

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  • not sure about the errection thing cause I'm not a guy but I have had many conversations about Freud in my English class (only one guy btw) things get pretty interesting... But I am pretty sure that guys can't cover those up. At least mine can't :D

    • hhahaha freud is cool!

    • yes, he is and so is an English prof that allows us to talk about him and his theories and she actually participates! We have spent four entire class hours just on his theories its great!

  • varies by the guy! some guys get them every few minutes others get them maybe once a day :p hiding it easy they have practice, and there isn't always a thought behind it, sometimes it just happens lol...like your nipples getting hard ya know?

  • why don't you guys always wear your penis up against your stomach, so it won't be noticeable in case you get one? s it uncomfortibe or is it too small when flacid to stick it up against your waste band?

    • that only works if you're wearing tight underwear. not if you're wearing boxers...

    • ohhhhhhhh thanks buddy. heh.. saved me time- you were the person I was going to ask if no one bit the question =)

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  • MORNING WOOD

    • Morning wood is only good when the lumberjack is nearby and willing.

  • Happens all the time just part of being a guy. Let me just say it happens regularly and often enough that most guys won't remember how often its just a regular thing. Its just the bodies natural reaction we don't have a switch that can turn it on and off that would probably save some guys from some awkward situations.

    I personally can get pretty easily aroused sometimes and it may just be a touch from a girl something that shouldn't be sexual at all. It can happen when there's an attractive girl just being around you or saying something even mildy dirty.

    I think the penis envy is just the curiosity of what it would be like for a little while in the role of the other gender. I'm sure most guys wonder what its like to have boobs or free space between your legs!

    • goood answer! lol free space between legs hehe

  • when us men are young, we can get them... from anything, lol...

    pretty girl in class, cute teacher... daydreaming and sex crosses your mind... boom!

    if we take our mind off it, it goes away...

    most o these "little accidents" are not full erections... the penis is not just an on/off option... there's degrees of hardness...

    • It would be funny :p

  • During adolescence - from about 12 to 24 - it's normal to get erections many times per day, and it takes almost nothing to trigger them. I can remember when I was in high school, all it took was for a girl to turn at an angle that stretched her blouse tight across her breast, or to cross her legs, or flip her hair just the right way, and a playboy magazine was enough to bring on a painful one. I read once that an adolescent boy thinks about sex once every three minutes, and based on my experience that's believable.

    Once a guy is older so the hormones have settled down and he's got some experience to gauge the fantasies against, it takes a bit more to get it going - usually physical contact or intimate closeness, but a woman with sensual body language can still cause a rise without ever intending to.

  • You can easily go a whole day or more without getting an erection. It's all arousal and stimuli.

    If I'm having a really busy day of work, school, homework, etc, and there's just no time, then it doesn't happen.

    Yes, sometimes guys can get aroused just by being near a girl but that's because their mind is going in that direction thinking about sex. Usually younger guys (teens) are affected by that and just can't control themselves.

    It doesn't take much. Well, for some guys it does take a lot but maybe they should see a doctor about that...

    It's all where your mind is.

  • Once a sexual thought is in their mind the possibilites for a boner exists and depending on the extent of those thoughts determines if it will cause a rise in the britches!

    • Don't need a sexual thought to score a boner.

  • It varies. Sometimes as few as 4-5 in a day, sometimes it just won't lie down and give you a rest. Always first thing. Usually when getting sleepy. Sometimes when it just isn't convenient (eg at work).

  • AT LEAST once a day, even without thinking anything sexual. It's just the body, it's all natural. It's usually 3-10 though.

    • 3-10 what?

    • 3-10 boners a day. That's the average.

    • for you maybe my boyfriend and every other guy I know only gets them when he lets himself get them... the whole 3-10 a day thing usually only happens when you are a hormone driven pre teen whose mind is always in the gutter. Not to be a b**** or anything I'm just pointing that out. Not against you or anything just saying :)

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  • Erections can occur from basically anything, during your teenage years. At least once a day I get an erection in school, lol. Its not very hard to conceal, but I really hate when I have to get up during one, like when the bell rings. Some guys sag their pants or wear very long t-shirts to hide erections (and other stuff). My penis is not so small so its hard to conceal it while I'm standing or when I'm wearing sweat pants, but sweat pants make me look hard even when I'm not.

