In a guy's point of view, should I be ashamed of my virginity?

[Anonymous]

I'm seventeen. Me and some friends were playing the have you ever/ ten question game, or whatever it's called. Someone said "I'm a virgin" and only me and that person kept our fingers up while mostly everyone else put their fingers down. The rest as well was sexual and my fingers stayed up most of the time. Everyone made me feel embarrassed and ashamed. I told them that I'm waiting to find the right person to share that physical connection with but they just made me feel pathetic. I would've stuck up for myself, but by being put on the spot, I didn't have the chance. What do you think?

[Anonymous]

i'm 19 and a virgin.

while I have thought it over (and over and over and over) enough to the point where I have come to terms with it and no longer beat myself down for it, I really regretted doing what I did with the first person I was sexual with. the second as well, because that went farther.

wait for the right person- for any kind of sexual encounter. and make sure they're a good person- not just because your dating them, but because they are a good person that cares about you and that you care about.

[Glasgirl10]

You should never feel ashamed that you're still a virgin. Do you know what that means? It means you have something your other friends don't have - and that's respectability! You respect yourself too much to lower yourself to have sex with someone you're not even in love with. Losing your virginity is entirely up to you but make sure you are 100% ready before you have sex for the first time, make sure that you trust your lover before you do anything and be aware of your options regarding contraception.

[CandydChalazn]

Well then if your friends made you feel that bad then they aren't that friendly :-/

but thers no shame, I'm waiting too and it makes your first time more special

[mysteryliner]

also take into account that some of your friends probably didn't have the courage to say they were still a virgin or were being "cool".

You shouldn't be ashamed that you had the courage to speak the truth and also shouldn't be ashamed about still being a virgin.

Although there is no physical "seal" like in female body's that make the a virgin or not.

The mental part is also important, you'll remember that first person for the rest of your life.

So it's better if it's not some random girl.

[SplashyAxis]

You shouldn't ever feel embarrassed or ashamed in those situations. Just because some of your friends have had sexual encounters doesn't mean you should feel ashamed that you haven't. If you want to wait for the right person, then you stick to what you want to do and don't give into peer pressure. You're only 17, you have so much time to explore that particular area of your life.

[jhova23]

Be proud of your virginity because when it's gone you can't get it back. Stay strong and make sure it's right for you. They envy you trust me, having that kind of self control is rare in females nowadays. Don't give in to the peer pressure.

[Reginelli]

No, that is nothing to be ashamed of at all. Don't let anyone force you into anything. Wait until you know you are ready. Real friends shouldn't make you feel that way.

[MrShy1991]

I regularly end up in these situations at Uni and openly admit that I'm still a Virgin, its nothing to be ashamed off, in fact a few off my friends say they regret their first time so your better holding off until your ready not because everyone else is doing it.

Sounds kind of corny but I'm not religious I just don't feel ready.

[RoboWonder]

Of course not. I completely understand what you mean when you said you're waiting for the right person; so am I. Don't let anyone make you feel ashamed of your virginity.

[bofrey]

I've being a virgin until 21.

It's ridiculous that, in China, every man want to marrige a virgin, while every man want to sleep with girls the more the better. I can only tell you that if you are in China, you are too young to have sex, and if you keep be a virgin until marrige, you should be proud.