Is oral sex common and expected when dating?

[Anonymous]

Would a woman be considered weird if she has never done this and doesn't want to? Guys would you continue to date someone who refused to give (or get) oral sex?

[ActionFigure23]

Oral sex. at your age, is EXPECTED. and if your with a man, and your telling him, you're NOT gonna do something in that bedroom. your opening the door for him to fullfill a need he's not getting from you. if you want do it to your man, guess what, someone else will, and he's already got her phone number. and when dating no. id say don't do it. you guys need to be practicing safe sex, and you need to get tested before you start touching each other intimately without protection. I say that assuming ur not gonna taste a condom. you can get all those nasty diseases from oral too !! oral sex is very common today. its much more common, and women are much more open about it than times past. so generally most girls.... 7 of 10 id say are doing it by the 2nd or 3rd time theyve had sex with a guy, if they didn't do it the first time. but its awesome. and at ur age, you should know this already that its something guys (most guys) NEED, not just something we want. its empowering to our ego's that our woman will do some of those freaky things just for us. we think " wow I'm mr sex machine, look what she's doing to me because I'm awesome.... my dirty girl "

action figures personal response : I'm not staying with a girl whose not gonna do that, and a whole lot more in bed. because eventually textbook stuff is going to get boring, and I'm gonna want something crazy to keep me on my toes.

[Acuzio]

At your age, it's probably expected in a relationship. Not everyone will expect it, but some will--to them, sexual expression is an important part of a healthy relationship. If you don't feel the same way, then that's not the person for you.

Just know that you're never obligated to do anything in a relationship. Everything is your choice. Some things will turn people on, some will turn them off, but you need not sacrifice your beliefs to satisfy someone else's idea of what a relationship means.

[ladysooodivine]

Personally, I would never offer oral sex unless I fully know the guy (as in we are already in a relationship). I came upon this decision based from a friend of a friend's bad experience regarding oral sex with someone she dated.

so in my opinion, women shouldn't be considered "weird" because they don't want to offer oral sex. if the guy doesn't seem to grasp the idea of "getting to know each other on dates" then you' re better off looking for someone else.

[SweetestSinxxx]

Oral sex is a huge part of dating. Its fun to do and guys pretty much expect it. It's just really common now a days, most people don't even think of it as sex anymore. Some people think its just a normal way to end a date. So yeah, if you're not doing it it's kinda off. A guy will just find someone who does.

[That-Guy]

If a guy refused to date you because you refused to give him oral sex, then he wasn't worth the time anyways.

When I first begin to date my ex-girlfriend, she would refuse to give oral sex. After we moved onto a relationship, we worked things out in the bedroom to where we both were satisfied.

So no, it's not weird at all... one you find someone you're comfortable with. It'll all work out.

[johnsmith2116]

Not weird, but maybe frigid . Not very popular, unless the boyfriend is very undemanding .

I like to ask about what she likes, on the first or 2nd date, so that I know . That way, the girl and I won't be wasting each others' time .

I wouldn't want a woman who doesn't like to give and receive oral .

[Wonderer-Dude]

yeah that's really a turn off a girl that doesn't participate in multi partner oral sex? guess its just not for me

[professor]

No it is not expected.

[danielle]

Well if you don't wanna do it then don't. Its not that bad but a lot of guys only want it so if they won't date you because you won't slob on something then do you really wanna be with him anyways.