I refuse to give a blow job..deal breaker?

To me the idea of putting a guys d*** in my mouth is possibly the most disgusting thing...honestly. But at the same time I would never ask a guy to do oral sex on me. Is this a deal breaker for most guys? I get that "if he truly loves me he won't care" bit, but try not to go into that. I just want to know if blow jobs are so important to guys that they would want to wait for a girl who could give them and do it well.
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Okay one thing I want to say is that I don't feel like this is a moral issue for me...I don't see anything wrong with doing it, but I personally don't want to. Also I have attempted it in the past and I just couldn't...It was just not for me.
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  • How could that one aspect of your sex life be a 'deal breaker"...I love oral sex and when I was married, neither of us gave the other oral sex and it was not some huge deal. The WHOLE package person is the big deal...not a penis in the mouth, or a tongue-on-your-clitoris...deal.

    You relationship had damn sure better be based on more than his penis in your mouth...!

    Christ, how shallow is that ? If that is a 'deal breaker' with some bozo...you are better off without the Cretin...Buy him two pounds of raw liver and have him execise his penis in that !

    Can't we all just get along ?

  • Total deal breaker. It means sex will be boring going forward. Experienced guys like girls with a bit of 'freak' in them, and being turned off by our organ is not hot at all.

    I've actually broken it off with girls just for giving BAD blowjobs. I know it seems shallow, but it's just a need I have, both for the physical aspect of having it done, as well as the psychological.

    • How does that mean sex will be boring....you could have a boring sex life that INVOLVED blow jobs too. I'm actually up for a lot of stuff...blow jobs just aren't one of them.

    • Yeah, but it's kind of a key component though... More importantly, the idea that you get disgusted by the idea of his unit isn't hot. I mean, 69's? How awesome are 69's?

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  • the short answer is yes, guys love them, but only do it if he's your boyfriend, it can be more intimate than actually having sex, and if your boyfriend wants them he will teach you how to do it right. Learn how to do it really well and you can get any guy you want to do anything for you ;) It's really not that bad, and you should get oral too,its the best, but from someone who knows how to do it very well

  • It depends on the guy. For some, blow jobs are a big deal and it will be a deal breaker. For others, it won't be. Every guy will want different things and yea some guys really like blow jobs and probably won't date a girl that won't give them. But there are plenty of other guys out there that don't care about those things as much. So it all depends on the guy.

  • I think to some guys that would be a deal breaker cause some love getting oral sex just as much as having sex. If not more. Some would be okay with it though I guess and there are guys out there that don't even like it at all but I think they are a rarity

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  • It will be for a lot of guys. Have you tried it at all? It's really not that scary.

  • No, not a deal breaker at all! I like your honesty and integrity a hell of a lot. It means everything to me in fact. Whether or not you are interested in fellatio is beside the point entirely! I mean who cares, really. It's about you, not about particular practices, right?

  • It would be a deal breaker for me. As without never receiving a blowjob from my girlfriend, I wanted to go down on her so bad.

    And I want to go down on my girlfriend. All the time :)

  • It would not be a deal breaker for me, but I wouldn't like it.

  • Its not an absolute deal-breaker...I used to get by with just missionary and reverse cowgirl sex and it was cool. And plus I also don't like performing oral on a girl, so there would be no complaints from me. Until we're married...

  • It would be extremely difficult to have a bjless relationship...im not gona lie. At some point you would give in or it would strain the relationship

    • I get you have a right to your opinion, but what a horrible thing to say that "at some point you would give in." If someone doesn't want to do something sexually...It should respected and not pushed on them till they "give in" ....THAT is the kind of thing that would "strain the relationship"

    • You miss my point....entirely. Whether or not you SHOULD push for something...reality of life is we do until we get what we want. Frankly if a girl flat out told me no bjs ever never. I wouldn't date her if she said no or maybe or one day...well then that's a challenge...but the fact is bjs are just a sexual act and guys like it...we always will. But even that is not the point...its just the whole idea of sex is to have fun and explore and not to be grossed out by your partner...

    • Frankly you sound like you would be boring to have sex with...

  • No, not that important and is reserverved for the enjoyment of the person giving the bj. The Best relationship I ever had was toldly straight and missionary position. It can be done.

  • no its not a deal breaker but to go the rest of my life without a blow job would suck. I think it would be nice if you could make an exception like on Christmas, his birth day, anniversary when he accomplishes something big. just to show you care.

  • I like getting oral but don't like giving it. If he said he didn't want to though I wouldn't be mad because then I'd be a hypocrite. Sorry but I'm not into the whole shit going into my mouth thing...

  • I wouldn't care, I'm not doing oral til marriage!

  • Eh, you are missing out in my opinion by not giving oral.

    But, to each their own..and I respect you for sticking to the morals you have set.

  • Is it that you don't want a guy to give you oral? I personally wouldn't mind not getting blow jobs, but I would like to be able to give oral. But that's just me.

  • Every time I hear "If he truly loves you then " I throw up in my mouth a little. Look, it works both ways: "If she truly loves you she'll give you a blowjob". It's insanity I tell you.

    I think many guys would feel rejected when they find out you find that part of them so disgusting.

    • I would never put my mouth near my own vagina and it's clean and waxed(unlike most men and their privates)....I don't feel rejected

    • And fyi...I pointed out "If he truly loves you" because I DIDN'T want that response...

    • I find your attitude a little too genital-centric to be palatable. I mean, ever heard of personality, spirituality, erotic love, that sort of stuff?