Is it bad to trap a guy by having his baby?

I had an idea to trap this guy I like by having his baby but then when it was time to do it I couldn't because I got a bad felling and I was asking my friend and she said that she did not know what to say but I think if I trap him that is the only way to show him that I'm the girl for him so do you think I should do it or I shouldn't do it and why.
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Most Helpful Girls

  • What a stupid, silly, immature idea. How is that going to trap him? It's 2008 not 1950. How many single mothers are out there who's baby daddy dumped them BOTH the mom and the child. What if that happens to you? You're just going to ruin your life and 10 years from now regret it and you might even resent the kid for messing up your youth. While your friends are out partying, staying out late, finishing school, living it up at college and doing all sorts of exciting new things after high school (not to mention enjoying senior year) you'll be at home wiping a shitty butt, breast feeding, trying to figure out why the baby won't stop crying, frustrated with life, working because a baby doesn't take care of it's self, someone needs to make money to give it everything it needs or do you expect mommy and daddy to raise it for you? Sorry to burst your bubble, but having a baby doesn't mean a fairy tale ending with a big white wedding dress, a castle in the sky, your prince charming being there with you and the baby forever. Nope, it means, sleepless nights, days where you don't know what to do, the guy hating you eventually for ruining his life (IF he sucks it up and sticks with you), you resenting this mistake, divorce, lies, cheating, therapy, unhappiness, worrying about your finances, where are you going to live, friends go out the door because at first your friends will all be like aaawww a baby, how cute! Let me hold him but as soon as he starts crying and going #2, getting sick, it'll be like 'hey take this baby back. Um like there's this totally amazing party tonight and we have to go get ready. Kegs stands! YAY! See ya later, girly! " and one day you'll wake up and be like damn when did my friends leave me behind? Yeah, think about it. Your 17 and I doubt at this age nobody's the girl or guy for anybody forever and ever.

  • This is an awful, selfish, manipulative idea. The guy is or isn't interested in you and having a baby is not going to change that. If he is interested in you, you don't need to have a baby to keep him, and if he isn't interested he might not stick around even if there is a baby (if he does stick around it will be based on responsibility he feels NOT love).

    These are the wrong and very immature reasons to have a child. If you are interested in this guy you need to focus on being nice and friendly to him so that he wants to spend time with you, not trying to trick or force him. You shouldn't want to make someone you love feel fearful and resentful and I'm pretty sure that is how he will feel when he finds out you are trying to force him to be with you by having his baby. You also need to realize that no matter how much you like/love someone, you CANNOT force them to love you. If they don't return your feelings you have to accept/respect that.

    Please don't have a baby. I don't think you are thinking seriously about all the possible consequences of your actions and I really don't think this will be a successful way to make a guy like you.

  • First off if you can even ask this question you are much too immature to be bringing children into the world. Second I have two children of my own and am not with their fathers, I didn't try to trap them by any means, but I am not with either of them which goes to show you that no matter what the situation it doesn't mean you are going to stay together! If you want to show this guy you are the girl for him their are much better ways to do it! Be there for him when he needs you if you feel you have to trap a guy to get him to stay then he really isn't the one for you. Good luck in whatever you do but please don't try to get pregnant, you have your whole life ahead of you. ENJOY IT!

  • REALLY bad idea. Not only are you too young to give that baby the care that it deserves, but this is NOT going to make any guy love you. In fact, if you deliberately get pregnant in an attempt to trap him, any guy is going to be furious with you. Deception is not a good way to buy love.

    You are 17 years old. Do you want to be committing to this guy for the rest of your life just yet? Because no matter what he chooses to do (he may well leave you), you will be tied to him forever, because he is the father of your child. You got a bad feeling and that feeling was 100% correct. Please don't do this, for your sake, for his sake, and for the sake of that potential child.

Most Helpful Guys

  • Terrible idea. How would you like it if a guy liked you, and you didn't like him, so the guy decides to kidnap you and take you where nobody could find you and then has his way with you? Think is far fetched? Just google "girl kidnapped" and read the news stories.

