Is it awkward to make the first move towards a hand job?

I've been dating this guy for like 2 months now and the farthest we've been doing is just making out. But I want to do more with him like hang job and fingering. We've talked about how far we would go before, but never really said we would just kinda hinted around at it. And I don't think anytime soon, unless we go to his house and actually be alone, is he going to finger me. I was wondering if the next time I see him this weekend should I make the first move while making out to give him a hand job? I'm afraid he might be surprised or be like what the hell? At first. Or should I give him kinda a heads up? Or do most guys usually like the confidence, take a hold type of girl in these situations?
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  • The answers that suggest sort of moving your hand(s) in that direction slowly/playing along the top of his boxers/pants basically describe what I always do. I find that if like you've said its sort of been suggested that things might become more serious and neither of you has objected to it - you are both probably just shy to start. If you move your hands slowly downwards on him and kind of play around that area he will have time to guide your hands elsewhere or stop you in some other way if he isn't interested. Chance is he is though. I've never had a guys stop me. I just think you need to be sure that this is really what you want to do before you start... he probably won't appreciate you quiting halfway. Good luck.
    oh and a random tip : if you are uncomfortable in whatever position you are in, move or ask him to move. Trust me, he won't mind much and it will be better for him too if you are more comfortable and able to move the way you want.

  • No guy is going to say no to a hand job! Just while your making out start doing it. He may be surprised but chances are. He ain't gonna stop you. Just go for it. Guys like confidence. Its sexy! Show your confident! And if he doesn't touch you. Guide him! Show him what you want! You will get it!

  • While your making out, start touching him in those spots, if he likes it, he'll move your hand around to the point where it makes him feel good. if he doesn't like it, he won't do anything but to stop making out... but I'm sure he'll be horny enough to do it (x

Most Helpful Guys

  • The next time you guys are laying around, kissing, doing whatever (you don't even be have to kissing), if you have you hand on his chest you can casually start moving it down toward his pants. This is the way that the majority of girls have gone about this with me. Some girls like to play with the elastic part of the top of the guy's underwear or boxers, right before they start putting their hand down his pants. If he doesn't want you to do that, he can stop you or get up or move your hand away. If you slowly do it, it won't be a problem.

    If he stops you, then you probably want to ask him what's up. Everything should happen slowly the first time, I imagine.

  • There is no way that this guy would say what the hell if you gave him a hand job. I think if you slowly stroked him down there and did something like bite his ear while making out with him that he would get the idea. If you don't want to just grab a hold of him you could also put your hand between his pants and his boxers (Then he would really get the idea).

    Also you can make it easier (if you want him to finger you) if you straddle him while making out. It will turn him on and it might make him a little more adventurous :) Good luck.

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  • Do you massage that area while making out? It would be easier to transition to giving a hand job if you've already been touching him while clothed.

  • I will tell you 100% unless the guy has some sort of weird thing about taking it slowly (and most don't), that your guy will LOVE IT if you go down his pants first. There's just something about it that drives us crazy. Me personally, when a girl does it, it almost takes my breath away, my stomach tenses up and my hips automatically push up and it feels amazing. I can guarantee your guy will love it.

  • You could tell him beforehand, but only a minute before. That way he can quickly get excited about it. Before you do it, remind him of how you guys might do that if you ever got the chance, and then tell him now is the time. Good luck and have fun.

  • I'd say don't give him a heads up, because the waiting will be difficult for him. Just surprise him with it when you get him alone. I'm sure he most likely is going to enjoy it!

  • Damn why can't I find more girls like you, next time while your passionately making out, you should tell him to go all the way

    • More girls like me? Lol Is that good or bad?

    • You being all aggressive and kinda shy at the same time like almost my first time, there is nothing wrong being aggressive trust me I'll be an old man soon, and you know giggidy giggidy most importantly respect yourself

  • Exactly what he said. Don't ask him. Go down, stall, not too long though, he'll stop you if he doesn't want you to continue.

  • Give it a try. He may be happy that you made the first move. If not, he will likely let you know, but it is probably not a deal breaker.

  • Honestly, like Bduffman, I wish there were more girls like you imo. Most guys would probably love it haha I know I would xP, but yeah there is the chance where he might be not comfortable with it so I would say go with what budphillips said, :].

  • I would say go ahead and make the first move, I doubt he is going to stop you. If he does not return the favor, just tell him when he is done. That it is your turn.