Is it cheating to masturbate on cam for somebody besides your girlfriend or boyfriend?

This girl I used to work with calls me late at night sometimes after she has been drinking and twice in the past week we ended up talking about sex and how we don't see our own significant other often enough and we ended up masturbating on cam for each other. I don't really feel like it's cheating since we aren't touching each other and only talk online. I think it's the same as watching p*rn to get turned on.
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  • I would consider it cheating, yes. It's a lot more personal than watching p*rn. I know I'd feel hurt and betrayed if my boyfriend did that, and I would never do it while I was in a relationship. If you respect your girlfriend and care about her feelings you should stop, unless you have both agreed that it is acceptable in the terms of your relationship. If you don't want to clear it with her first (and risk upsetting her), stick with regular p*rn. I understand why it's more exciting to chat with someone live, but your relationship should come first- if that seems like too big a sacrifice, maybe you shouldn't be in a relationship right now.

    • When I say your relationship should come first, of course I don't mean it should come before EVERYTHING. But if you choose to be in one, it should DEFINITELY come before video chatting with other girls. If video chatting matters more to you, maybe you should break up with your girlfriend and have a video relationship with that drunk video girl instead.

    • Just an idea.

  • i don't know if I would definitely call it cheating, but it doesn't really look good for you. If you were my boyfriend, I'd have dumped you if I found out. p*rn doesn't bother me at all, it's attractive women who have a job and get paid to take their clothes off and do things. they don't get to know the person watching them personally, and they don't get to see the guys jerking off to them. but you know this woman and didn't just watch, you let her see you masturbate too. I'd definitely be hurt by that.

  • Since you're asking this question, and I'm assuming you don't want your girlfriend knowing, I'd think you have reason to worry. It sounds like you're just trying to justify your actions, and you're hoping we'll agree with you.

    • Same thoughts here.

    • Definitely.

Most Helpful Guys

  • I use common sense the following rule: If you feel comfortable discussing what you've done or thinking about doing with your girlfriend then it's probably okay. If it's something you'd try to hide from her, then it's probably wrong.

  • Answer this first. If you met her in some discreet location, sat 4 feet away from each other naked and masturbated together would that be cheating?

    • The p0rn we view is digital media and has no intent of its own. Neither does your hand or a sex toy. The webcam girl does. You are sharing intent with her.

    • Agreed.

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  • Wow...

    I didn't know guys are OK with that.

    I'll keep this in mind when I get a boyfriend. I'll be sure to masturbate for other dudes(hopefully they'll do the same for me).

    • I would rather have my girlfriend cam for me or send me pics but she won't. I have no emotions for the other girl it's just nice having the attention from a girl and seeing an amateur girl naked.

    • And if your girlfriend didn't feel comfortable having sex yet, would you seek that from another girl as well?

  • Yes that is cheating 100%. Its not the same as p*rn... especially since you personally know this woman. Its not like its some random girl you met on a sit (not that, that would make it better).

  • A while back I read an article regarding the definition of cheating by a noted psychologist. He defined cheating as " any activity with another person that results in sexual arousal and climax".

    He also put forth another form cheating" the emotional cheating". And he defined that as " any undisclosed close bond/friendship with person of opposite gender".

    Take it for what is worth!

  • Yes.

  • i agree with your point of view. Cheating can only happen when you are physically with a person

  • Yes

  • yeah I would call that cheating.

  • thats 100% cheating.

  • absolutely cheating. If you don't get to see your girlfriend enough then break up and stop cheating on her. you know very well it's not the same as p*rn.

  • Yeah it is

  • I'd consider what you're doing cheating, yes. You know this is not p*rn - you're mutually masturbating on cam with a girl you know.