Is it ever okay to cheat?

[skits94]

I'm not happy in my relationship, but I'm also not in a position to break up with my girlfriend.
It is just stale and I'm at the point that I no longer want to repair it. I can't afford my house without her anda she is having a very hard time at the moment, so it's not viable to split up for a while or fair on her. We Haven't had sex for a year! And I just really really want some fun. It's really getting me down. The relationship is over and we both know it but we are still together due to the circumstances.
Thanks : )

[ChetAtkins]

I made this comment once before, and got into a bloody battle with a dingbat. There are times when it's OK. I knew a woman who's husband never touched her for 20 years. But he screwed every other girl in town. She tried to divorce him, but he was a smooth lawyer who knew all the tricks, and didn't want the divorce. I told her to go for it, and she did.

In your case, I think I'd just have an open relationship.

[ChetAtkins]

Pondy blocked me for not backing down. She doesn't know her ass from a hole in the ground. She's an idiot that's probably never even had a boyfriend, but yet she gives advice on relationships. That's very common on here. She lives in a fairy tale world, and she doesn't have a clue about your situation.

[Celtero]

I mean... to me it sounds like you're just gonna create more problems for yourself. Is your girlfriend okay with it? Are you gonna disclose your situation with prospective partners? How is your dilemma going to be resolved? These are questions you need to be asking yourself.

Might be better to split sooner than later, since down the road she could try to claim ownership of the house.

[DizzyDesii]

Wow... u sound like my douche boyfriend who just became my ex yesterday. He no longer wanted to repair us so whatever... i wasted 2 years

[skits94]

It's done now XX so I am no longer a douche. It's complicated not all men are stupid, it's a good thing to worry about hurting another person :( sorry about your break up.

[DizzyDesii]

Yea i never said all men suck or anything, you just reminded me of him when u said u no longer wanna try to fix it

[ZambieMouse]

No! Just break up with her.

[skits94]

It's not That simple when you have a house, shared cars and shared debts

[ZambieMouse]

Break up with her and be roommates instead of two people miserable in a relationship!

[PondyPand]

Never okay. EVER.

[ChetAtkins]

What if he's cheating on you?

[PondyPand]

Never, for either party, at any point.

[ChetAtkins]

So if he was cheating on you, you'd just grin and bear it?

[PondyPand]

Never okay to cheat, and you'd think I'd just let him do it? You're joking.

[ChetAtkins]

I don't know what you'd do, that's why asked you twice.

[PondyPand]

I'd kick his ass so far to the curb he'd be on another country.

[ChetAtkins]

If you had children to feed, and needed to keep a roof over your head, I highly doubt you'd do that. But whatever.

[PondyPand]

Wait, are you trying to tell me I couldn't do that myself? Because fuck off back to the middle ages then.

[PondyPand]

I do not need a cheating pile of scum to provide for me or my children, I can do that happily by myself.

[ChetAtkins]

I don't know if you actually read the question or not, but they no longer want each other. They just need each other to get by financially. I don't think he should cheat, I think he should just have a heart to heart with her. Tell her that she can have all the boyfriends she wants, and he can have all the girlfriends he wants.

[skits94]

@ChetAtkins thanks buddy, your advice is good, I think she's nutty :)

[ChetAtkins]

@skits94 One thing I've learned, is that society doesn't give a shit about you. Society would rather you be miserable, than to break the rules. Fuck that. It's your life, not theirs.

[PondyPand]

No I read it. Regardless of circumstance it's not okay to cheat. It's silly to even make a scenario where you rely on another go get by financially.

[ChetAtkins]

Your idea of a "scenario" is his reality.

[PondyPand]

Then he should fucking get a grip and sort his life out. There's never a reason for that to be the reality and leaving it how it is is simply retarded and lacks forethought.

[skits94]

And you Are just a little 19 year old girl with no life experience, most likely no house, no Mortgage, no debts and no car. You are fucking retarded as you are unable to comprehend the complexity of a failed relationship such as this.

[PondyPand]

I have debts, a car, renting a place and plenty of life experience from an abusive family. Well done for being a dumb cunt and getting in a mess you aren't clever enough to get out of. 🤷 If anyone's retarded, I'd say it's you.

[Necdump]

Talk it over with her, change the type of your relationship to a just convenience close friends, where you can meet other people, be also prepared for her to see other guys

[ChetAtkins]

Perfect solution.

[CheerGirl38139]

OK? Not really.

Understandable? Sometimes.

[skits94]

Under what circumstances would you consider it reasonable in your opinion?

[CheerGirl38139]

I didn't say reasonable

[skits94]

Sorry... Understandable* thanks for replying though.

[CheerGirl38139]

@chetatkins gave a good example of an understandable scenario to me. I still think two wrongs dont make a right tho.

[skits94]

Might move to the USA and find someone else lol. Thanks for Giving me a bit of comfort :) don't know what I will do still though. Cheers for your advice

[ChetAtkins]

Two wrongs don't make a right, but two rights make a left. I'd rather she cheat, than for her to cry herself to sleep every night, while her hubby is out screwing hotties.

[spartan55]

What does that mean? Not in a position to break up with your girlfriend?

[Secret6620]

It's never okay 🤬

[goaded]

No, not really. If it's a matter of finances, talk to her and agree an arrangement about the house, or just accept it and move out.

[bhavy24]

U should tell her that we both are together due to some obligation and for both of us to stay happy we should call dis open relationship so that other person doesn't feel cheated

[ivanhunterjo]

it is never okay to cheat. EVER

[Anonymous]

It’s never ok