    Basically you're doing the same, except that you're also ruining the life of not just one person, but the future life of the baby. Women have incredible intuition and you said it yourself----you had a bad feeling. You don't need an answer from this site---you already know the answer. You're young, and you will meet plenty of other guys.

  • Do not ever do that. Just think what you would be doing to that child's life, and the father's life. If he doesn't want a child, he will never be happy being a father, and the child will never be happy, feeling unwanted and unloved. Children should be loved and wanted; not used as pawns to hurt people.

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  • I really don't think that's a good idea, I'm taking this class at my school called parenting and children and we were just learning about teen pregnancy and about all the risks and stuff and then we also learned that most relationships don't last if they think having a baby will help because it doesn't. It actually adds more stress. And I saw that your under 18? That's way to young to have a baby and maybe you don't see that now but if you wait it will be so much easier for you because right now you should probably be focusing on school. And I know that's probably the last thing on your mind because you think your in love but please don't do it. That's not fair to him and it will hurt you soo much when you have a baby and have no idea what your doing. Good luck, I hope everything works out for you.

  • I can't believe you've just asked this - trapping a man because of a pregnancy is outrageous because not only are you sacrificing his free will to do what he wants with his life, but IF you did fall pregnant, then you would be robbing an infant's happiness and chances of a loving, happy father in years to come. Besides,what makes you think he would stay? There would be a VERY HIGH chance of him leaving his supposed future child and have no intentions to be a part of the child's life.

    I hope you get your act together and see how silly and immature you have been.

  • You are very self-fish for even thinking of bring an innocent life into this world all because you want to be with a guy. And even if you had is baby, there is not saying that he will stay around or be with you. He can be in the baby's life and not be with you. You are very immature and with a thought like that and being under 18 you are no where near ready to have a baby, a life that you are responsible for and that would depend on you.

  • Forcing someone to be a father against their will is essentially rape. Why doesn't it result in jail time?

    What kind of ignorant trash thinks this is a good idea?

    He won't stay with you anyway. He'll just be forced to pay for the kid even though it's entirely your fault.

  • That's not good at all. If you really are the girl for him, you won't do such a mean thing to him.

    Just wait until you are ready, and then make sure he wants a baby also.

  • you disgust me!

    i hope you didn't get pregnant

  • Thats would be the most selfish thing anyone can ever do, and just because you have his baby doesn't mean he's going to stay with you, you are stupid for thinking that and he should find someone else who isn't as selfish as you.

  • awesome question!

    do you think other girls think like this and have trapped a guy by having his baby to show him your the one?

  • is it bad to trap a guy by having his baby.YES. I personally don't care what the situation it I think that it is wrong. when it comes to finding whose right for you, it has to not only you thinking that he is the one for you, but he has to too you know. I've seen way too many of my guy friends fall into this category where there girlfriends or ex girlfriends tried to get themselves pregnant just so they can trap them like your trying to do. hunny, not only will it make your life miserable, it will make his miserable also. if you really care about him, I don't think that you should put him through that.

  • Trapping a man is horrible because it drastically alters his life in a way he doesn't want it altered in. Just ask yourself would like some girl to do that to your future son one day? Probably not, if you're being honest with yourself. Plus, you will be bringing a child into this world without a father that truly wanted him. It's unfair to the man, the child, and even yourself. Trapping a man will garuntee you a relationship not worth having, he will resent you for ever, and eventually he will leave you.

    Honestly, speak to a psychiatrist about your desire to trap this man, perhaps a therapist will be able to help you find the root cause of why you want to do such a horrible thing.

  • Why do girls do shit like this? You'll be fat and pregnant.

    You will RUIN your body. He will no longer find you sexy. You will have to raise a kid for 20 years.

    And your vagina will be all sorts of used up. Guys hate that

  • Bad idea, grow up. One day (perhaps not) you'll understand how stupid of a question this is. This is how people ruin theirs and other lives because their own brain doesn't work properly. If you truly think this way, get some help quick.

    • Ya, she shouldn't have a baby to keep a guy down. but she has a right to the ask the question and get advice, she doesn't need to be put down for it. that's y she's askn for advice

    • People shouldn't ask common sense questions.....Sure, everyone has the right to be stupid I guess and ask stupid questions.