I'm so disappointed at myself, I masturbated today. Why can't I resist the urge?

I'm so disappointed in myself . I was spending a lot of my leisure time self pleasuring it was on my mind constantly and I wasn't getting much of any thing else done. I went almost a month and today it just kind of happened. I'm so weak why can't I resist the erge?
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I guess that spell check can't be right all the time as someone pointed out it's {URGE}
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  • Trying to completely resist and ignore a strong urge increases the urge more. Different people have different levels of sexual desires and urge for sex. If you hv a high sexual urge, take it as a positive instead of a negative, Don't be disappointed in it or guilty.

    Just satisfy yourself when you get the urge. Self-pleasure yourself without resisting. Gradually you will find a balance. If you don't satisfy the urge, the urge will be there and it will be constantly in your mind distracting you from other things you hv to do. So go on, masturbate..and release all those sexual energy instead of bottling it up there.

    not that it matters, but I am curious how often you masturbate and how long you spend on masturbation! anyway, just self-pleasure if you hv the urge. Don't try to bottle up

    • I was at it every day at least once or more and if not I was thinking of it through out the day.

    • once or more isn't that bad, and as you point out, if you don't do it, its worse, so give your body what it wants. Enjoy.

    • So your saying acouple times a day isn't to much?

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  • It was on my mind constantly and I wasn't getting much of any thing else done.

    I can see why you might want to abstain in that case.

    I went almost a month without.

    So towards the end of the month was thinking about it constantly preventing you getting anything else done.

    Just find a balance that you are happy with

    • Excuse me just had to pop Back on and share my fantasy of you locked up in a Neosteel sports chastity belt all month until you are let out to masturbate.

    • Was it worth the wait?

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  • Well, if the will to masturbate isn't letting you do your stuff, then I agree with the guy down here, use it as a reward for something you achieved.

    Nothing wrong with masturbating, but you must not let it rule your life, as you can't let anything. No need to stay a month without it, just reduce. For, lets say, one or 2 times at day, at most.

    Making exercises may help by using a bit of this "energy" you have.

    • Once or twice a day at the most that's what was going on.

    • I masturbate at least once everyday, often twice. Sometimes even three. I don't see why would this be a problem for anyone xD

  • It's a natural feeling. I personally abstain from acting upon any feelings like that and temper all my emotions. If you wish to stop, don't continue thinking provoking thoughts and distract yourself when you feel the urge. Running or going for a jog.

  • I feel like I shouldn't be laughing here but uhh who cares! just go for it lol! I mean if you haven't gotten laid in over a month or had a little fun on your own I feel bad for you. Pretty much everyone does it.

    • Gotten laid in a month it's been 3.

    • Oh hunny you poor thing! I would be only htinking of masterbating all the time also if I hadn't had sex in 3 months!

    • That was pretty much my situation.

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  • Why are you disappointed in yourself? It's normal. Humans are sexual beings and everyone has urges. It's not something you should feel bad about.

  • Is there a reason why you have to? What's wrong with masturbating?

    • Nothing wrong with masturbating the problem came when I wasn't doing it I was thinking about it constantly. It was begining consume all my waking hours

    • Oh I see! Well in that case, don't be too hard on yourself. Sex can be an addiction (like any compulsive behaviour), and going cold turkey is hard. It's okay to masturbate once a day (or a few times). Do you find that you do it constantly because of stress? Depression? There are lots of reasons why your libido can jump sky high. If you are having trouble craving the urge, try and distract yourself other ways. But remember, we're all human!

    • Was a combination high sex drive, stress and boredom when I wasn't working.

  • Make it a reward. You can pleasure yourself if... and that way you have nothing to feel guilty about because you've earned the privilege. Get yourself some self-gratification out of the process. I wouldn't forgo masturbation completely but you know when you have a problem.

    • p.s. I doubt I could go more then a couple days, maybe a week or two MAX, /w out some form of sexual release.

  • there is nothing wrong with being human..and a month is not weak! You should celebrate for loving your body and satisfying yourself it's a beautiful gift God gave to us.

    Religion doesn't own you!...

    • Yes that's true but it was starting to take over my every waking moment

  • Because you're human, and have the desire for sexual gratification like every other red blooded homosapien?

  • Why would you always want to resist the urge though?

    • Not sure it's more fun to yield.

    • But a month?! A few days is too long for me D:

  • Masturbating is nothing to be unhappy about. It's healthy for you. Making it an entire month is impressive, but there is no need to resist the urge.

  • I don't see this as a problem, weakness, or a disappointment. MMMMMMMMMM, I have to go and clean my ears.

  • Whats wrong with it? I love a girl that enjoys getting herself off. I find it hot.. I'd enjoy just watching you do it.

  • You are only human and pleasuring yourself is NOT a sin.

  • me too :/

  • Oh hunny don't, it is completely normal and healthy and it feels good. I do almost daily but sometimes it comes in waves and I may go over a week depending.

  • What's an "erge"?

    And by the way. unless you're a masochist, I'd highly suggest you to masturbate at least every few days, as not experiencing any sexual relief is not good for your mental state.

    • Darn spell check urge.

    • Haha, I thought so. Sorry for the tease.

    • It's okI have big shoulders & can take it.

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  • Hey, you made it a whole MONTH! Congrats for that! You should be proud of it! I can only VERY rarely managed to get through the better part of a week!

  • That's really hot.

  • Why would you want to resist the urge? Why? That's just silly.

  • It's called urge not erge and since when is masturbation a bad thing? It's not like it's a sin. If you want to go by biblical standards pre-marital sex is a sin but sex is also defined in the bible as laying with a man (or woman) and thus implies that it is with another person. Therefore masturbation =/= sex and so I fail to see why even a religious viewpoint would find it bad. If you gotta do it you gotta do it.

    • Perhaps. But there are certain thoughts that go through one's head during the act. And those thoughts can lead one into temptation if one is not careful. Temptation can, if left unchecked, lead you to do something incredibly stupid to crank up a notch your ability to scratch the itch. By itself, it may not be all that harmful. But don't let it become a gateway, is the best way to look at it.