Is oral sex losing my virginity?

Question

By boyfriend and I might do it but I won't if I lose my virginity.

Ra-Horakhty · Accepted Answer

You're not a virgin if you ever had sex. Now what's "sex"? The question for that is cultural. So the concept of virginity depends on the constant movement of the social values. Those who are saying you only lose your virginity with a penis in the vagine are well-intended ignorants. Maybe it was in the 50s. But society and it's values are dinamic.

So a lesbian never loses her virginity? Of course she does. We are already putting heteronormativism behind.

But to give you a more straight answer. In 2016, most people in your social circle would NOT consider it losing the virginity. But this answer is not an atemporal or absolute one.

Mesonfielde · Accepted Answer

In a heterosexual relationship, I count penis -> vagina to be the mark for that, as that's the "final" scenario of sexual behavior.

Virginity itself is just a false concept though designed to shame people into abstinence, so technically you aren't actually losing anything.

BeautifulWreck · Accepted Answer

I am completely confused why someone would think they lost their virginity if there is no vaginal penetration. I am truly curious what they are teaching kids these days in the sex ed classes that they are now forcing 8 year olds to take. NO you will NOT lose your virginity by oral sex. The only way you lose your virginity is if his penis goes into your vagina.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I don't think you would be a "pure virgin" in the traditional sense. True virgins don't engage in any types of sexual acts and stuff like anal and oral are just "loopholes". If you don't care enough about your virginity, to the point of wanting oral sex, then you might as well just go all the way with penetrative sex too. Instead of looking for loopholes.

lost_soul · Accepted Answer

It depends on what you define as losing your virginity. For me, losing my virginity was penetrative sex. Although I didn't receive oral sex for the first time until I did also have penetrative sex. And my advice for when you do lose your virginity is to do it when you feel completely comfortable and at ease doing so :)

Guysvsgirls · Accepted Answer

If you want to go with the primary definition of "virgin", then yes you would still be considered a virgin. However the secondary definition is "someone who lacks knowledge in a specific field". So in that respect, the more experience you have with this type of sex, the less of a "virgin" you are.

Cmasterson · Answer

Well the actual act of sex.. no you're having oral sex, I would classify virginity as penetration with a penis in the vagina. However a lot of people have different ways of viewing it

FlutteringFeelings · Answer

No, when the wee wee goes inside the pee pee and the cherry pops or when the wee goes in the pee pee then you lost it.

justbanANNAz · Answer

i don't believe so, because it isn't penetrative, but i mean ur still doing that kind of thing under 18, which isn't much better.

Mishae · Answer

The definition of virginity has to do with the breaking of the hymen inside the vagina and done by a penis. All other definitions are artificial. Oral sex is not considered a breaking of "virginity." It is however going a long way!

Darkbrunette96 · Answer

Kinda, maybe mouth virginity? JK ;) only penetration is sex. Oral sex is sex but some people have different thoughts on what is sex and what is? Do you undertsand? :)

hazoplmeught · Answer

yes. If you want to have sex why not.

BertMacklinFBI · Answer

if that is what you make of it.

MissNowhere · Answer

No. Penis in vagina is when you'll lose your virginity.

Radford · Answer

Losing your virginity involves penetration just fuck the guy if you want to

RaggaMon · Answer

No, losing virginity is PIV.

the_rake · Answer

Nah it's not BUT if you want to retain your purity / virtue then you can't do oral then be like, "oh, but I didn't go all the way, just half" because if you're looking for a virgin husband he will probably be looking for someone that's PURE.

Katy16 · Answer

I consider losing your virginity when you have intercourse

front2back · Answer

It is not real sex, so no. However, you ARE having sex doing it. Oral sex, anal sex, and vaginal sex are all sex. All count as hving sex.

Lendino · Answer

Who cares how the society sees it? What do you think? If yes. Then yes. If no. Then no. Let the judgers judge, no harm done.

NYkid27 · Answer

It depends on what your beliefs are. Virginity means different things to different people

KatherineJ · Answer

Not in my opinion, it isn't.

Desiree94 · Answer

Although by dictionary definition no, you won't lose your virginity from it, it also depends on you and your own concept of what your virginity is. Either way, it is definitely a milestone and a big step so make sure that you both are ready first, and enjoy yourselves!

Kenzie_potato165 · Answer

No is penis in vagina to make u not a virgin

LucyS514 · Answer

When most people describe a virgin, they mean that person has been penetrated. So technically, no. But yes, you are still having sex if you have oral sex.

supernerd99 · Answer

losing your virginity involves pnetration with a penis.

Matchmaker7072 · Answer

Depends what you make of it. Traditionally he needs to penetrate your vagina. I personally don't consider 3rd base a home run and it doesn't add to my " count"