If a girl doesn't like a guy going down on her, does that mean she's insecure, or what?

I've run into this twice before and I'm wondering if it means a girl is insecure. Maybe insecure about her body, possible odor, etc. Is there such a thing as a girl that doesn't like having a guy go down on her? I love going down on a girl, but some girls are just really uncomfortable about it.
Yes, it means she's insecure about something.
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No, it has nothing to do with insecurity.
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  • Exactly, insecurity. Sometimes it is manageable for me to actually enjoy it. But mostly I can't focus on it because all these things are running through my mind. Does it smell, look gross, taste bad, what if I don't give the reaction he's looking for, what if I don't come and he's going at it for hours? How embarrassing! I have yet to actually orgasm from it because of this. It's not that we don't appreciate the guy and all he is doing. It's just hard to settle down.

    • Since you're anonymous, I don't know what age range you are, but maybe you should have a glass of wine or something before you think it might happen. It should loosen you up a bit and cut down on all the thoughts and anxiety running through your head. I wouldn't get plastered. Just a glass of wine or whatever. You may find you're thinking less in the moment and just going with the flow more. Good luck.

  • I don't want oral sex and I've just been put off by guys always making fish jokes. I know guys on here love giving, but the guys I've associated and around my age don't like doing it. And even if you go onto other forums or search other forums, the guys think negatively of it.

    I just rather not receive, but I'll certainly give

    • That is such a shame...

    • naw, not really

    • My very first real girlfriend (in 2000) told me the opposite. She said the first and last time she went down on a guy, she actually threw up on him before she even opened her mouth. She said she would never attempt it again, but she would be fine with a guy going down on her. Totally hypocritical.

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  • As a woman I can say it definitely is an insecurity due to how she looks/tastes/smells down there. No one wants for someone to go down on them only to hear how awful it looks/smells/tastes. It something many of us are self conscious about either openly or secretly.

    • Did someone actually do that?!?

    • I was manager of the wrestling team through out high school so guys would constantly be discussing sex around me and going down on a girl was a popular one

    • Okay. It was popular with me too, but only because I wanted to so much. Guys putting down girls -- for whatever reason -- is common to make them self feel better, especially if it is a girl who (at least in their perception) rejected them.

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Most Helpful Guys

  • Usually it does have to do with insecurities from what I can tell. But it could also be some kinda religious belief or whatnot.

    • Yeah, I have heard of religious beliefs about it now that I think about it, but I've only read about it. I've never had an experience with a girl who didn't want me going down there because of religion.

  • It seems from the women that a few loser guys are ruining it for true cunnilingus lovers!

    • I will second that and looks like two other people have already thumbed up your answer =)

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  • It just seems lie it would feel SO DAMN AWKWARD !

    • why?

  • I love giving a woman oral

  • Yes, insecure about the smell or probably that he won't like how it looks.

  • A chick asked me the other day if I would go down on a girl and said that she wouldn't want it done on her because it's "gross". She even said she doesn't like watching it on p*rn :/. Weird.

  • i'm super shy

    and I haven't let anyone go down on me yet

    i'm sure I'd love it, but I really need to trust someone before I'm going to let them do that

    it just seems so intimate and I wouldn't want some guy that might comment negatively on how it tastes or smells or looks or something like that

    • I think I know what you mean by it seeming so intimate. One girl I dated a few years back, I was about to go down on her, and she told me no but that we could have sex. I was like, "Say what?" She said having a guy go down on her was more intimate than having sex. That totally blew me away. Eventually, she let up on her beliefs. I went down on her and we never had sex =)