Is he interested in a girl if he just wants to cuddle and not make a move for sex?

[Anonymous]

my friends personally thinks its weird or that he is gay because he slept with me and didn't try to have sex just cuddle with me we kiss at the beginning but as soon as we both got in bed he hold me and we fell asleep. every time I move away he pull me closer. I was surprise I never had a guy sleep with me in the same bed and not try to have sex with me. love the cuddle part which it was nice but I don't know what to think. I love they way he look at me when we are together. they way he kiss me so passionately.

[ivan5252]

I think this story can still mean a lot of things...

See every girl out there seems to think or expect a guy to "be a guy" and hit on girls (esp girls that know they look good) and try to get them in the sack.. The truth (IMO) is that all those guys are the facet for the many others behind them.. and they set the standards/stereotypes because they're the ones out there meeting the girls and getting the attention..

I'm speaking in the guy's defence here by the way. my first kiss was when I was 20 and I didn't lose my virginity until a bit after.. although this is where the guy may differ from me.. that is, I'm the type of person that sees everyone as a friend.. as for the girls that I find attractive, I pursue them as friendly flirting, but then try to feel for substance and go from there.. besides that I don't just go around trying to screw anything that moves..

I'm at a point where a lot of "life" has happened to me.. and still, I can picture myself falling asleep with a girl I like and not trying to have sex with her.. ALthough.. there are other parameters i.e., how well do you know each other, how comfortable, etc.. In my case, I may let one or even two nights go by without sex with a girl I like.. you said that he kissed you very passionately; that's a good sign.. I would definitely mess around in other ways at least.. I think we're the type of people that try to go just a little slower.. more about the moment..

is he an artist by any chance? hehe

[Violet20]

I am so curious why you asked if the guy was an artist? It's cause I had something similar happen lol

[archer86]

He's taking it slow which is what MOST women want in the first place. We wants to make sure he's not thinking of you as a score while you are secure with him treating you as someone who's not a booty call. There are few things worse to a man than wanting a special woman only to mess it up on a misunderstanding or missed opportunity. Ok, your favorite NFL team losing the Super Bowl in a blowout is worse...HAHAHAHA.

Back to reality.

There really are men who enjoy that "mushy" stuff that are oh so important to women such as hugging, cuddling and light kissing. Unless you are a p*rn master like Lexington Steele, you just can't have sex all the time. Because of this, a good man will make every moment with a woman he cares for count. This includes the mushy stuff. Unless all you want is a booty call, enjoy the time while you can. If he was gay, I don't think he would be with you and have all this body contact. A gay person knows what they want and what they don't want, experimentation just doesn't happen. One final aspect to consider is maybe he's inexperienced. If so, you may have to take charge of the situation.

Trust me, there are millions of women who'd love to have a guy like this. Wish the best for you

[Asker]

Thank I'm not complaining but is that every guy I have come in contact with just want to have sex so it threw me off gaurd big time. I love the fact that he just cuddle with me instead than sex because it toke a lot out of me to atlease consider having sex with him and at the end we didn't do anything and I had nothing to regret later

[Anonymous]

Cant win, to much sex not enought sex, you get hugs, pasionate kisses he into you and you still aren't happy, you think maybe he's taking it slow, building up the sexual tension ...enjoy it or if you prefer the 2 min put it in role over and fall asleep then let him know I'm sure he would be happy to do that...