Is it normal for men to think about other men while masturbating?

This guy I really like, and we have great sex...and during sex he told me he has thought about me for a couple years and masturbates to me...which was interesting...so I asked what else he thinks about, and he told me he thought about other men sometimes...Now, I have thought about other girls (alot) while masturbating... even if I watch p*rn, I cannot stand to see a guy getting his unit sucked...but girl on girl is really hot to me... Maybe its because I have no idea what it feels like for him, but I do for the girls... Do you think he has gay tendicies? I except anonymous answers...lol...but please tell me if you have had these thoughts too...thanks
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  • I have read that's towards the creeping-around-peeking-over-walls-at-peepshows spectrum of p*rn addiction. Addicts will begin looking at whatever shocks the system the most when masturbation's lost its fun.

    The vast majority of men have had some homosexual experience, and I bet we've all thought about it, at least once, even if just to test ourselves. I've heard the Mormons used to put little sensor collars on boys' penises and make them watch gay p*rn, to see if they got into it, then packed them off to camp to get the gay out. The id will rebel however it can, and it's always a rush to indulge in the taboo, no matter how repulsive it is in daylight.

    IMO it's more a social taboo than any cause for concern. Most men just want to achieve orgasm as quick as they can, and if a risky activity that threatens their social image shocks things into motion, who cares? If you are really afraid your man is going gay, there's other reasons the relationship is feeling shaky.

    Instinctively, homosexuality threatens survival of the species, I think. Most of what we do is due in part to the urge to procreate. So being concerned with a man being gay is probably due to the fear that one day he'll just stay over at his jack-off buddy's house and never come home. If your relationship is solid, just write it off as a man who maybe watches too much p*rn.

    Susan Sontag wrote that men were into lesbian p*rn because it doubled the intensity of the acceptable form of sensuality we can enjoy watching. We're not really allowed to think of ourselves as sensuous. Woman sensual, man rock. Man sex machine. Woman sex object.

    Try steering the conversation towards something that gets you off more. If he gets into talking about tying you up, or being tied up, or if he wants to cover you in honey and pour milk on you, then he was just going through a phase where the novelty was getting him off. If he keeps going back to this penis fixation, you should probably encourage him to check out a gay bar, and see if that's more his thing.

  • Not so unusual, from my experience...Studies show that ALL of us, have some kinds of thoughts/fantasies/ visions that, on the face of it, appear to smack of homosexuality. A girlfriend in my early 20s thought that some kind of man on man sex (involving me) was the hotest thing since sliced bread.. it drove her crazy ...and to orgasm. Men like to see women having sex, (cunnilingus) ...and I have/had fantisies about this same girl having sex with another woman...

    My opinion only, based on experience, we all have fantasies, in the "heat of the moment" just because we are having sex, masturbating, etc. that may NEVER play out in real life experiences. My personal experience envolving other men, usually involve some kind of three-way-sex with a partner that I have, but the idea of having oral sex with a man or jacking him off

    are just not part of my sexual appetite, and I don't think you should read too much into that.

    For your information only, I think he is a brave guy to make that admission to you, and hope you won't share it with other friends. Everyone's sexuality is very individual, and, even by your own admission, you have fantisized about 'girl-on-girl...and I don't think that should be looked down on in any way whatsoever...All part of our sexuality that makes us what we are..

    Just enjoy what you have, and are...I do.

    Regards,

    Bruce

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  • I'm a girl married and I think about girls and guys when masturbating...i have played with my husbands entries and he's liked it as well. I think he probably likes the sensation the thrill of the thought but as far as picking a partner as he grew into his sexuality it was women and he has not been interested to have a relation with a guy lol

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  • Noo because if he is thinking about another man that means that he really gay

  • Yes, it is normal... I mean, you do realize that bisexuality and homosexuality are normal, right?

    While it is true that at one point it was considered abnormal or a disorder, organizations like APA and WHO no longer consider that to be the case.

    So yeah, even if he thinks of guys or you think or girls, it's normal.

    • Good observation and comment

  • Maybe he's bi,

    it's no different to you fantasising about girls

    I think about it a bit, but girls more

  • Gay sex fantasies are very common in all men, including heterosexual men.

    www.businessinsider.com/normal-male-sexual-fantasies-2014-11

  • Well I don't think about other guys when I masturbate. I think about girls. I never have thought about it, but sometimes it is normal for people to think about the same sex when doing things. I know some guys that have thought this way, and they're married.

  • I don't like guys :S

    maybe he's Bi or maybe he idolizes the male p*rnstars and learns jerking from em lol

  • Yes, we all think about other men from time to time.

    It is usually a way to freak ourselves out and make us come quicker. Most of the taboo stuff is that way. We also think about our mothers, nuns, the 14 year old down the street...

    It's not very common for men to talk about it, to each other. But we'll tell a girl, sometimes to get her to tell us arousing stories of the women she thinks about.

  • Never, I only fantasize about women because guys are unappealing to me sexually. I'm a female lover, their face, lips, hair, breast, body, waist, legs, colored finger and toe nails, and their moans. There's nothing like a pretty, sexy girl that has gotten her hair done that is taking off her clothes getting ready for action, what a turn on. I'm completely heterosexual and there is no other option to me, women only goes through my mind.

  • Well your being to judgmental why is it OK for you to like girl on girl but not him to like guy on guy? Its most likely just a fantasy just like you thinking of girl on girl but not actually engaging in the acts. Get it? Its like me thinking of killing someone but not actually doing it.

  • When we were watching p*rn together, my partner told me that she was turned on by big-breasted women! I wouldn't let this bother me... (as long as she doesn't go in for another woman over me... and she hasn't!)

    I guess we're not all 100% straight. Guys' naked bodies don't turn me on (unless they're having pleasurable sex with some good looking women). But I wouldn't bother if I was a woman and my partner had a slight preference in this direction.