If you were raped....several times...

what would you do? I just want to move on I don't want to press charges or any of that sh*t. I just want the nighmares and all the flashbacks anger and non stop tears to...STOP.any ideas? by the way I'm a 17 year old female. how do I move on after this? one happened in December the other 2 about 2-3 weeks ago...
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my dad wants me to go to school and I really want to its the kind of opportunity I have been waiting for my whole life. the schol starts early may but the only thinng is I am so messed up right now that I don't even know if I will really be able to concentrate. I mean I have so many random nervous breakdowns and panic attacks. when I'm someplace I just feel the urgent need to run far far away. its a dream come tru( the school thing) and if I don't do it my dad will be severly disappointed
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because that's not the first time he has tried to push me and I've said no ( cause of the same abuse) but I don't know I don't wanna let this one pass but I don't know what to do please help. I also have medicals I need to take care of and that's moooneyy.
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  • Take one day at a time. I had a friend that was raped and she went to take martial arts classes, it gave her a way to get something back. She said it made her feel empowered and ready if it happened again. Feeling weak and vulnerable is the problem. My friend said that the instructor taught her a bunch of ways to hurt guys bad. He taught her how to destroy balls, and let her practice grabbing and squeezing his nuts real hard. She said that it was a great way to get back into having sex without it bringing back bad thoughts. When she held nuts and squeezed she had complete control of him (a black belt) and he was helpless, she would just squeeze tighter if he tried anything. She said that he let her squeeze as hard as she could and he passed out. I knew about this and have tried it myself, it works. I did it to my brother, it took about 20 seconds, at first it did not work but I dug my fingernails into a ball and he could not breathe and passed out. When he woke up he just curled up for a long time and groaned. Don't let it get you down and stay busy. Go study martial arts and ask the teacher in private to teach you the best way (and let you practice in private) this stuff, don't be shy.

    • im trying but I just feel really hollow inside and I don't know why or what to do. I feel like I'm being eaten alive by something

  • If you know who did it, put on some pointed shoes and walk up to him from the side where he cannot see you good and kick his balls as hard as you can. Most likely it will rupture him or at least one. Then kick him in the face and knock him out, then take about 10 hard kicks to his testicles again. Go home and relax and watch tv. He won't be able to do it again because his balls will be ruptured and will be removed. This will make you feel better. I had a friend that was a gymnast, she got raped and did this to the guy. Her first kick was from behind, he went down then she knocked him out with another kick. She said that she got him in a park and nobody was around. She kicked his sac until she was sure that he was ruptured then she pulled his sac out and checked to make sure, and his balls were destroyed completely, in fact she only felt the remnants of one testicle, the other one was jamed up inside his belly and she stuck her finger up in him and it was crushed also. She said that it made her feel better and he never reported it to the police. Its hard to be a rapist without testicles.

    • wow omgg I can't possibly do thatt! one of the guys was my bf...

  • You need to tell someone before he does the same f*cked up, crazy sh*t to someone else

    • i cant. he's my boyfriend. the other was ...a date.

    • then wtf are you still doing with him? break up with his nasty ass otherwise you have yourself to blame if it happens again. You need to tell soemone regaurdless.

    • yeah well we're practically over. I told him so but he doesn't understand why and I haven't told him. if he doesn't realize then fine.dont tell me I have to blame myself. I've done enough of that...

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  • first off, it sickens me to hear that, I'm so sorry! secondly, I'm not sure any of us here are really qualified to give you the help you need. the first thing you should do is talk to some kind of counselor or therapist. no one will force you to press charges if you don't want to, what they'll be concerned about is your well-being. but you need a PROFESSIONAL to help you work through this.

    the other thing, which is probably obvious, is to STAY AWAY from this "person", if at all possible. (i'm assuming it was all the same one?) if it's NOT possible, like a family member or neighbor, etc, then you NEED to tell someone. your personal safety is the foremost concern, followed by your emotional safety. having to go through the process of pressing charges and even the ensuing drama is still a lot better than the alternative. and the number one thing to remember is that no one is going to blame you for this. whoever did that is f*cking animal, and they'll be treated as such. the whole world is on your side. I know I am, and we're anonymous strangers.

    i wish all the best to you, please do all you can to help and protect yourself. you'll be in my thoughts, for sure! good luck with everything!

    • no ti was two guys. two guys I trusted:9 one being my boyfriend who wouldn't listen when I said I just wasn't ready. I have stayed away from him but I feel terrible cause well idk...i do need help..i tried to get help from a counsellor but she was terrible! she expected me to know what I wanted to do and to already understad how I was feeling..she said ehr job was not to tell me what to do just to advice em on the best option..but what if I'm blank? I need someone to just spill eeverything and help me

    • yeah, that doesn't sound like very good counseling! I think I'd just recommend finding a different counselor. just like any other profession, there are good ones and bad ones. was it a school counselor? because they're bound by a lot of rules and regs and have to tread lightly with things like this out of fear of lawsuits, etc. but you should try to find a health center or a women's resource center near you and try someone different. don't give up!

  • Nobody wants to experience post-traumatic stress. It's never pleasant but you can't just flick it off like a light switch. Ignoring it won't make it going away. When you bottle things up it eats away at you. I know the pain of confronting and dealing with the trauma seems to add insult to injury but these things can wreak havoc on your life if left unchecked. For you own sake, I strongly urge you to see a therapist or a counsellor or at least confide in someone you can trust.

    • it wasn't a schol counsellor it was like one where you don't have to pay..she padi by the government...

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  • it seems you want to internalize all of this (something I do myself) which is not a good idea at all. You need to call a RAPE Hotline and get some help even if you don't want to. I know you might shy away from it BUT if you get professional help you have a good chance of putting it behind you.

    • i know..just don't knw where to staART...im used to 'fixing" everything myself

  • Get therapy.

    • i want to..but its money I don't have..and a handful of close friends know...but theyre all in school..my parents don't and musnt ever...

    • I don't believe the rape crisis centre charges the victims a penny...

    • yes I did contact one near home..but the woman isn't helpful at all..she expects me to understand al what I am feeling and keeps asking so what are you going to do about that I'm like isn't that why you are here? to help me figure this all out? she says no. so I don't know wtf she is doiing so I stopped going

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