I'm a virgin but my boyfriend's not, will he care?

I care for my boyfriend very much and would love to have sex with him, but I'm a virgin and he's not.. I'm embarrassed to tell him because I'm older than him and I'm scared I'll be bad at it. Help!
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  • Will he care? Probably not. But not like "So what?" But more like, "I'm glad you said something."

    Most guys care in that way. Hell every guy, and I don't care who they are, from Tom Cruise to freakin' Cory Drogglemier the school's quarterback going to HotShit University was a virgin and unsure once upon a time. We remember what it was like.

    LOL, I can even tell you a guy's absolute worst fear at the very moment before he looses his virginity...ROTFLMAO...it's, "God please don't let me stick it in the wrong hole!" Because if we screw up that moment, it will EVENTUALLY come out (in a very embarrassing and hilarious tale over alcohol) later to your friends or her girlfriend; weeks, months, or years. LOL It will come to light, you messed up!

    But seriously, only tiny d*** guys like virgins. Those of us who are a little more..."equipped" need to know because girl-virginity is slight bit more delicate work. Lots of screaming, squirming and grunting,(not in a good way) if one is mis-informed.

    So, tell him. And pray he's mature enough to handle it and you appropriately.

  • First you can't be bad at it. Are you sure he is the guy you want to give your virginity to? Don't be embarrassed, I would feel very special to be the guy and be able to talk with you about being your first. I have a feeling if you talk with him about how you are feeling maybe find out about how he feels about being your first. Talking can't hurt, if he teases you about being younger and being the hot shot expert on sex then I'd say he is not the guy you want for your first time. It's a big deal, any guy that you feel that special towards should understand that.

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  • honey guys go crazy for virigns!

    didnt you hear bout the girl that raised $3million dollars selling her virginity?

    yea guys love that. hahaha but don't be like her...please keep ur dignity and respect for yourself and if you honestly feel he is the one go for it!

    and please use a condom...there's 2 of you so don't walk out of the room with 3...if you know what I mean ;)

  • well about your problem I can understand your feelings but its very dishonest of you . In a relationship both sides have to be honest with each other and you have to tell him about it . If he doesn't understand that its because he's not really in love with you . so good luck and be brave being virgin is nothing to feel embarrassed of .

  • are you crazy...ur dude would not have a problem with that...men wish all girls were virgins...if i were you i'd loose it to some other virgin and come back to him...so he doesnt get his ego boost of him being ur first...

    • Honestly, we don't wish our girlfriends were virgins. We wish they were tight LIKE virgins, but not virgins. Virgins take a moment to get out of their shell. They are very willing to get out of their shell but when they do; they shoot of that shell like a comet. lol

  • Guys who are non virgin, sometimes they don't care about whether or not a girl is a virgin but they might be happy she is one because then she can take it away from her. it's all a matter of different perspective

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  • I'm sure he'll have no problem helping you figure it out :) Go ahead and tell him.

  • A guy who would not be wild for the chance to get in a virgins pants, has serious issues,lol. Your inexperience gives him the opportunity to be the sexy stud who pops your cherry. Did you know guys brag about that? If he's not comfortable with it, then he's not comfortable with himself. Guys who fear intimacy have an emotional problem. Does he care about you? If yes, there is no problem.

  • You should tell him before the event. He will understand if he really cares for you.

  • usually men love virgins because they don't have to prove much and the female is usually tight which feels mad good either way. just get it over with. plus you can get rid of a females hymen just by fingering her.

  • I don't think you should care at all. Be happy your a virgin, and proud of it.

  • if he loves u, he wouldn't care... =) so don't worry!^^

  • Tell him you are a virgin so he makes it special. If he doesn't make a big deal out of it... Don't do it! You only get one shot and if it's crappy you'll regret it. A nice hotel and dinner would be the right thing to do. Also don't worry rarely will a man say a woman is a bad lover. Sex for men is pizza we love it always... Even when it's not perfect. Remember he had his first time so make your count. Oh yea remember to relax and enjoy it.

  • No, many guys like virgins because the vagina is still tight, feels so much better.

  • Girl don't be embarrassed cause your a virgin, girls don't get the heat as we guys do being virgins lol. Plus every guy loves a virgin girl, so he would be happy to hear your a virgin. So make sure he is the guy you want to give it up to, cause they say you never forget your first.

  • I think you're confused about how a male mind works... or the majority of male minds.

    If he is in the majority, he'll love that you're a virgin!

  • Hold on to that virginity and spread it with the one you marry. . . Spreading your legs now will only create issues. . you wait, wrath

    • I wouldn't do that. because if you never had sex before marriage you might wanna gain more experience after marrying the guy -> not good lol

  • Will he care that you're a virgin?

    I think I speak for EVERY guy in saying that we would be extremely happy to find out our Girlfriend is a virgin.

    • You're not speaking for me. All the girls I've ever been in bed with had already been with several guys before me and knew more about what she was doing and wanted to have done to her than I did. She was able to teach me what I should be doing. I prefer experience every day over amateurs.

    • Your one in ten thousand brother .... I LOVE VIRGINS!

    • Cartiphilus, you are the only person I've ever seen say that.

  • If he really loves YOU he won't care. Practice makes perfect so don't be afraid to try it out :).

  • He will be happy. Guys love virgins. You won't be bad :)

    • What guys? I have never yet met a guy yet who said to me, "I want my girlfriend to be a virgin."

    • I like virgins. Little to no risk of disease...

    • Cartiphilus is just really mad because he's always had hookers or something. . . You have NEVER heard a guy say that? . . do you worship the devil?

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  • I personally wouldn't. Virgins to me have always been like a load lifted off. There is not the anxiety for me whether or not I am good enough for her because she has never experienced anything else.

    • If she's more experienced than you, she already knows the fastest way to keep you limp is to make you feel inferior to her experience! Being so experienced she already knows you must feel very relaxed around her so will be able to perform.

    • There is still that thought in my subconscious though that I won't be or wasn't good enough for her.

    • "There is not the anxiety for me whether or not I am good enough for her because she has never experienced anything else." Indeed, that seems to be the main reason some guys want avirgin: virgins can not compare. Problem, no guy can tell if a girl is really a virgin or if she's just faking it. Thus lots of thes guys get suckered. :D