Is being easy a good thing now??

Last year I felt that a guy was more likely to see me as relationship material if I didn't let him in my pants when we hooked up. It seemed to be true because I started dating a guy after hooking up a few times but only above the waist. Since then I have broken up with that guy, but kept my rules. However, guys seem to get annoyed by this. Do you think a guy would think of me as LESS than relationship material because I won't have sex or go to third base? I'm in college btw.
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  • The entire concept of being "too easy" is pretty much a girl thing. A man who is looking for a relationship won't look down on you for having sex with him -- the problem is that many women judge all men based on their experiences with a man who only wanted sex. Their defense mechanism is to make men wait for sex, which pisses off the guys who aren't only seeking sex. We feel that we're being held responsible for what other men have done.

    If you look at it like a guy does, you'll understand. To us, sex isn't some special moment that should only be shared by two people who love each other. When a girl says "I'm not ready." we pretend that we understand, but we really don't. We don't see what the big deal is, and we certainly don't think that sex should demand a bigger commitment. It's just sex.

    Setting rules for sex can turn the relationship into a drama-infested formal affair. You're making things more complicated than they have to be, and it's just another way to play games and control the relationship. The way we see it, if you're dating a guy why SHOULDN'T you want to have a physical relationship with him? It's not like men are the only ones who enjoy sex.

    Note: I realize that some guys are ONLY after sex. Pick your men wisely and hold yourself accountable for your decisions. Once you've made what you feel is a wise decision and you're dating him, try to remember that he's probably not like the guys who have used you in the past. After all, you chose him. Having sex with a good guy isn't a bad thing, and it doesn't make you too "easy".

    • Um I don't think that's true. if you sleep with a guy the first night I think your chances of a relationship are slim to none. I've heard rare stories about it happening but half the time you don't know if he's really a good guy until its too late so that's why we make them wait to protect ourselves.

    • I never mentioned sleeping with a guy on the first night. From the questions I've seen on this site, girls will often wait months before getting physical just to avoid the label of "easy". The biggest problem, as I see it, is that girls aren't being very discerning when they pick their boyfriends. The point of my answer was that it often doesn't matter WHEN you choose to have sex, but who you choose to have it with. Use good judgment in picking your mates, and they shouldn't leave you after sex.

  • Each guy is different. I'd love it if a woman wasn't "giving it" to a lot of guys.

    Sexually: No I'd love it if a girl wasn't easy. For me, easy is a turn off. But, that's upbringing and faith thrown in to make my opinion.

    Now if you're "a tease," I could see how that'd be frustrating from some guy's perspectives. You also have to be really careful doing that, as some boys would be bad at handling that.

    But actually, if I were at a point where things were getting really really hot and heavy, and I actually wanted to go further, I'd respect the girl who said she wasn't ready for something that fast. And I'd actually think that a girl was thinking more of a longer relationship if she didn't give it up right away. Since I want long term relationships, then I know I'd e up for it. If I were the type who wanted short hot passionate flings or hookups, then it'd be a turn off if you didn't have sex soon, but, again, I'm not that type of guy.

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