No. And, yes, at your status update. I mean... That's the reality of it, really. If you impose upon yourself a dedication to essentially no one being in your vagina but you, then when someone enters your vagina, even if it's against your will, this is what happens. So, I mean, I'm sorry, but it's the deal, man.
I had the same reasoning as you- I was raped as a kid, and I always wanted to wait for someone I loved, but I just felt, like, what am I actually GIVING them? So I allowed myself to be promiscuous. I don't regret that at all, now, and I'm very glad I was and am promiscuous - it's part of who I am. So, this might be good for you, to help you xeper in some way. But uh... If you want, you can keep something ELSE special. I was raped before I had my first kiss, so I kept my first kiss for someone special. It was a little, mundane thing, but it made me feel good about it. You've probably had your first kiss but there might be something.
That's really sweet. Saving your first kiss for someone special. I'm sorry for what happened to you though :(. If I don't have any sexual activity with anyone until marriage, then it will be our first time on the honey moon.
Yeah, that's right =] Really though, you have to think, 'If I was keeping sex for marriage because I was a virgin, was my abstinence really a noble abstinence?'
I wanted my first time to be with the person who deserves it- the ones I'm going to spend the rest of my life with.
Technically know but in terms of what would define a virgin, I would make exceptions for if she had been raped. It was not your fault, don't blame yourself and you can still keep to the values you wanted and for it to mean something, you have yet to have consented sex
I think deciding whether or not your still a virgin is up to you hun. To me there are emotions and the physical that make it all important. I was raped before I ever had sex as well and when I met the first guy I wanted to have sex with I was just very open with him and said to him that I felt like he was my first. He was glad I was able to open up and tell him. As for you saying you feel there is no point in waiting for marriage, don't let that ass who raped you take that away fron you hun. If you truly wanted to wait till marriage then do so and for you it can still be special. Your husband would still be the first man you wanted to have sex with and the last. Keep your head up and don't let it run your life hun!
Well said!
You can if you want to because you were not consenting to sex. I know that physically you aren't a virgin, but in all other ways you are.
And yes, of course, there most definitely is a point in waiting until marriage if that was your intention & commitment prior to the rape. I cannot believe anyone would even entertain this question.
Of course you can. Your virginity is something you give to someone, it can't be taken from you. I would consider anyone a virgin that has not consented to sex.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!I guess not, but I don't understand why virginity would be important anyway.
It's a personal decision. I would consider myself a virgin, I did not WANT to have sex. It was not a consensual encounter, it was a sexual atrocity.
I don't think I would consider that person still a virgin. Because where do you draw the line? What if someone only had sex when they were drunk once? Or with a boyfriend they hated? Or a girl?
I feel like the line should be drawn at intercourse aka penis in vagina.
At the same time, I do not think a victim of a rape is considered to have been with someone if that makes sense.
I would tell you to speak the truth because no matter how hard and bitter it might be its the strongest and you would never get hurt
Technically, no. If a woman has had a penis in her vagina (rape or not) she's not a virgin.
no. virginity is not an issue with grey areas, you either are or you aren't.
lesbian sex, are all lesbians virgins?
I would say you werent technically a virgin, but I wouldn't object to someone who was raped saying they were a virgin.
That IS one of the crimes of rape ... to deprive a person of virginity.
As to your update - you don't wait till marriage because you are a virgin. You do it because it is wrong. Don't fool yourself please.
yes you are still a virgin.You will only lose your virginity once you consent to have sex.
It's a tricky subject, because technically you're not. However you're equal to one in that you probably weren't emotionally attracted or attached to the guy who raped you. You're not a dirty whore, don't think you are or you will start to act like one. I'm really sorry that happened to you. You were a victim but you can't stay in that mindset or it will control your life.
Technically...but you weren't going to make it until marriage anyway, so don't fret about that.
no. once someone's smashed that p*ssy, all bets are off.
I was molested as a young child.
My family always supported me and told me I was a virgin.
I'm sorry to hear that happened :-( and I'm glad that's what your family told you.
mixed question. it's complicated. I mean, technically you are not, physically. but mentally you are because it is very different than deciding to have sex.
at update, that's up to you, but I would be careful. I would also seek counseling.
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