If a guy is 22 and still a virgin, desperate to lose his virginity, should he go to a hooker or an escort?

C'mon, if a guy is a virgin 22 or older, and please don't say for me to get a girlfriend instead, because I've never had a girlfriend and I don't know how to get one, and I don't want to get one because it's too much work in order to get one, that's how I see it. I don't want to save it for the right one, besides, even if I do meet the right girl she very likely will not be a virgin anyway, I don't see virginity as something sacred, special, it's something I want to say good riddance too!
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I'm almost 23 by the way, c'mon, a guy's sexual peak years are in his 20's, like before 28 or 29 I believe, meanwhile for a woman it is in her 30's, so I feel I have a lot of catching up to do, it's too much work to get a girlfriend since I'm a guy, I have to approach and start conversation, initiate things, ask the girl out, I don't want to have to deal with that
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  • I was desperate for 24 years, but eventually I got a girlfriend. Don't go to a hooker, they will take advantage of your inexperience, and ruin your life. Plus you'll probably catch an std.

    Read the book, "The Game: Penetrating the secret society of pickup artist". It will lead you on the path to getting laid.

    Sex with a woman that actually wants you, compared to a hooker who is with you only for the money, is completely different. The emotional connect the two people share, even if they don't care about each other, and only because they both want to be there is sufficient for great sex, a hooker won't provide that.

    Go get blowjobs from hooker, and handjobs, that way you won't be so nervous around real girls, but save sex for a real girl. And you can catch std's from blowjobs so wear a condom.

    • you said you eventually got a girlfriend, did reading "The Game" teach you how to get a girlfriend?

    • Yes, and it will teach you as well. It will introduce you to the concepts you need to research. Trust me, read the book, and you will understand what I mean. It's like the author is speaking directly too you, he knows our pain, he was one of us. Neil Strauss is the author, go get it.

    • yeah because there is a difference between hook-ups, one-night stands, casual sex, and dating, relationships, so "The Game" teaches both?

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  • yeah why not, I've thought about it since it could boost my self-esteem a lot

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  • Get out and talk to girls, go to bars clubs friends places etc. Don't pay for it... it won't mean or feel good and you'll feel cheap and regret it later on, trust me. So what if you're a virgin... there are plenty of beautiful girls who are your age and virgins. it's not that uncommon, people just don't advertise it so much. But if you want to lose it, go out and meet girls, don't pay for some who knows who whos been who knows where

    • thats too much work

    • Guys do have to pay women to get laid most of the time anyway.. especially if he wants a relationship with her, he has to ask her out and pay for her.

    • lol well anything worth having is hard work... so think about that when you choose the easy way to get laid.

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  • If going to a hooker or escort(preferably) is what you truly want, then go ahead.

    I personally have no negative feelings towards prostitutes or escorts, so I won't sit here and act like going to one is the end all.

    But it's something you should think about wisely. If your virginity is no longer "meaningful" or never was to begin with, then I see nothing wrong with doing it.

    • thanks, glad a girl sees what I'm going through

  • Do what you gotta do. It's your body and it's your choice. However, know that if you're the type of person with whom the physical and emotional coincide, having sex with someone who never wants to see you again is probably going to cause you some emotional distress. If you don't care about any of that, though, you'll probably be fine. Just wear protection and all that.

    • yeah losing my virginity would boost my confidence a lot

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  • Yes, if you feel that desperate then go for it.

    Just know hat a lot of these hookers and escorts have to been with hundreds-thousands of men, and their disease rate is higher.

    • still a lot of people have STD's and they are still living healthy lives

    • So what really is your point? You would still be increasing your chances.

  • Dude, just buy some nice clothes, get drunk, and go to a club. You don't even have to talk to the girl and if you're standards aren't rediculously high (which I'm assuming is true since you're considering a hooker) you're pretty much guaranteed to get some.

    • she doesn't have to be model-looking, her face doesn't have to be the best looking but at least have the body

    • Yeah you should definitely give it a shot.

  • Can't you just go to a club and find a girl that will do it for free? The women there are pretty much just giving it up. Likely you are just too shy to go out and meet the number of women, that you need to in order to find the right girl.

    You really don't want to go the rest of your life thinking you were so desperate that you had to pay for sex, in order to lose your virginity. Have some pride in yourself. Get down to a club and meet some girls. Don't know how? Buy the book "Rules of the Game" by Neil Strauss. The first half of the book is all about how to overcome your shyness. That is your real problem.

    • just wish there was a faster way

    • It will be more rewarding if you earn it. For a woman to actually think, you are worth it, so she chooses to have sex with you, is far more meaningful than going to some prostitute. Read the game. The book isn't what most people think it is about. It is about transforming yourself into a more confident person, so you won't be so shy. If women knew what was in that book, they would recommend it to every guy they know.

