If a girl TELLS you she wants you to tie her to the bed and blindfold her, what does that mean?

[x9354]

Does she want to be ravaged and plundered (hard and FAST) ? Or does she want to be tortured and teased SLOWLY over a longer period of time ? The added twist is that I just met this girl only a short while ago and she and I are home for Easter Break visiting my folks, AND she wants to do this in my bedroom . Now my bedroom is quite a ways from my parents bedroom, so there is no way that my parents would ever hear a thing (even if an actual bomb were to explode in my bedroom) . But the fact that she wants to get into something somewhat elaborate and requiring props to perform (blindfold, ropes etc) in such an unfamiliar territory for her, leads me to believe that she may be exceptionally kinky . And therein lies my dilemma as I don't know which she would find kinkier -- fast and hard -- or slow and long ? Or is she not necessarily kinky, but looking for something entirely different ?

[chanceDeVoe]

Since she specifically likes being tied up and blindfolded, then you have to take that as your clue that she wants to be SURPRISED . So it's not so much how you take her, but what you do BEFORE you take her .

After you tie her up and blind fold her, leave the room and leave her there for at least 5 minutes . The longer you make her wait the more anticipation you will build . Take this opportunity to do some laundry or something, and make sure you exit and leave the room as many times as possible, without saying a word . The uncertainty and the isolation will drive her bonkers, and will force her to focus all her attention on all her other senses and will prepare her to simply melt at your first touch .

When you finally do touch her, use only light, delicate touches -- or better yet -- a feather . Use the feather to tease her neck, her ears, her sides and her inner thighs . Make her quiver as you tease every inch of her body until she begs you to take her .

And when you finally take her, make sure you do it HARD . It doesn't have to be fast, but make sure you give her something to walk funny about afterwards . She will definitely want you to make up for all the sensory deprivation you put her through . And most importantly -- don't forget to get it all on VIDEO ! :)

[cemme]

I would definitely go with "slow and torturous". To me, the purpose of a blindfold is not being able to tell what's coming next. Since she specifically mentioned it (right?), I'd think this is the way to go; I don't really think "hard and fast" would become any kinkier with a blindfold since, well, it's all hard and fast--but that's me...

For an added benefit, leave her bra + panties on...especially if they're silky or another sensual fabric!

[leastman]

I think she definitely wants you to surprise her . And she probably does want to see how clever you are, and if you can top HER kinkiness . So after she's all tied up, I think the feather thing is a good idea (those tickle like crazy but in an amazing way) ! But after that, you should try something that she just wouldn't suspect . You could try using ice cubes and alternate it with hot wax (just make sure you use "body wax" and NOT candle wax which burns at a temperature that's way too hot ! ) . You can also try using peppermint or cinnamon oil and just give her a full body massage . (Just don't videotape it without her permission, because that would actually be too mean) .

[sunnyeyes]

Teased and tortured . But not in the painful sense . Lol . The reason why being blindfolded is so hot is because your other senses are heightened . If you can't see what's happening, you feel everything 10x more, you'll give her goosebumps for sure . Tease her, and make her rediscover every inch of her body, and what it feels like to be touched, kissed, tickled, feel wet, cold, warm, and so on . This will drive her CRAZY, but in a good way, and she will not be able to contain herself, I guarantee :) . I think if she asked to be handcuffed, it would be more of her wanting to be dominated, so tease tease tease ! Lol have fun !

[thin-mint]

Teased and tortured is what she wants. There is nothing that compares to that anticipation of being penetrated! Especially after all the teasing! Try lightly caressing her body with your lips and breath... this does wonders to her senses and she won't be able to contain herself. She might even try to rip off the handcuffs and take control!

[Belleza]

She definitely wants it slow and torturous - tease her as much as possible ! Rough and hard - not really cause if I wanna be tied to a bed post and blindfolded - I would want him to tease me and torture me !

[magicgirl]

It's a sex fantasy, Right ? Ask her if she wants fast or slow . No one can tell but her .

[lovebird01]

You should ask her; you can do it either way . Find out what she prefers !

[johnsmith2116]

She might not have one particular thing in mind, she just knows she wants tied up and to be at your mercy. So, you can try both slow and fast. Just have fun with it and make it exciting for her.

[Trusting]

Personally, I think it means she wants a little of both. I also think it means that she wouldn't mind what you did as long as you came up with the idea. The girl is into kinky, otherwise she wouldn't have asked you to tie her up in the first place.

[soLeYopticAls]

I'm not sure what would be kinkier, but the videotaping thing is definitely a GREAT idea ! Maybe throw in some crazy toys in there too, like an egg-beater or something, or maybe cover her with some of that toy slime that comes in little tubs . She would never be able to figure out what it was, especially if you warmed it up a little .

[sexy-girl--1]

She wants it rough and hard

[BamLife]

Sexy-girl-1 tell me more about what "rough and hard" means to you? My girl tells me that too?

[Kitsune_Jinx]

Personally I would love for my boyfriend/partner to tease me and take time to enjoy my reactions and then once I'm all worked up to have his way with me.

[SayPrettyPlz]

This could be a lot of fun for your both.

But hope you don't mind me adding a few suggestions:

Other than jumping right into a "not so planned out bondage" scenario and lacking experience (no offence), maybe look some things up on line about properly achieving what she wants.

I have had fun being the tie'er upper and being tied up.

A) have a agreeable safe word or signal. A certain word other than "stop" or "please" "hurts". I've used colors (green, blue, etc) which are easy to vocalize or if the tied up participant is gagged they can use repetitive hand, leg, both legs, or any other body movement to get my partner (s) attention (come up with a count such ass 5 leg bangs on the mattress

B) do your research, there are plenty of online places to get info

As far as posting my opinion as "other", I like being teased and teasing right to the point of release then backing off, plus adding in other devices: vibes, coconut oil (is edible and not as sticky as ky, and added bonus making it ice cold or super warmed), dripping candle wax, ice and other things.

Main point: Don't want anyone getting hurt to the point of needing a unexpected hospital visit which will require some pretty inventive made up story to tell the inquiring medical staff on staff at the local emergency room