Is it possible that my girlfriend has NEVER masturbated?

Sorry two guestions in one night...i guess I'm horny and this is my only outlet lol. OK so my girlfriend claims she has never and will never masturbate. I know it is POSSIBLE but how likely is it? She is 25 If you think she has, how do I convince her that it is OK to do it with me in the room? I want to join her pleasure. She LOVES when I use my fingers on her. A couple times she has moved her hand on mine while I'm rubbing her but when I "let" her touch herself she pulls away. Thanks girls
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  • Sorry dude, but I don't think it's very likely that she'll change her mind... I only started masturbating when I was 17, and I'm 18 now... I don't usually get much pleasure from it so there's no REAL point doing it in front of my boyfriend, because I hardly know what I'm doing myself, you know? (But I still try when I'm alone) Besides, anything that I could do, feels WAY better when he does it just because it's HIM doing it, lol.

    My boyfriend recently bought me a vibrator, and I've started to use that on my own... Once I'm sure how I like to use it, I can SHOW him, but till then, when we're together HE can use it on me, and I'll just use it on myself when I'm ALONE... I hope that made sense XD

    But yea, I only started masturbating because most of my friends are guys, and the two girl friends I have are into p0rn and masturbating themselves, so I was surrounded by people who thought it was OK and normal for all genders to masturbate and actually expected me to do it because they saw it as normal... So I started wacthing pr0n and started to like it, and started masturbating. Now it's something I do frequently.

    So yea, that's how I got into it, I don't know if that helps in your situation, but I certainly hope it does at least a little ^-^ And good luck, too :D

  • i am 20. I have tried masturbating alone but I don't get off on it and I hardly ever do it. my boyfriend has also tried to get me to do it while he watches but I can tell you that is one of the most daunting thing for some girls including myself and I get far to nervous and self conscious about it to do it. I would say your girl is being genuine about how she feels. all girls are different and some of us don't feel comfortable with masturbation. and I am exactly the same - I don't get the same feelings if its his fingers on me, but I only have to try my own and it all goes downhill from there. I think there is something of feeling guilty and like its wrong, also the fact that I can't orgasm from masturbation, and trust me, 'performing' in front of someone else is as scary as hell. the girls that are fine with it don't understand why we have problems with it. but I can really REALLY empathise with your girlfriend. all I can say is be patient, take baby steps, try not to ask it of her but encourge her. me and my boyfriend are still working through my issues and he has the patient of a saint! I'm still too nervous to do a lot of stuff though. it seems to just be embedded in my personality.

  • I like to hold my man's hand while he's fingering me it does tend to give me a little more control on how fast or hard he goes but it is ALWAYS better when he is the one doing it verses when I am doing it by myself...is it possible that she hasn't of course it is masturbation is just not as big a deal for some girls as it is others and we ARE taught that its wrong it sometimes even seems like there is more stigma to masturbating than there is sex before marriage. maybe the best way to get her to be more open to doing it with you in the room is to watch yourself playing with her while holding your hand then tell her how much you like seeing her hands there and hearing her moans while you know in the back of your mind that she is just as responsible for it feeling good as you are then after a while ask her to keep going with out you when she gets nervous or stops put her hand back (or toy if that's what your using) and tell her to keep going tell her how much you like to see it how beautiful she is while you watch. I'm sure it will take some time but the day will come that she will do it for you without being so shy about it.

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  • Trust me, if this is something due to religion, it will not change. I am in the same boat as you. But reading other coments on your post, it also educated me that it is not always pleasurable for girls. P*rn lies a lot and it is sometimes healthy to stay away from it.

  • Yes I think she's telling the truth. She just feels guilty about it all, especially because in the media(well mostly) it portrays that women should be clean and pure.

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  • I never have. It can be much less stimulating to masturbate for yourself. The closeness with the person is what makes it so erotic.

  • First off let me ask and I know it sound silly, but is she Catholic? The catholic religion teaches it's wrong to masturbate. Is it possible she never has YES because of previous teachings, or perhaps she's got it in her mind it's wrong. I use to think that way, but for some reason, my partners work hours. I ended up on this website called healthy and active, its a sight with a lot of toys. Try getting one for her for Valentine's day, and you both play with it, maybe what she needs.

  • That seems odd to be she would be so uncomfortable pleasuring herself even with your help. Maybe she is unconsciously wanting to punish herself because in our society that kind of thing is bad. I mean I once heard a guy say to my brother that if he "jacks off" he will go blind from it because God doesn't approve. I doubt that. lol. I would ask her why she doesn't want to. I like pleasing myself while my husband watches. I have even tied him up so all he could do is watch. I would just talk to her about it but don't be defensive and don't let her see that it bothers you one way or the other just be in different about it and I think she might give you an honest answer.

    • LOL @ the going blind thing. If that was true I'da been blind at 16.

  • Girl's missing out!

    • deffinatly I agree

  • it is possible that she doesn't masturbate. It is a big red flag that she is unlikely to be a good sexual partner for you in the long run. I would politely and quickly terminate the relationship as soon as possible. In the long run, you'll pay for that little quirk

  • How about you masturbate while she watches.

  • I'll bet she's lying. Maybe she doesn't like it but EVERYONE over the age of 18 (male or female) has done it at least once.

  • Its her body. Let her live her life the way that she wants to.

    • True, but there's also no harm in trying to **gently** encourage her :) Who knows, she might even find she likes it? As long as there's no pressure...

    • I can see your point...but it sounds like he's trying to pressure her to do it for his own pleasure..and that's really not cool

    • Woah, not being defensive but where did you read that I was pressuring her? No pressure here.

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  • Most girls masturbate but are ashamed to admit it.

    • I'm not ashamed to admit I masturbate. although it does make me feel guilty afterward sometimes.

  • She probably feels uncomfortable I know I used to do the same thing with my ex and he wanted me to play with my self but I just could never to it...it just doesn't get you off compared to the guy doing it.

  • Tell her its normal. Tell her that girls 15 and maybe younger have done it.

  • I don't know chicken noodle soup

  • Sometimes its hard for a girl to do it in front of a guy. It takes a lot of comfort. After all, its so intimate and she needs your approval on it. You need to talk to her.

    You mean never masturbated in front of her bf? By the age of 25 she HAS masturbated, but she does not feel comfortable telling you this.

  • I dont. I've tried a couple times but don't get off.

  • yeah... I've never masturbated and I'm 18 years old.So yes it is a possibility she is telling you the truth.