Alright listen up. Your thinking is remarkably screwed up. Spend any time on here and you can clearly see how many girls are your age, are virgins, and have never had a boyfriend so you are not alone and you're perfectly normal. You need to realize there is nothing wrong with being a virgin. If guys are giving you crap about it, those guys are a**hole douchebags and you need to find better guys because real men don't care. I love it when a girl tells me she's a virgin.
The reason you keep finding things wrong with guys you like is because you're so fixated on finding wrong in yourself, even if it's not there. From your question, it seems like you look at yourself as a repulsively shy freak that no guy ever likes and that's why you're a virgin. It's psychologically proven that those who are hooked on their "flaws" always find and fixate on flaws in others so learn to love yourself. Shy girls are cute and there is nothing wrong with being a virgin. Go back and read that.
Finally, don't go around hooking up for the sake of not being a virgin. I know many women who regret the experience of losin their virginity because they did it for the wrong reasons and it haunts them. I know a sex therapist who once told me that she knows many women in their 30s who regret how they lost their virginity, so don't make that mistake.
So hers is your homework. Learn to love yourself and realize you're completely normal. To work on your shyness, get involved in things that put you in contact with many different people and make sure it's something you enjoy and can relate to. This will also increase your exposure to guys. The more you take part in things you enjoy. The more likely you are to find someone more compatible with you.
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Well said.
so true
I lost my virginity at 24, and it wasn't because of lack of trying. I was so miserable and depressed about it too.
Getting laid, or getting a boyfriend is all about reading signals. There is a hidden world of sexual signals and suggestions, they happen all around us, but people who can't recognize them(people who have yet to see the matrix) don't pick up on them, and by extension can't get laid.
My advice, hang out with girls you know that have boyfriends, or are good at getting laid, ask them for advice, but most importantly, go out with them, and slowly you will learn how to play "the game".
"The game" is called that for a reason, it really is a game, and like most games, the more you practice under the supervision of a qualified instructor, the better you will get. Trust me on this.
And get in great shape, dress hot, wear proper makeup, use perfume, get your hair done right and you'll be well on your way. Good luck, and if all else fails message me, I'll rock your world, no string attached, and I'm hot with a big **** too. lol.
Okay first of all, stop thinking so negative! I never had a serious relationship and a real boyfriend until I'm 20. I lost my virginity when I was 19, there's a lot of girls I know that haven't been in relationships or even have any sexual contact with guys. Eventually you'll find someone that you want to be with and hooking up isn't the answer cause once you hook up with someone you'll be emotionally attached and all the guy that you hook up with wouldn't want a relationship. And it's not true that no guy wants a friends with benefits or one night stand with a virgin, but why would you want something like that?
Yeah I got that answer too from a guy that was interested he didn't want to take my virginity because he wanted it to be special for me and he knew it wouldn't be I guess... I was upset but glad in the end because when I did do it, it was the most enjoyable experience of my life. I didn't have sex till I was about 22. As far as hurting... It didn't I was really wet and we took our time if you build up to it and you feel prepared it feels good.
I lost my virginity at 19 and I feel like I could have waited longer. You will remember your first time forever you don't want it to be with some one night stand who doesn't care about you, don't resort to that because your desperate to get it over with. Keep holding out for the right guy, you won't regret it. when your able to share it with someone you love it'll have been so worth the wait
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!I am definitely in the same boat as you. Questionable about the hook-up/f*** buddy part but other than that I totally feel ya.
You are just making your life miserable with all these negative feelings. You said you find something wrong in them and you may justified but who is there without any flaw. (We are have our shortcomings). Plus pre-assuming about not falling in love and other is just a way to sadden you life. Its not gonna help.
You would love a random hookup, but I don't think it is going to make anything better if you keep thinking like that. And who is the stupid guy - who would not like to have a f*** buddy or one night stand with a virgin. Popping cherry is a priceless experience.
they're not looking for a virgin and don't want me to get clingy
What is there to be depressed about.
Hey babe you are in a wrong impression
Not all guys dislike virgin
Generally men like virgin girl to hook up with
So don't be desperate of having a boyfriend
no they say they're too clingy! if theyre just looking for a hook up, they don't want the girl to be getting attached
Why is virginity something to be depressed about?
i am virgine , so what's the big deal ? ;)
getting laid isn't really gonna help you escape any type of miseries you have in life. trust me. before losing my virginity I wanna to get laid so badly, then I got lucky, but after that I was like "ok, that felt awesome, but I'm still myself, I'm not superman". so just wait and enjoy life and it will come to you when you least expected
These are wise words casanorba!
is true. is like now a days, the media makes it sound like if you aren't getting laid; your a loser and suck at life and all. people need to break that vicious cycle for once
i'm 24 and still a virgin, and I'm a guy
Yo I'm twenty Years old and in August I will be twenty one. I am a virgin by choice. And I ain't giving it up until I'm married. I'm proud of that.
well I'm not religious and I really don't see the point of waiting for marriage. but that's cool.
to continues from anon below me.
Its going to hurt anyways so why not let him do it.
well the first anon.
Don't tell them you're a virgin. Problem solved!
i will most definitely remember that next time! but then I would think they would be too rough or go in too fast... D:
Just tell them when he's getting ready to go inside baby put it in easy ok? and give him a cute smile. Even girls who aren't virgins don't usually like it jammed up in their p**** right off the bat
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