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I'm way hornier than my boyfriend. How can I get him to want more sex?

The funny thing is that I would be considered more attractive in the eyes of society (i'm 5'5", 105 lbs, D bra size), while he's a bit on the pudgy side, and so not as attractive from the eyes of society. I'm just mentioning it just so someone doesn't think I'm a fat cow who's super unattractive which is why my boyfriend doesn't want to have sex with me. But basically, I would LOVE to have it twice a day. He would be happy having it like once a week. and that's a huge difference. Like, I get extremely horny every night and can do nothing about it except masturbate and watch p*rn. And it makes me really sad. I think he just has a low sex drive. Is there anything I can do to help him increase his desire for me?
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  • To be totally, utterly honest, you boyfriend PROBABLY either has a seriously low sex drive or might be gay. That sounds terrible I know. But if you're an attractive girl, and a bit out of his league, and you want sex that often, it might not work out. If you really like him, I would try putting a show on for him. Get some lingerie and google some oral tips and try to drive him crazy with that. If that doesn't work and he's still not wanting to have sex often, I would consider breaking up with him or asking him to seek a professional. If he's in your age range (18-24 as you've claimed) and he doesn't have any serious physical disabilities and only wants sex once a week than he might have some serious sexual disfunction. Or, he might not. I am NOT a professional and even if I was, making a decision solely on my advice online without knowing either of you would be ridiculous. Regardless, if what you say is true (and he is a relatively normal, healthy male) he has what would be considered to be a VERY low sex drive. It might also be mental. Maybe he is really insecure and having you as a girlfriend makes him feel uncomfortable sexually. If that's the case, than you have a much bigger problem on your hands that is going to take much longer to remedy.

  • Sex drive differences can kill relationships. You have to talk to each other and be open about your disparity in sex drives. Possibly he can see a doctor about his lack of libido who may be able to suggest something to boost his sex drive. Also, ask him to be open with you about what turns him on when you are engaged in foreplay and making love and what you can do to tease him to get him excited. For example, if he can begin getting in the mood watching you bend over in a short skirt with no panties in front of him before anything amorous begins do so. Getting started in the mood before you've even begun kissing, fondling or orally pleasing each other will help boost his lust for you and making love with you.

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  • I'm kind of like that too. It's only happened more recently as I've gotten older though. It kind of sucks. I don't know, sometimes exercise for me helps with it a little bit. He also could be a little self conscious as he may think you're so much better looking than him and that can affect a guy.

    • Just wondering, how old are you?

    • I just turned 30. I was always very, very horny in my early to even mid 20s, but lately I've been less horny. I think it's a combination of a lot of things. Age for one, but that's not the only thing. I exercise much less now than I used to because of work and just "growing up" in general and having lots of other things to do. My stress has increased at work the older I get as well which affects it. Being self conscious would definitely affect me as well in that department.

    • That makes sense. See the thing is, my boyfriend's just 19 though... ugh

  • Try some roleplaying to spice the sex life in your relationship. See how that pans out. Best of luck to you both!

    • I do that all the time... it doesn't really interest him that much...

  • Ask him to go down on you more often as a compromise?

    • He says he has to be in the mood to do that

  • Break up.

  • Must be gay

  • The difference is huge. You must to talk about it with him.

    • Whenever I do, he apologizes and says he can't do anything about it. And I feel bad pressuring him

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