Is my wife sleeping with my best friend?

My best friend came over to my place one night while my wife was here and I was at work. When I got home I noticed that the only light on was the bedroom light. When I came in I was talking to him and noticed that he had an erection which showed through his shorts. When I went into the bedroom there was a wet spot on her side of the bed which was more of a line then a spot with droplets on one end of it. She said it was hers from watching p*rn. He was supposedly in the living room. The thing is that one it didn't smell like here odors and also there was no record of her watching p*rn on the computer she said she watched it on ( I have a keylogger on that computer). She had gone to the trouble before I came home to make the bed (not normal) and febreeze that one spot. The smell broke through the febreeze. The spot also showed up under a black light. She also seemed like she had done a workout (also not normal) but she really wanted sex badly ( very much not normal). Before we could have sex though she was very persistent on talking a shower first. Right before we started to have sex I noticed that she was abnormally wet and that it seemed like she had really been loosened up a lot. I know that they had been doing a lot of texting recently and that those are the only messages that she is deleting before I can see them. She has cheated on me in the past and I just need to know if I am just being paranoid or if it really seems like she is cheating on me with him.
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Ok. I appreciate everyones input. I think it is pretty unanimous ( I think I spelled that right.). My main concern was that I was jumping to conclusions but it's good to know that I am not. Thanks everyone.
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  • The first thing that popped into my head is "once a cheater always a cheater."

    You walked in to find your best friend in the completely dark living with a supposedly random boner and also to find out that your wife supposedly magically found out a way around your keylogger (doubtful) and has a sudden interest in p*rn. Not to mention that they had obviously tried to clean and tidy everything up. Not to mention that they were obviously f*cking before you walked in the door.

    The fact that she's deleting his texts is shady as hell too, but it's obvious enough as it is. You didn't immediately react on it which is actually really impressive on your part, getting the information out there and stuff.

    My only concern is that this is only YOUR side of the story, and although I believe you 100% some of these reasons are pretty subjective. Your real proof would come from asking her what site/what kind of p*rn she was watching and then smack her in the face with the fact that you know she's lying. ESPECIALLY if she has to think about the answer.

    As for your no longer best friend... "what the f*** bro" - tell him I said that.

  • I think you already have a pretty good grasp on what was and is going on here friend. With that said, I'd find a new "best" friend. This guy doesn't seem like he's doin you any favors. Now, again, with that said, if you're living your life with keylogger's and blacklights to make sure she's not cheating on you again then please trust me when I tell you this...MOVE ON! it's not worth it. Believe me there are women out there even today that are faithful and don't cheat. Even if you and her are and have been involved with bringing someone else into your bedroom together there are lines in which lies are told and created to cover up truths. It's not paranoid if you're gut is telling you a conclusion from the evidence. Look chances are she's never going to admit screwing him...that's something you'll have to find out on your own...question is...is it really worth knowing? and...and...if you find out your 100% right what are you going to do about it? She's already cheated before and you stayed. Good luck

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  • I don't really agree with the whole principle of "once a cheater always a cheater" but the facts are facts and you're wife is cheating on you , once again.

    I think the person you must deal with first is your best friend and he needs to come clean about the whole thing because if you go directly to your wife she will deny deny deny and you will be even more confused about the situation because "if you care about some one ,you trust them no matter what" even though they did you wrong.

    • You're right that theprinciple isn't always correct, but it was the first thing that jumped in my mind after reading the question haha.

  • U say she felt looser? Then yes it is possible they had sex.. I think she did it doesn't add up

  • I agree with the group, she's deff cheating. Confront her and him about it.

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  • obviously cheating. you already knew that at the back of your head and just wanted people to confirm it. to divorce or to stay together? well it's entirely up to you how you wanna handle it.

  • Oh yeah... she's cheating. For sure. Multiple red flags. I'm surprised you even have to ask! You're in denial.

    • The main reason I ask is because I burned myself a few times jumping to conclusions on other issues.

    • oh no, she's cheating. 1) buddy home with your wife, alone 2) he was aroused 3) wet spots on bed 4) how likely is it she watched p*rn while your buddy chilled in the living room 5) she was aroused 6) she needed to take a shower first! To wash his jizz and the scent of him off her! omg MAJOR CLUE 7) she felt loose 8) history of cheating. Wow, 8! That's 8 nails in the coffin of your marriage. Divorce that bitch and disown your buddy. 2 of those would have been very bad looking.. but 8!

  • Umm... definitely sounds like she did! If she were just your girlfriend, I'd tell you to end it now, but since you're married... Well, up to you.

  • Dude it seems pretty obvious that she is cheating... I would have called that out right away. Your friend had a hard on and the room smelt like sex.

    Your friend isn't your friend. And your girl is a slam pig. Now why would you in the first place date a slam pig? They have only one use in this world. That is to be slammed like a piggy. They do not make good girl friends or house pets. They leave vagina stains everywhere.

    Now that you know of the slam piggery that is going on around you leave her to the mud.

    • hear, hear!

  • No man, you're not paranoid. It definitely sounds like she did something, and knowing her past it's most likely she went through with sleeping with him. You should really confront her about this, divorce her, and then kick your friend's ass.

  • Watching p*rn while some guy us hanging out in your living room...yeah, sure. Real likely.

  • id say she's cheating there are just to many abnormals in this situation

  • she cheated before so just leave her. we all know here that she is cheating again. it does not matter if you were wrong a few times about her cheating before

  • The whole situation is innapropriate. Confront her and I'm sure she's cheating anyway.

  • In my opinion she is cheating. There would be no need for any of that extra stuff if she had nothing to hide. Divorce her.