Is anal sex 2 times a week too much of a restriction?

Question

My boyfriend who I live with likes anal sex, but I told him I don't like it because it feels really uncomfortable, specially because he likes to pound really hard.I don't really mind making him happy once in a while, but if it was up to him, he would do it everyday.So we had agreed that he can do me anally no more than 2 times per week, and that he cannot go over one hour each time (he usually comes in half an hour so one hour seems fair to me if he wants a bit more). Also if he cums once, there is no second rounds even if he still has time left.He obviously accepted because he has no choice.Do you think I'm been to harsh on him? I love him very much and I don't want to be mean either.

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

My girl really likes anal, yet we probably only do it twice a week. I think you're being VERY generous and understanding about it, and you in no way should feel guilty. I would have suggested that not only should you set this limit, but that he also needs to work on ways of making it more enjoyable for you at the same time. Whether that is more lube, more prep time, learning to move more slowly or more gently, whatever.

You don't OWE him anal, and it's really awesome of you to do it anyway (most girls wouldn't) because you know he likes it so much, but that doesn't mean he can't also make an effort to make it more enjoyable for you too. A big part of the reason the girls I've been with have liked it so much is because I worked hard to make sure they would; I didn't just slam it in and say "take it!"

AustinMan · Accepted Answer

You need to set rules and boundaries that you're comfortable with.  My wife and I, like me and my girl friends in the past, do it several times a week, sometimes as often as daily, without problems.  If it's uncomfortable, maybe you need a little more lube.  After you've done it a few times, it usually starts to feel really good.

workingmom · Accepted Answer

I'm a bit surprised that a guy who loves you and knows you are uncomfortable with anal would continue to ask for it!

My boyfriend once asked and I gave a definitive NO and he has never mentioned it again and we are have a wonderful life filled with great sex!

Jsvrgn · Accepted Answer

I think you are being very generous!   My last boyfriend LOVED it..i would at best give in once a week.  I can enjoy it if I am in the mood, but if I am not, no way no how.  I hope he knows what a great girlfriend he has!

caligirl3 · Accepted Answer

if you don't wanna do something you shouldn't push yourself in effort just to please someone

sixstring · Answer

No, I'd say it's a fair deal.

kheserthorpe · Answer

I'd consider it pretty generous. Anything uncomfortable HAS to be negotiated.

normalice · Answer

harsh would be saying "no. never." Twice a week makes you very understanding.

Blueeyes300 · Answer

I don't think it's being harsh because you're not doing it to punish/limit him you are doing it because that's what you are comfortable with. And if it's not comfortable, it's not pleasurable and there's no point doing anal sex or any other kind of sex unless you're both going to enjoy it.

sikoo31 · Answer

i think that's more than fair.

MikeK · Answer

It's perfectly acceptable.  I would be thrilled.

TwiztedTD · Answer

I think this is fair enough!

RecoveringVirgin · Answer

No that's about normal. I'm straight but that's about as often as I use butt plugs on myself. Haven't expereinced any negative side effects.

Anonymous · Answer

You have been generous as

Anonymous · Answer

You have been extremly nice to him.  That is a lot of anal sex compared to other girls, and the length of time is enormous.  He is a super lucky guy.  Damn I need a girlfriend like you.  If he messes up, give me a shout.lol.   You're incredible.