I'm too sexually exploratory for my girlfriend, what should I do?

[Notsure]

I love to have sex, and am very sexual, but my girlfriend isn't nearly as sexually lax as I am. She was brought up in a very conservative household and is "not comfortable" with a lot of things. The relationship is OK but has other issues other than this as well that I'm trying to work out myself but that's for another section of this website. I like to do a lot of different stuff, but nothing to out of the ordinary, at least for me and pretty much every other girl I've been with, but she's not comfortable with it. That was cool a couple of years ago when we hooked up, and I didn't want to push her, but it's been a long time now, and she's talking about marriage (yet again, another thread entirely) but I can't see myself having to beg for a blow job, and never getting to hit the back door. Hell, the only time I even get a halfway decent BJ is when she's trying to persuade me to do something I don't want to do, other than that it's 2 minutes long. This is probably one of the main things that has me worried in this relationship. I've talked to her about it, but I get the same lines every time. She knows it's a big deal to me, but doesn't really put any effort into working on it. What should I do?

[davidsaj]

I know all too well your ordeal, for women sometimes sex isn't that important for them in the relationship, especially in long term relationships, and your gf being from a conservative family doesn't help.

It seems like you have some issues to work out in your relationship still, and you shouldn't let her talk you into marriage yet. LET HER KNOW THAT YOU DONT FEEL LIKE you are ready to take the next step with her yet, because you want to work out all the issues in your relationship yet. It might hurt her to realize that, but girls live in their fantasy of getting married with a huge wedding and sometimes you have to let them know what you are thinking.

As far as the sex goes, try different things, like sex cuffs and sex dice, or sexy lingerie, yes buy it for her, and let her know you would love to see her in it. trust me it works, of she trusts you she will wear it, and then keep trying different things, (sex scenarios or costumes also work well!). keep the lines of communication open and just try doing more romantic things as well, a nice dinner and a nice night out as well, to show her you still care about the relationship as well, not just the sex and do what you can to work out your issues together, calmly and softly!

[Anonymous]

The two of you may be sexually incompatible. She views certain acts as bad, and due to her strong beliefs, she might never see them from your point of view. If you aren't okay with that, and these other acts are significantly important to you, you might want to reconsider the relationship.

[xxBlondeBabyxx1]

You should respect how she was brought up. What you need to do is get sexual but EASILY sexual.

If you like to explore.. maybe tell her to come over your house or wherever you want at like 9:30, and tell her to drink a monster or energy drink around 8:30. ( just so she can reallllly stay up ) Then, buy roses and TONS of candles and light them everywhere ( but don't start a fire, I think that could ruin the moment just slightly ;P ) Then start making out and stuff, and that kind of thing then maybe put her on the kitchen counter or something interesting.. But you should be slightly experienced with it because you want to make sure she will like it which will lead her to wanting to explore more. As for her giving you head to get you to do stuff.. you should WANT to do stuff for her and you guys should save that for when you are bored watching a movie or something so she can spend time on it rather than pulling a quick one on you. Also, if you want oral.. you need to give it back to her! Maybe just get into the moment then eat her out, it would totally make her more appreciative!

TELL ME HOW THIS WORKS OUT! ;)

[angelbebe01]

Don't expect the back-door thing much from any future-wife.that's just a trick drunk girls use to make the guy want her more.lol.no really, it sucks for sure and the only way you can get her to do that is if you get her really drunk, really horny, play with her clit, use lots of lube, rub her breasts, go very slow, and don;t pull out too far or fast (when your going back and forth), and come fast.you want her to enjoy it at least a little or else she will never do it.its very easy to be traumatized from, lol.imagin someone sticking a cucumber in your butt! lol

and tip number two: get her drunk, have a wild night, and get her in your bed at the end.girls are just freakier like that.and don;t blame it all on her, because girls need to get horny too! Imagine trying to lick some smelly vagina when your stick isn't even hard.you gotta crave it first!

[johnsmith2116]

It seems like it will just have to be that way. So, you'll need to decide if you can live in a marriage like that, or if you might decide not to marry her.