Is better to lose your virginity to an experienced man?

[musriya88]

I've been dating this guy for about 6months and he is 12 years my senior (20 & 32), but I really like him and I think he likes me. He is the first man I seriously considered having sex with, I know he is very experienced and that makes me nervous. Will it be better with an experienced man or a virgin like me?

[Hunterboyz]

Its really not about experience.

Its the guy.

If the guy show you genuine respect, then you have your guy.

Only you know how he treats you, so only you know how he will treat you in bed.

If most guys know you are a virgin, they tend to try in work with you in try to make it a good experience with you.

Lets be honest though, it will hurt no matter how gentle.

just understand that its your decision.

If he is pushing the issue, then it probably a bad idea.

Good Luck Pretty Girl

Sincerely,

A Loving Black Man

[musriya88]

Thanks that was the best answer I've goten from a man..I appereciate that :)

[Hercules]

An experienced man might make you feel better, but, because it's your first time, you'll likely focus on the pain (that is, if your hymen is still intact).

Also, some girls don't feel pain, so who knows.

If you do sleep with him, I strongly suggest telling him you're a virgin so he can be more gentle.

[shevvon21]

i don't know. that's a toughie. I was with a older man before as a well. I lost my virginity to him. I was 18, he was 26. I thought I loved him and he loved me. but really he was just in love with the idea of being with a younger woman. so you are so right to be cautious. it is better to think things through than to just do it, and wind up regretting it down the line. but if he seems truly genuine, and you love him, I mean a whole lot, I say go for it. why not?

[musriya88]

Your answer really helped me..I have this really strong feeling that he is just infatuated with being my first it just the little things he does and says but then sometimes he can be so sweet and it seems sincere...I like him a lot and I think the feeling is mutual but there's that little voice that's saying "uh oh don't do it," and its hard to ignore it.

[Sasha]

As long as he is good guy and he respects the fact that it might hurt a bit for you. But, when I think experienced I think exposure. Just protect yourself. Sometimes if men know you are "new", they try and get you to go bare because they know you are clean. If he does, don't fall for it girl. Stay safe.All things considered I don't see a problem with it.

[Anonymous]

Nooo dont. wait for a virgin!