    • @update. Then try Internet dating. What are you going to do next time you want sex, and the time after that? One of these days you are going to have to have the courage to find a girlfriend, or you will be alone forever.

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  • Go ahead and have your way with that one guy. You know who I am talking about. You know he wants you too. Really treat him like he is a woman.

  • You just have to do what you have to do. If you want to lose it to a stranger go right a head. If you don't that's fine too. You should base your sexual decisions off of what others think you should just do what you think is right.

  • All I can say is...dont do it.

    • why?

    • Dont cheapen yourself.You can do whatever you want,but have more respect for your body than sleeping with someone whos crotch is a revolving door.Doing something like this reeks of severe desperation.Part of you already knows this,you just want some one to validate a poor decision.I won't be that person. If you think that being a virgin in your early 20s is the worst thing in life,then you have got your priorities terribly out of order.Maybe you should consider not watching the tele for a while

    • or paying attention to other media because clearly in Western culture the most superficial things are at the very forefront of our day to day lives.Somehow you and so many others are brainwashed into believing you have to be a specific way to be accepted in our warped society.And I believe it to be a true shame that you allow something like this to affect who you are,because I am sure you have more to offer than..."sex" or the idea of it.

  • don't recommend that you may end up with your first STD as well... Some girls find virgins a turn on

    • some girls may say they find virgin guys a turn on, cute, attractive, hot, but what girls say they like and what they actually end up with are 2 different things

    • are you sure some girls find virgins a turn on?

  • I am curious to know how much time you have spent trying to have a normal relationship prior to doing this. There is no such thing a whore with a heart of gold, which you're sure to discover, in fact the women that do this are usually a**holes you wouldn't want to know.

    If I were you I would try to find a place where I could make friends and forget about the endzone.

  • You shouldn't trust that these girls give a flying sh*t about you. I know you wish they did. The fact is, they are answering as if you were their man. You're not their man and never will be. So all this ethical bologna need not apply in your decision.

    Do what's best for you. If getting a hooker makes you feel like a man then do it. None if these girls should be telling you to hold back a thing, because these girls wouldn't give you a chance either way.

  • Honestly, don't do it dude. It's almost guaranteed that you'll feel even worse about yourself after losing your v-card to a hooker who doesn't give a sh*t about you than you do right now. And I say that who thought long and hard about getting one when he was still a virgin, not as someone who constantly gets laid or had a quality first time.

  • no, don't be desperate.

    • why is being desperate so negative?

    • It just doesn't seem like you have the patience to wait that's all. It's your choice so do what you like.

  • My answer will be unpopular, but if that is what you want to do you should do.it. I would suggest going to Vegas or Reno and go with a place where it is legal and regulated, but do what you have to do.

    I know two guys who.lost their v card that way and have no regrets. It is different for girls. Sex the first time is not as emotional an experience for us. For guys, your nerves and inexperience may be better with someone you don't know. You don't have to worry what she thinks or if you are any good BECAUSE you will never see her again. This is about you and being comfortable for.sex with girls later on. I get it. it doesn't make you a loser either. Charlie Sheen can get all kinds of girls, but still seems to prefer working girls right? :)

    Doing this may show you what you are missing, and give you the confidence and motivation to get that first girlfriend. Good luck

    • yeah, because losing my virginity will make me feel like "I finally have the monkey off my back" then I will have more confidence in myself when approaching women

  • Don't go 2 any off them hit the town on a night and see what happens so what if she's not the hot girl out there you still lose your virginity don't you

  • i'm hoping to see more answers so I can be sure whether if I want to go through with this too or not

  • Don't do it. Period.

  • wow really get a life

    • what does that have to do with this?

    • ahhh rude? >_0

    • whatever

  • yeah why not

  • YEAH YOU SHOULD NOT GO TO A HOOKER...not a good idea. You're going to at least want to like a girl the first time you have sex.

    Date a younger, BUT LEGAL girl. that might be appropriate.

    • so what? most people lose their virginity to people and they break up with each other anyway

    • YEah but at the time it was someone they cared about even if it's not someone they actually care about now. Believe me...it's much better to be with someone you like, not even love. You'll be more comfortable and you can do it more than once free of charge. lol

    • He has a good point and who is anyone to judge someone elses life choices? I'm not God

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  • No, but I'm biased because I think sex should only be shared with someone you love. Virginity is overrated when people treat non-virgins as outcasts, but it's not a disease to be rid of either. It just is.

    If you absolutely MUST get rid of it now, a friend-with-benefits or a one-night-stand is not as pathetic as a buying hooker. But even those are scuzzy, IMO. Yuck yuck yuck.

    • a one-night stand or FWB would be nice but I don't want to have to do the work in order to get one

    • Then you're not worthy of the glory that is a woman's vagina. God forbid respect is given to a woman. Sheesh.

    • and working for something means respect?

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