Is deflowering a virgin disgusting?

[Anonymous]

I´m a virgin and I´m 18 years old. I´m dating someone and, while we haven´t discussed sex yet, I can see it happening in the future. As most girls, my biggest concern is pain and not pleasing him. A couple of days ago I saw an amateur p*rn video of a virgin having sex for the first time. When the guy entered her she was in what appeared to be extreme pain. She relaxed later on and even started enjoying it, but it seemed to really hurt her at first. Then, when the guy got his penis out of her, it had blood all over it. It looked disgusting. If I was a guy, I would never want to be with a virgin and I would be disgusted. The guy seemed to enjoy it later on as did she, but still, it was gross.

[xHoneyxBeex]

You can't base real life experiences off of p*rn. First of all, every girl is different. Every girl will experience different levels of pain or pleasure as well as different bleeding amounts when losing their virginity.

Some girls bleed a lot, others don't bleed at all when they lose their virginity. For some girls it hurts a lot and for others it doesn't hurt much at all. I did bleed some when I lost mine. No it was not "disgusting". He did not have much blood on his d*ck, it was just a little.

If the guy truly cares about you and knows you are a virgin then he should expect there to be some blood. Hopefully, he will love you and the blood or anything else will not phase him at all.

The pleasure aspect of first time sex varies as well. I honestly enjoyed my first time. It literally only hurt for a few minutes and then it stopped. It wasn't terribly painful, it was just a pinching sensation. But, like I said, every girl is different.

Now while closing my answer I must once again say, p*rn is NOT real life. It holds very little truth to the majority of sexual interactions. Once you are more experienced, you will realize that. Good luck!

[Hyped_up_on_coffee]

It doesn't hurt for everyone and not everyone bleeds. I didn't bleed. But I've had sex on the rag and it wasn't disgusting .

[Anonymous]

I had sex with a virgin and it was not nasty at all. I don't recall her bleeding either. She didn't know what she was doing but that's normal obviously. I just made sure she was comfortable and she ended up enjoying it for the most part.

I did have sex with a girl on her period before and I pulled out and saw streams of blood on the condom and though "Cool!" and went right back in! It was awesome. She said it helped her period.

Do not think p*rn is how it really is! Honestly, the p*rn industry is distorting our views of sex significantly and causing people to think the weirdest things about sex.

If this guy you are with is grossed out... he's a pansy.

[summiter]

It is a special moment for both of you. Full of anxiety. for him if he is inexperienced and obviously for you. Do not worry about pleasing him so much on your first time. Give him a handjob or blowjob or two before and he will be just fine. Of course, there might be some blood. Put a towel underneath you and make sure both of you are ready for it. Consider using some lube.Have him take his time use a lot of foreplay (tongue/fingers) to get you to have an orgasm before insertion. If you don't is is probably due to nerves. Oh yes, of course, make him wear a condom, you do not want to worry about an std or or a baby your first time. Take it slow and enjoy.

[MrOracle]

If your guy is decent, you don't need to worry about pleasing him. He will (and should) be mostly concerned about YOUR experience the first few times. Experiences vary widely for girls. Some girls have almost no pain, and some feel pain for the first several times, gradually getting better each time.

I've been through this twice, and both times, I was far more concerned about her than about me. A week down the road, my needs were being taken care of just fine, so I wasn't at all concerned about myself when it was her first time (or even second or third).

Just know that, however it is for you your first time, it WILL get better, and you have to keep trying. Focus on YOU until things start feeling good for you, and THEN, however long that takes, you can start worrying about how it feels for him.

[stubbsy]

Guys like being a girls first experience, its the feeling of purity a guy gets when being a girls first,x

[blackkid2]

If any place is a bad source for the truth it is p*rn.

[jacquesvol]

Indeed.

[Kiran04]

Deflowering a virgin isn't so much disgusting as it is awkward and dissatisfying. Blood doesn't put me off so much as the amount of pain and discomfort she has to go through. It's also usually a very brief experience because of said discomfort. I can pretty much count on not being able to come unless she finishes me with her mouth, which she most certainly won't because of all the blood and other bodily fluids associated with hymen breaching.

So no, it's not disgusting, but it's not glamorous either.

[Dragan]

Porn is not a source for that. When you love a girl, it's all natural. Subjective experience is different than p*rn. There is nothing ugly in defloration.

[Anonymous]

Don't believe what you see in these films. You don't know if that wasn't made up.

You don't have to be afraid. It will be fine. Just make sure that you're with the right guy and that the time is right for both of you. Everything else you will learn on that day.

To answer your question, no, it isn't disgusting at all.

[jacquesvol]

"an amateur p*rn video of a virgin having sex for the first time." Yeh, sure... As if virgins would have their first time filmed and posted on pron sites..how believable?.. Just a comedy show(with two actors) and a BAD show: one made for guys who kick on girls having pain.