If a guy has a boner, does that mean he's attracted to you? but dosnt want to have sex because he says he's no

if you have a boner arnt you aroused and want to have sex. but if your laying with a girl with a boner and you don't have sex does that mean he's not attracted to you?
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  • Let me start with a joke. Which is the lightest thing in the world? A cock. Even a thought can raise it. Men have no control on the cock, when he raises or refuses to raise is his own will. Having said that, there normally is a reason for it to get up but for the morning wood. I have never figured it out. In the teens the unwanted and unexpected boner were more frequent but once the hormones balanced out the normally was a logical reason. Like watching an erotic movie or a porn, reading some erotic stuff, fantasizing or something sexual, being with a woman or the contact with her body.

    Dance close with classmates normally gave us guys a boner. Girls noticed it and giggled about it. Even in crowded public transport when a women is constantly rubbing though unwantedly some body part gives us a hard on, so physical contact with a woman give a healthy man an erection.

    But when ever I was with a woman friend or my girlfriend and I got a boner it was either because I was sexually attracted to her or fantasized about her. With my current girlfriend if I looked at her and any desire crept into my mind I use to get a boner which I tried hiding. After things became more formal she officially became my girlfriend she use to crib because I did not hold hands with her. My problem was that I desire he so much that even holding hands gave me a boner.

    If I have a boner normally I am aroused and want to have sex, specially if I am laying with a girl otherwise I would not be lay around with a girl. If I have a boner and I don't want to have sex it does not necessarily mean that I am not attracted towards the girl. It can mean so many things. It can mean that I am attracted by that girl but the time and the place is not right. It can mean that though I find the girl attractive I have other commitment or it is simply too early to get physical, etc. etc.

    I have been with girls who were provocative and as a human male they did give me a boner but that does not mean that I was going to have sex with every single girl who gave me a boner.

  • "If you have a boner arnt you aroused and want to have sex."

    Or you feel a strong vibration. Or it's early in the morning. Or you're wearing the right pair of underwear. Or your thinking about the girl you do want to have sex with, rather than the one you're with.

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  • If he has a boner, it means he has a penis. Boners don't show interest or anything, they are just involuntary and happen for any or no reasons at all.

  • Stop trying to analyze guys boners...they can happen at the wierdest times. I honestly don't know how you can think that every time a guy has a boner he wants to have sex...cuz its not true. Look for other signs of attraction..

    • so just because he has a boner he still could not be attracted to you at all

    • Yes. Chances are, if you guys together and he's got a boner, he's attracted. Just don't read too much into it.

  • MN Yankee is right.

    a bit of advice: if a guy has a boner, its easier to get him to have sex. for some reason, god gave us only enough blood to operate 1 thing at a time: the brain or the penis. lol.

    • "god gave us only enough blood to operate 1 thing at a time: the brain or the penis." That statement makes our entire gender seem like we have no control over our bodily functions.

    • i read it somewhere. I paraphrased. the original sounds better.

    • God gave us all a penis and a brain, but only enough blood to run one at a time. ~Robin Williams

  • Don't analyze a guy's erection. They happen and not because he is attracted to you. A guy can sleep with a girl he is NOT attracted to. If the stimulus is there, it happens. I work on an ambulance (w/ a diesel engine) and we have a joke (though it's very true) and it's called "diesel d**k"...an erection caused by the vibration of the engine. It's happened when I'm alone in the vehicle...and it doesn't mean I'm attracted to the engine