If you were a christian would you Skype sex?

[lonewolf89]

I'm curious to know what my fellow christians think about this say your in a relationship with someone and you were both christians and both came to the agreement that no sex till you guys are married however if your partner came up with the idea that he/she wanted Skype sex/cam sex instead seeing that your not physically doing anything to each other? in all honesty I would consider it..it would be better to do that than actually sin by having real sex

[ObscuredBeyond]

"For out of the heart come evil thoughts, murder, adultery, sexual immorality, theft, false testimony, slander." - Matt. 15:19, NIV 1984

If it's not with a spouse, then you're not really evading the real problem. Simply avoiding physical contact is moot because you're still engaging your mind and hormones where they should not go.

I realize that in a world where such things have become increasingly socially acceptable, the temptation will always be there to try it. Even I have been tempted to want to try it; but that alone does not excuse it.

One should take care not to use flimsy rationalizations; because all that does is give you a blind spot from which your faith may be ambushed and eroded.

Increasingly today, as Paul would put it: "Many things are possible, but not all things are wise/beneficial."

I'd take that into account before attempting anything.

As for with a spouse, I'd make sure it's a secured connection and that both of you are truly alone. However, using Skype opens you up to unlimited avenues for infidelity that would be much harder to secure in person. So you should consider that also.

Even if you don't cheat via Skype, using it to do with your spouse what ought to be done face-to-face carries the risks of producing unrealistic expectations for the real thing; setting both up for disappointment when it finally does get to the bedroom. Also, if either end should get caught, it opens up the door for rumor mills - which could prove very damaging to either party's reputation.

The last thing you want is to mess up by going too far with punishing a third party in a fit of rage for refusing to cover for your questionable Skype activities. Because when that gets to court, it makes you look twice as bad as if you'd smacked up the third party for no reason. And while it sounds finicky, juries are impressionable that way.

Having watched Investigation Discovery and attended school at Ferris State, I've heard it all.

[beastman88]

thats a form of fornication my friend, so any true christian wouldn't even consider it. or at least shouldnt

[ObscuredBeyond]

Nobody is immune to temptation; but not all have to succumb to it.

[Anonymous]

I'm not religious, but my boyfriend says he's a Christan. He doesn't regularly attend church so he's not saving himself for marriage or anything... he's just waiting for the right time and person. I've only been dating him for a couple months, but he's fingered me and I've given him a handjob... obviously if this lasts we'll probably end up having sex.

The point of this is, we started off with that Skype sex thing, and it only led to more. We're okay with that but I know a lot of people aren't. Just be prepared.

[StrawberrySuckers]

I'm Christian, but there's a lot I don't think Jesus judges me for. My Grandmother made a point that he just wants us to have beautiful hearts and be the best person we can be. I've done Skype sex plenty of times with my lover. It's been good for us, we feel comfortable with it.

[ObscuredBeyond]

Uh...no. That's not what he said. How's about: "Be perfect, as your Heavenly Father is perfect"? (Matt. 5:48) Point being, it's impossible; which is why you need him in the first place. Your grandmother is a little off on this one, and your comfort is based on false assurance. I don't doubt the possibility that Skypesex sounds like fun; but I've provided reasons below that it could still be a bad idea. I'd bring that verse to your grandmother's attention, even if she doesn't like it.

[StrawberrySuckers]

No thanks :) The guy just wanted another Christian's opinion, didn't ask anything about debating Christian beliefs. I have a life full of abundance, full of love. I have no reason to doubt what I was told.

[ObscuredBeyond]

Until it's too boiled to escape, a frog in a pot is also convinced it has no reason to fear being in the pot. You cannot assume that a lack of adverse effects in your past and present experience by themselves equate to no danger. Not everyone who drives drunk gets in an accident the very first time either.

[GigiSol]

If you are going to Skype sex then just go ahead and do the real thing...technically is the same thing without penetration and it can potentially expose you to being recorded etc... be smart don't do it..

[calialltheway1993]

No, even if it isn't physical sex, it's still sex.

[jayzee]

watching p*rn is better than Skype sex

[ObscuredBeyond]

Provided you know that you're not sponsoring anything illegal in the process. Some of those women are kidnapped slaves who only pretend to be having fun - including the adults.

[Anonymous]

Isn't that like masterbating which they say is wrong?

[ObscuredBeyond]

Arguably worse. With masturbation, the unwholesomeness has already beset you and you're trying to exhaust it so you can think of something else. With Skypesex, you're actively seeking it out.

[Anonymous]

No. There's point. Phone sex is less technically cumbersome.

[Anonymous]

No. Sexual activity outside of marriage is adultery. It's supposed to be a matrimonial act.

[GigiSol]

? Do you know the meaning of "Adultery"? Please look it up, you are WRONG!

[Opinion Owner]

I'm not sure what the correct word to use is. Fornification.

[ObscuredBeyond]

@GigiSol The strict definition of "adultery" is extra-marital sense. It is used also in a broader sense as a metaphor for all infidelity and impurity. For example: Israel adopting the practices of child sacrifice and abortion from its neighbors, and having homosexual temple prostitutes, and demanding "tolerance" of Baals inside God's temple - those were all examples of idolatry; but were equated with adultery numerous times by the prophets. Hosea married a prostitute to drive home the point.