Is it because I'm not wet enough?

[Anonymous]

I'm having difficulty getting wet when I need to, when I watch porn or masturbate I have NO issues getting really wet yet, whenever I have sex (and it's a recurring problem too) I can never get as wet as I feel I should. Sometimes the sex with my partner is burning, like irritating burning, not "ow ow ow ow ow ow", I put some lube up there, burning stops and it's very slippery and feels amazing. My partner is wider than I am used to, and I have a very tight vagina (kegels, yay), he can only fit one finger in there, and I have itty bitty fingers so I can get 2 in there with some encouragement (lube or my own wetness). So, can I be having an issue getting wet? My partner tells me I'm very wet when I ask if I'm wet enough for him, and the way he says it makes me feel I'm stupid for asking. Any ideas?

[dave216]

Yes, I have a couple of thoughts. You may not be quite comfortable with him yet. Perhaps you are still just a bit nervous about sex and that is holding back the juices.

More likely the problem is your boyfriend. I suspect he is circumcised. A circumcised penis has no extra skin and so the penis does not slide within its covering, it slides against you. This action tends to pull your juices out of you and causes a dry vagina. Also the added friction and lack of lubrication leads to the burning sensation. Adding artificial lube is the only way to fix that problem.

[Asker]

He's uncut. XD

[tex151]

Yeah I am going to disagree with you, about the circumcision thing, yeah I am and I have not encountered that problem, every girl I have been with has stayed extremely wet. I have never heard of because your circumcised your penis would pull her juices out and make her dry, especially when wearing a condom how does that make sense?

[Anonymous]

Do you mind he is uncut I am and I've always been insecure

[Asker]

I'm actually more comfortable with his uncut penis than I am with a cut one, cut penis's just don't look appealing to me, they actually look, well, unnatural and that has become such a turn off for me. Yeah sure, cut guys are "cleaner" and such but most uncut males either keep it clean or they don't. Plus the foreskin is actually fun for me, it gives me all kinds of creative zeal when it comes to hand jobs & such.

[Opinion Owner]

Oooo that's good yeah I shower a lot jus cus

[Asker]

It's the same with chicks, we get smeg too, and we have to clean it, otherwise it reeks! So, I don't know why girls complain about uncut penis's "smelling bad" when they don't realize that they're parts can smell just as bad.

[Opinion Owner]

O didn't know girls get that, well I shower a lot because of sports so I shower everyday anyway

[Asker]

Any questions you have on the sexuality section of this site, I'm knowledgeable in most bodily fluids and anything pertaining to genitalia or sex in general, and I frequent the section, so I'll try to answer if you give me a heads up.

[Kate1005]

Try Damiana pills...Seriously they are a natural aphrodisiac of sorts...mostly because it just increases blood flow to your girl parts and therefore makes you wetter. Personally I think that they can just be fun to try out. I've done them before and nothing bad happened and no bad side-effects.

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[coffee]

first off, you shouldn't even try to insert anything until your wet. it could cause irritation and even tearing. foreplay is great for warming everything up. or you could arouse yourself before sex.

[gravygirl]

Watch porn or masturbate before having sex. See if that helps. If it does I would say you're just not getting turned on enough before penetration.

[l-hedoniste]

LUBE!

[Caliguy88]

Just use lube and start getting oral. Nothing wrong with that!

[Anonymous]

sometimes you have to pee and you don't stay wet. like it sounds really dumb but its true if you gotta pee you won't stay wet at all