If we had oral sex before we're exclusive, will he still see me as long term material?

[Anonymous]

I have been dating this guy for about a month and have been on 5/6 dates with him.. On our last date he and I decided to rent a movie and stay in after dinner.. After a bit of kissing etc. things lead to us touching each other below the belt and he and I ended up going down on each other twice (he obviously initiated this lol but told me he hadn't done that for a girl for years.. than he went down on me again lol) and we both really enjoyed it.. I told him it's too soon for sex and I like to save that for relationships but do you think that by not rejecting his moves to make things more physical he will see me less as girl friend material?

[Cutenshy]

i told my guy i wanted to know him better after he tried for sex on our 3rd date. He said he wanted to get to know me too, so was ok waiting. I gave in by date 6 haha and he stuck around for two more dates after, that's when I knew he was serious. Within a month, we were exclusive. I told him he was the only one I was sleeping with and we both weren't seeing anyone else. I asked before I slept with him, what he liked about me and what he was seeking. He def wanted a serious relationship and his actions showed it, so I knew haven't sex wouldn't change things. I think only that guys with bad intentions would care if they really didn't want a relationship as long as it's not the first or second date.

[Anonymous]

yea don't try to normal or whatever do what feels right, none of my relationships went according to plan, but I wouldn't change anything, search for deep connections don't worry about what's right or wrong.

[rotinaj10]

I agree. I don't think they are rules that say if she puts her mouth on my penis she's not girlfriend material. After 5-6 dates I think most guys know what it is they want from the girl. So really it comes down to what type of guy he is. Some guys want exclusive type relationships and some guys don't and I don't think a blow job is going to change that. Now if it was 15 minutes after meeting him then that's a different story.

[Asker]

so than why do most guys take like 3 months to make things official if they know that early on?

[MrOracle]

This is a gray area. You're *probably* okay, but for some guys, this might be a problem for them.

The things in your favor are that you've been out on more than just one or two dates with him, and that you didn't let things go any further. Going forward, though, you need to start digging in on making your relationship "official" before you go any further. He'll respect that, unless he's just trying to get sex.

[Anonymous]

Well, how close are you guys to having a relationship? You've been on 5-6 dates and going out for a month. I am seriously asking because my response to your question will depend on that.

[Asker]

well the first week we hung out like 4 times.. were talking non stop. He gave my sis a ride and was fine meeting fam for a sec (I was the one who freaked about it lol).. Then he was sick.. and we have been talking a bit less after that.. One time he forgot to call me back and I was confused and asked him the next day if things changed because I don't want to chaise him around.. he told me how he thought I'm great in so many ways and he 100% wants to keep dating me.. but doesn't want to rush into...

[Asker]

a relationship not that I was trying to either (we were only dating fo a week and a half) that he wants to keep seeing me but wants to ease into things not rush into them.. so he took me on two dates since then.. and he is really into me when he's with me, doesn't text me everyday but I know he likes me.. I think he was being honest about taking it slow.. If he didn't like me he would have taken what I said and used it as an opportunity to stop seeing me..

[Opinion Owner]

I'd say the longer you aren't in a relationship but still doing sexual acts, the more likely it will end up in just a friendship or a friends with benefits situation. Especially if you guys are stalling rather than escalating your relationship. For example, if you had said that you guys were going to make it "official" in the next week or 2, it really wouldn't be a big deal.

[Asker]

we both aren't around much over the next two weeks (I go on vacation and he's actually off from work that week.. so annoying that would be the perfect time for things to become "more"). We didn't have a sleep over yet.. I really hope he wants to spend new years with me.. That's sort of my make it or break it mental view on it.. I he goes 1-3 weeks w/out seeing me because of clashing plans and he doesn't want me there when the ball drops I'm going to assume he doesn't want me as a GF

[Anonymous]

probably but I would be a little careful

[Anonymous]

Yes the more you blow him the more he will like you ... and if you swallow he will like you more..

[Asker]

OMG what's wrong with you hahaha

[Opinion Owner]

Nothing just being honest... :)