Is anal sex a dominant thing...especially when you are in a fight?

Is anal sex considered a "dominant thing" when you and the husband/bf have been arguing and he wants ONLY anal sex? Seems like whenever we argue lately...I will go to bed to get away from the situation and he comes in and pushes for anal sex. Its almost like I am being punished for arguing with him. Is it a dominance thing?
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  • do you agree to it?

    if so. why? why would you even have sex before solution is reached, from the argument. let alone anal sex.

    if you have to leave to get some peace, that means you are not discussing things respectfully. and it means the argument has not been resolved.

    Instead of telling him ill finish discussing the matter later, when he's able to speak calmly, you turn around & give him anal. esp if you think he's trying to punish you?

    that sounds like you think you should be punished and like he has the right to punish. And that you are arguing for no reason.

    im not seeing a point to any of this.

    if there's a problem, deal with it. _Before_ engaging in sex. if he doesn't respect you. ie would rather punish you for having a different mind, than resolve anything. leave him.

    • You must have missed the comments where she said she picked fights because she finds it hot.

    • No. I did not. She did not mention that in her question.

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  • it is in our fantasies, but in reality it actually requires a lot of care and patience. Even so, once I'm in and you're taking it smoothly, the feeling of dominance and control is almost overwhelming. And if you end up enjoying it, nothing augments a sense of power more than a show of approval.

    • That is true about care and patience. some say anal is a form of "deeper commitment". Do you agree without having your mind in the gutter? lol

    • heh. for the girl it can be a sign of deeper commitment. This isn't always the case, though. Religious girls, for example, tend to have anal sex to technically preserve their virginity until marriage. But, if the girl isn't eager to have anal from the start, then allowing it to occur can be viewed as a deeper commitment, but if they were eager to have anal, it's just dirty fun. The same rule applies for men, it just turns out that most men fall in the 'eager' category.

  • The way you describe it...it sure looks like he wants to 'punish' you...

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  • Yeah.

    • I say that though my partner won't have anal. But dominance is definitely a reason I want it - maybe the main reason. And if I could get away with doing it in that situation ... yeah I'd probably especially enjoy it.

    • I didn't like him acting that way when we had the first HUGE fight and he tried that...but now its almost to the point where I argue with him just to spice it up in the bedroom...haha

    • that is really hot. lol. I'm jealous ;P

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  • yup

    you got it

    • Thanks. It's kind of hot to me.

    • so you better don't let him know that or else it won't be fun anymore

  • Is anal sex considered a "dominant thing"? Yeah