Is it normal that my boyfriend likes me to f*** him with a strap-on?

My boyfriend has always liked anal play... I on the on the other hand do not like anal sex performed on me. Yesterday we were hooking up and he wanted me to f*** him in the ass with a strap-on... Is this normal? He says he likes the fact that I'm in charge so maybe its more of a mental thing... but I know it does feel good to him. Does this mean he's gay?
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Most Helpful Girls

  • Just because a guy likes anal play DOES NOT MEAN HE IS GAY! It's so annoying when people always assume that. As far as it being "normal", I don't know. But to me, there is no "normal" when it comes to sex and sexual acts. Everyone likes different things. But a lot of guys (whether they'll admit it or not) think anal stimulation feels good. And that's due to the prostate. It feels very good to guys to have their prostate stimulated. It's kind of like the G- spot for guys.

    Now, if you are not into the idea of anal play, just tell him that. Personally, I would not want to f*** my guy with a strap on. However, my guy does like a little bit of anal stimulation which I'm fine with. Maybe you and your boyfriend can find some sort of middle ground for this. Strap on's are a little extreme for some women. But maybe you could do something else to stimulate him there. Just talk about it and see what else he might enjoy.

    • Excellent answer. +1

    • You can stimulate the prostate with a finger (and it does feel good). You don't need an 8-inch imitation COCK shoved up there to reach it. A guy who wants to be f***ed in the ass is thinking about more than his prostate. He wants a fat **** spreading his ass open. That's quite different.

    • @beinghelpful: I just rub my guy with my finger like you said. But like I also mentioned, every guy is different. Just because YOU feel that way doesn't mean her boyfriend does.

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  • I use a strap on for my boyfriend quite regularly. It started with butt play, then fingering, and eventually a strap on was joked about but I knew it still had serious hints in it. I personally have IBS and cannot handle anything up there (haha). We've been together over 3 years on and off, and if he wanted a man he's had every chance to experiment. Males have G-spots and can have intense orgasms (as I do through my clit.) we both enjoy it very much as do we enjoy good 'ol regular sex. It's all up to comfort level, and what people enjoy. Everyone's different with sexual desires, but it doesn't mean they're gay, lesbian, or bi.

  • Well there is a g spot in a mans prostate, so it does feel good physically. On a mental level? I'm quite sure he's at least bicurious since he requested for a simulated dick, not being fisted but a fake dick in him. I have messed with guys that do enjoy their ass played with but not to the point of a dildo. good luck and have fun cuz he sounds kinky. he's prolly gonna ask to try a threesome.

Most Helpful Guys

  • Well I personally would feel completely uncomfortable with a girl using a strap on me! Whether guys will admit it or not, this is pretty much very similar being given anal by a girl except his excuse is that it's a girl. I'm not saying he is 100% gay, he may for some reason be completely straight, but it could be that he is afraid to go with a man therefore asking a woman to do this.

  • Most guys aren't into it, some are.

    I wouldn't say its gay, but its submissive.

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  • It does not mean he is gay at all. The male g-spot is in the anus and when stimulated can cause a very intense orgasm. If he is secure with his sexuality and wants you to do it, go for it.

  • It doesn't mean he's gay, but he might be.

    Most guys would NOT allow a girl to f*** their ass. It's definitely out of the ordinary. Does he help you shop for shoes? Does he borrow your make-up?

    Look for signs, girl...

  • The male "G" spot is found through the ass. It probably sets him off. It's a good thing but no, it doesn't make him gay

  • No its just his thing

  • sounds pretty damn gay to me.

  • Nothing wrong with it, je is not gay. Give it a shot you may enjoy doing it

  • I have always wanted to have a strap on used on me. I've never tried it though. Super embarrassing to ask for that

  • Not gay, kinky as hell, but not gay at all.

    Did you give it to him with the strapon?

    • Did you give it a try yet?

  • it doesn't mean he's gay at all. I'd be OK with that if my boyfriend was into it. I play with his bum all the time, just not with a strap on. I definitely would not be against it. Enjoy it!

  • It's called pegging. It's not an indication that he's gay.

  • I'd so do that. lol. but um I don't know. Would have to ask him. I may not because it would stimulate his prostate or he might just be into that. if you two don't have a problem with it then it does not matter

  • it does not mean he's gay. Anal play for males stimulates the prostate resulting in super intense orgasms.

  • well, if this is the only "gay"thing he does than I doubt he is gay. It's something he likes.