I'm a virgin and couldn't get a boner when me and my girlfriend tried to have sex?

[Anonymous]

Idk what happened. I had no problem getting an erection making out and touching her before today, but we tried today and I just couldn't get it up period. Just tried watching some porn and I still can't get it up...wtf I drink and smoke weed if that matters

[nickpink38]

First off, Weed can prevent you from getting it up and thinking too much can prevent it too. I remember there was this girl I was falling for and when we had sex for the first time I couldn't get it up because I kept on thinking about having sex with her and it being perfect and hopefully I won't have a problem with it getting up. Well I didn't get it up and never got a second chance but we ended up being best friends though. Just don't think about sooo much. Think about the score of the game or something else or same hey if I don't get it up then I guess she wasn't worth it (the last I tried and I've always succeeded when getting it up). Also won't can prevent you from getting it up is if you masterbate a lot. if you were having sex that nite don't masterbate than once that day.

[enacuous]

It happened to me the first time as well. If I have sex with a girl I care about. I get nervous and sometimes can't get hard the first couple times unless she gives me head. If it's a one night stand and I don't care about her at all I can get a boner anytime. It's performance anxiety, Just have her give you head till you get hard and after you get more comfortable you will have no problems. Honestly smoking weed doesn't matter and drinking only matters if your p*ss drunk at the time and even them I could still get one.

[Butterfly_kisses09]

That can happen when you are nervous. Or if you felt anxiety or worried about performing. Drinking and smoking weed probably doesn't help the situation much. Also if you had jacked off earlier, that can affect it to. Try not to freak out about it, if you keep worrying then it's just gonna keep not working. Once you're with your gf, try to relax and really get in the moment and forget about your problem and hopefully it will work.

[selfishstars]

Well, alcohol and weed can affect that, but I imagine it was probably just because you felt nervous or the pressure to preform.

And then when you watched porn, you were probably worrying that you wouldn't be able to get hard and it was sort of a "self-fulfilling prophecy".

[joshuadwa]

Depends how much you drank. You can drink enough it thins your blood really bad and you get what they call "whiskey d***" and can't get it up, other than that you're probably gay or have AIDs

[ItsNotShaved]

I think you were probably nervous being with her. Just get back there and keep trying. It'll happen.

[l-hedoniste]

Less drink, less smoke, less nerves, try again.

[Anonymous]

Could be physical, alcohol and weed or something else if you are not capable of maintaining an erection, if you get the nocturnal erections then the equipment is working then look at phsychological issues, stress, other issues with the relationship etc... Lots of other options, sex doenst have to be about penetration, take care of her, give her a happy ending etc...or use a rubber band...