If I can't get an erection during sex ...

Is it me? Or is it because I don't find my partner sexually attractive enough? Are all men supposed to be able to get an erection on cue regardless of whether they find their partner sexually attractive or not?
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Most Helpful Guys

  • The correct answer is no. Unlike a woman who be have sex with a box of jell and not be turned on, men are different. This is part of the reason the courts have held that a woman cannot rape a man.

    If I am with a woman, and getting horny and an erection, if I see a tattoo, I loose all interest. I am not turned on by dirty women, fat women and women with tattoo. I know a tattoo means the woman is unclean, unholy along with being worst than a prostitute who earns money and provides a service. I can like a fat woman but when it comes to sex all I see is fat.

    I think Kim Kardashin is one of the most beautiful women in the USA but classify her as nasty. On the same note there are plain Jane's which are a big turn on for me.

    You are not suppose to be turned on by everything in a skirt.

    Hope this perspective helps.

    • You're a f***ing douche bag

    • Hmmm, I thought it was a decent answer.

    • F***en idiot!

  • I think there has to be some attraction. like if you like naked women and you see a naked man it's not going to get you hard just because you are in the same room as another naked person.

Most Helpful Girls

  • Has it been a frequent occurrence? If so, you can see a doctor and they may be able to help.

    There are a lot of reasons for problems getting an erection - stress, alcohol, physical problems, etc. I had a boyfriend who had erectile dysfunction because he had phimosis and the pain from that psyched him out too much - he was capable of getting hard, but once it came time for sex, it was just a psychological reaction and everything went downhill. There are so many reasons for ED, no matter how severe it is.

    Don't blame yourself though. And it's doubtful that it's a problem with your partner's attractiveness. Start by seeing a doctor if it's happened numerous times. They'll be able to offer some options.

  • If you're not aroused by the situation, then of course you're probably not going to get an erection. Not getting an erection doesn't necessarily imply that you're not attracted to your partner, though. There could be other reasons for it, such as nervousness.

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  • Fear or pressure can become a mental block for you. You might not feel it but if you are pressured into giving a "good performance" then you won't get it up... at all. Try be more relaxed next time.

  • Maybe your penis is just not "into her" lol

  • Could be anything - don't worry about it.

  • not sure what it could be

  • I know what you mean. I used to hav ED because it was an unknown side effect of the meds I was taking. That, or nervousness can cause it too.