  • Men can get a hard on from just about anything really. A sexual thought, presence of a pretty girl, any girl when drunk enough, rubbing, wet dreams, grinding, patting, morning wood, and the list goes on and on.

    How often each day? It varies, but it's definitely more than once.

  • Well, really, just about anything can cause one. The darned things are pretty sensitive! lol While being aroused is an obvious cause, changes in temperature, vibrations from machinery or stereo speakers, alcohol, excitement, stress, needing to urinate...any number of things can cause a guy to get an erection. It's almost like a cat or dog's tail, in a way: it responds to the thoughts and emotions of its owner, whether they're conscious of it or not. Yeah, we can control them just by thinking about them, but there are times they do just react on their own. It's weird to describe. lol I remember the first time I had an involuntary erection, a girl wanted to slowdance with me and suddenly pressed up against me. The stupid thing reacted before I realized what had happened! lol (Luckily, she just found it amusing.) So, yeah, it's kind of like having an extra limb that sometimes does what it wants, which can be a curse in and of itself, if you're in public.

  • I would get them when I really didn't want to, at gym when you can put your hands in your pockets. one time I was running an it was rubbing against my shorts an I got one. One time my teacher was bent over an I got one. Worst one was my sister friend came in my room an I had one. All these were for no reason at all! an you can't really get rid of them.

  • If you're 14, anything from a perfume ad to a slight breeze can give you an erection. It's definitely the last thing you want to happen in class or down the back seat of the bus with your mates. Fortunately, in those cases, you normally have books or a bag to cover the offending article. As you get older, you gain a little more control but the little bugger still has a mind of his own and at worst could decide not to perform at all. Ironically, this is most likely to happen with someone you really fancy and really want to have sex with (ahem, I read that somewhere). So, if you still want to have a penis for a day, I'd take all of these things into account first.

  • For the how often part: I get a boner every morning, as probably every guy. Morning wood and all. Still would love to find a girl who'll have me wake up to a surprise with it :P other than that maybe a few times through the day if something I read or think about then makes me think about a girl I really like and that turns me on.

    But ya, sometimes that's true. If you really like a girl and are near her, that's going to turn you on. At least, does for me >.> just thinking about her does lol. Even if I've been with that same girl for years.

    Sometimes I wonder what it'd be like to be a girl for a day or so.

    Btw, most therapists and psychologist discredit Freud :P poor Freud.

  • i wake up with a boner...i have to pee like that guy from 40 year old virgin...

    • childish but funny: link

  • I just remembered a funny story.

    At marine corps bootcamp when they wake you up you have to go and stand at the foot of your rack(bed) at attention. Well one morning a kid got morning wood... Really bad, I mean you could have used it to punch holes in steel. Well, he wasn't cercumsized and his waist band on his scivy shorts(underware) was really loose so it wouldn't just stay pointed up in the wasteband like everyone else. It stuck straight out. I mean completely purpendicular (no pun intended). He caught the craziest sh*t from drill instructors until he graduated.

  • Oh a couple times a day, I think I've had three counting this one today. The normal morning wood, a girl at one of the places I deliver to set one off, and for some reason I'm getting one right now. An erection is actualy when the sponge like musle relaxes it lets blood rush in(which is probably why it throbs.) There is even a point in puberty in most guys where little vibrations such as a train passing, will make the little guy salute. I just situate him so he stands straight up and pray no one sees it.

    • Or if your sitting down you just shift him someware comfy and just forget about it.

  • have the time there eithe taking a p*ss or having a sexual though.

  • I usually don't get a boner easily until I'm really attracted by a girl because of her personality, her talk and the way she smells. But some times when I am in a mood to get sexy, I can try stroking my penis any time of the day to make it hard without jacking off or having sex later just for the fun of it and it feels good.

  • I hate when it goes up for no reason but usually its when you think about something sexually related to me I hate getting a boner in a public place usually I try to think about other things and sit down when I can to hide it couse some times it could be embarrasing and to answer you how often we get them well that depends on the guy I get at least 1 a day if you think about sex all the time then your in trouble and you will have a boner when ever you think about sex.

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