Is it healthy to stop masturbating?

Basically, I fucking hate masturbating, I mean, It feels good, But it makes me mentally feel like absolute shit, Pretending to be with girls who in real life would fucking spit on me. I just hate myself for masturbating. I haven't done it in 2 weeks now, And i keep getting urges to, But dont want to. Any advice for how to stop? Or what happens if you do stop? How do you stop yourself from getting boners and stuff? Thanks.
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  • Masturbation and fantasy can both be parts of a normal and healthy sex life, whether you are sexually active or not. Not only that, but masturbation can also help you learn how to have better sex later on, both by letting you understand what feels good, and by helping you learn how to last longer. While it's not healthy—as in beneficial to your health—to stop masturbating, it's not unhealthy either, and if masturbation is negatively affecting your mental health then it might be helpful to stop. More likely, it's not the masturbation so much as your own self-esteem and self-image that are causing you to feel bad, and there are many things you can do to improve in those areas that having nothing to do with masturbation. If you do stop masturbating, though, the only "side effect" you're likely to see is that you may start having wet dreams.

    Sexual arousal is not something that you are ever likely to stop, at least without the power of heavy medication, nor should you. Arousal is a sign that the body is doing what it's evolutionarily supposed to be doing, namely trying to procreate to advance the species. At your age, especially, erections are an inevitable reality of life. It sucks, but you're going to get horny. And then one day you'll be happy that you're horny because you're with someone else who is also horny. And then, eventually, you'll wish that you could be as horny as you were when you were a teenager. One way to curb the arousal, though, is to get involved in other activities that help take your attention away from it. Physical activity, in particular, can be good because it helps keep you in shape, and also serves as a good distraction.

    Long story short: There's nothing wrong with masturbating, but if masturbation really upsets you that much, you should consider channeling that time and energy into some type of physical activity or a hobby that will help distract you from the urge, and also make you feel better about yourself.

  • I went through something similar but with different views. Here is what I did. I stay out of the home. When you're idle th as this when the urges occur the most. If you get an urge, just go running or something. Leave the house asap. You may yourself tired, when you come back, the urge should be gone. After a month you'll refuse to ever again most likely.

    Your confidence should go up and talking to girls should be easier. Guys with guilt from maturation can't talk to girls to save their lives. With the guilt gone you can get a girlfriend much easier if you choose to. If you have a gym membership use it big time.

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  • I think masturbation isn't the only issue you have here. You obviously have some self esteem and self confidence issues. Taking into account that you are under 18, means that you are still growing and changing. Im 18 now but i look 100 times hotter than I did at 16 tbh. Masturbate because it feels good, honestly there's not that many hot male porn stars out there if that makes you feel any better. Stop thinking that you are so below females.
    I tried to stop masturbating because I could get turned on or orgasm with a guy, but I honestly couldnt do I, so I know that side of your frustration. Just do it because it feels good, dont think too far into it.

    • But, You're pretty as fuck, You can have any guy you want, When you masturbate its fine. It feels good and you know you could have sex for real in a heartbeat if you so wished. But people like me, Who are just genetically ugly as fuck. Its just very decietful dont you think? To fool one self into thinking they can have something they never can? Masturbation is sexual by nature. And im tricking myself into allowing myself feelings that i dont deserve because of how i look.

    • Excuse me, but I'll have you know that until this year I thought that guys wanted nothing to do with me. Its still a struggle for me to have someone to text me back. I've never been in a relationship before. I cannot get anyone I damn well please. Just because I have a pretty face doesn't mean I can get guys. I have small boobs and no ass. Im fat. So dont you dare look at my face and be like "Oh she's pretty she has an advantage" because I fucking dont. You have far deeper issues than masturbation. You have an intense inferiority complex and evident self esteem issue. Maybe you should be working on these things before you rule masturbation as an issue

    • Yeah i know. I got a lot of fucking problems. But seriously, And, Im not saying this to be a creep or some shit, But, I'm not even fucking shitting you here, You are probably up there with some of the most beautiful people i have ever seen. I fucking swear to god. And, Dont give a shit about 'small boobs' or 'no ass', People dont give a shit about that man, You are fucking insanely beautiful!, Embrace that shit, You're gonna make some dude one of the luckiest fuckers on this planet.

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  • Stop overthinking it. Your being too harsh on yourself I guess and I think it is a shame to associate masturbation with such hard judgment on yourself since it is supposed to give you relief and pleasure.

    Associate it with positive stuff letting aside judgmental ideas you have and you will probably be able to enjoy much better it without forcing yourself to stop.

    Hope this helps

    • Thats all masturbation is though? Pretending to be with someone. Its just lying to your self and instilling false hope that one day someone may actualy like you.

    • Your statement sounds somehow pessimistic. You are young and still have time to see what is coming. I personally see masturbation as pleasing my body myself. Nothing more or less meaningful than that.

    • Because dating is pessimistic, If you're ugly like me, then this type of shit is impossible to actually have. And, we all know looks are everything, and beauty is not in the eye of the beholder and all that shit, If you're ugly you're ugly. When i do it, I feel like. Im pretending that someone likes me. And, That makes me feel shit, because i know they never will, if that makes sense.

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  • You're gonna give yourself blue balls. It's like taking a piss man, just relieve yourself.

  • You should change your outlook on it. It is not "pretending to be with girls". Even animals masturbate. Heck, human fetuses masturbate. It is solely just a method of relieving yourself. That's it.

    • I feel guilty though, Its like delluding myself into thinking i can do something i never will be able to do ya know?

  • There's nothing wrong with stopping medically. You just have to redirect that energy into other things, sports is a good example. Things that are physical, things that will wear you out. As for boners, just take them as a sign you need to pee. Thoughts, come up with a mantra of some sort, something simple you can repeat to yourself to redirect your thoughts when they start to wonder into areas that you don't want them to be. Yes it takes discipline but you aren't going to hurt yourself by stopping.

  • According to My experience It is good to stop as it increases stamina (stopping masturbation). What you could do is stay busy with your friends, whenever you feel urge start doing exercise.

    According to science you could masturbate 7 times a week. It decrease chance of prostate cancer, increase motility of Sperm, release stress on other.

  • Doesn't really do anything beside saving on tissues and making you a bit more irritable for a few months, before becoming a bit of a self-righteous tosser.

  • Dude, if you are saying this stuff, you obviously don't agree with yourself. If you really thought you're never going to get laid, you wouldn't mind masturbating, because that would be all you have, might as well get used to it.
    So stop overthinking it and wait until you get a job and a house to start dating.

  • It's Even More Healthy To Masturbate!
    Just Don't Replace It With Sex, Do Both!